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writes:My wife and I recently had a baby. We still both want to have sex but hardly ever do because she is self conscious about initiating sex ever since the birth and I've never really known how, since it has usually been females who started in the past and not me because I'm shy. Can anyone give me some advice on how to kick things off?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2007): Aha! Thats the problem! she doesnt feel comfident enough becouse of her weight! Do it when you have more time, which doesnt mean not to arouse her rest of the time. Secondly if she is not comfident about looks do it while she has clothes on... can be actually very sexy ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice. I'll try it this weekend when I see her. I've already talked to her and asked her for tips on what she would like me to do but she didn't know, so your advice will be very helpful. She says she doesn't want to initiate it anymore since she doesn't feel as sexy as she did before the baby, because she hasn't lost most of the weight yet, even though I tell her she's at least as sexy as before.
Again thanks for the tips, and lisa21 good luck with the labor when you have the baby.
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reader, Collaroy  + ♥, writes (17 October 2007):
 You found a girl who's willing to initiate sex all the time?
Buddy, you got a free run, its time to step up to the plate .
Gently massage her shoulders , give her a warm cuddle and stroke her arms,ears and hair. Tell her how much she turns you on, The rest should follow.
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reader, Lila +, writes (17 October 2007):
 Maybe you could offer a "this doesn't have to go anywhere" massage. Get her relaxed and comfortable and when she is nice and relaxed in the shoulders move on to more sensitive areas. Also make sure on a day to day basis let her know how hot you think she is.
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reader, lisa21  +, writes (17 October 2007):
i am nine months and 3 days pregnant so i have not had my baby yet, but why don't you try a romantic meal followed by a warm bath together massages, lots of kissing and cuddling? i'm sure your wife would click onto that. it sounds really soppy i know but thats what i'd like done for me but my fiance wouldn't do that he'd just be crude.
congrats on the baby, good luck x x x
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