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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I'm worried about some behaviours I have started to develop and want to ask advice.I've been in a happy relationship for 6 years with a kind and successful man. We moved away from our home last year for his work and I gave up my job to move. I've found myself feeling bored, broke (no income at the moment except for the weekly shop), restless and lonely since we moved. I started going online to meet people to talk to and to have some company during the day. However I've found myself feeling romantically attached to (if I'm honest) more than one of the men I've been chatting with. I feel like a narcissist, but being told I'm beautiful and having attention lavished on me is hard to resist and I've been going online more and more. It feels like a dirty secret I'm hiding but I don't know how to break the habit. I know it has gone too far, as one of the relationships has become quite sexually charged, and it went much further than I ever should have allowed it to.I know what I've been doing is wrong and I know I'm only doing it out of boredom and narcissistic personality traits, but I think I just need a virtual shake from someone to make me delete the account and live in reality again. But if anyone has ever felt like this before I'd like to know from them how they reconciled the situation. I don't want this feeling to be a reflection of my relationship in the real world. Part of me worries that because we've been together since I was 19 that I've missed out, but I think I just need to be reminded that isn't true. All advice gratefully received. Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (25 April 2016):
 You feel like it is a dirty little secret because that is exactly what it is, if your boyfriend was talking to other women the way that you are I am not sure you would be so forgiven. Okay so you have been in a relationship since you where 19, that does not mean you missed out on anything. If you have that idea in your head well then ask what it is you have missed out on, and why can't your boyfriend fill that void?
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reader, Denizen +, writes (23 April 2016):
 The answer lies in getting out of your boring existance. You have filled the vacuum with flim flam of the internet. Stop it now and find something real to do. If you have to spend time online do it to good purpose. Better still get out of the house and do something. Join a club or society; learn a new skill; take up a new pursuit (something active would be good) give help to a charity; work at the local food bank; take a bus to the nearest gallery. Feed your soul and not your vanity. Just stay away from the internet. Those people don't love you - seriously, they don't.
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