A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I have been in a relationship with someone for about a year now and there was a time recently when we broke up for about a month or so. In that time the both of us got involved sexually with other people, but have said that it was nothing serious. Now we are trying to rebuild our relationship and I can not tell if he is serious about the relationship. He has many female friends, which is fine, but they are always calling and one is an ex from about four years ago that he almost married and the other is someone that he hooked up with while we were seperated. He says the only reason he talks to any of these girls that aren't close friends is to be a support line to them. I feel bad asking him not to be there for someone, but it feels like there more to the story that he's not telling me. I have no idea what to do or say to him because anytime I say something it just comes back to him saying there's nothing going on.
View related questions:
broke up Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, phatstuf6  +, writes (6 December 2008):
Speaking from a males perspective, guys often talk to their ex's because they don't know how to successfully end things. Also, they always want to know that they have women waiting on the side for them. This could mean that he doesn't think that your relationship will be longterm and that he is afraid of getting hurt and being lonely. Guys very often will hook up with their ex's. Seeing how he is going back to you, it seems he has a tendency of keeping his ex's around. The same thing could happen with the other women. I would be very careful and suspicious of ex's, they very often destroy relationships.
If he really cares about you, he shouldn't need to rely on his ex-girlfriends for security purposes. If you're suspicious, you are probably correct in your assumptions.
|
