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I moved to be with my son and his family. They want me to leave, I'm miserable and don't have the money to leave

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Question - (27 January 2018) 4 Answers - (Newest, 28 January 2018)
A female United States age , anonymous writes:

For years my son has been asking me to move to the state where he resides with his second wife her 4 children one which they share the other 3 has different fathers. One is handicapped severely. I had gone bankrupt and was a hair being evicted so I came. I told him that I don't have anything he said it ok. When I first arrived I noticed she would walk out the door and just leave them with me sometimes she is with my son so he is aware of this being I had to wait for my interviews I became concern being she just felt to leave them. So I told them at least leave the car seat. I have found out that my son calls her mother "Ma", because they lived with her mother for several years and she brought his son from prior marriage clothes. The daughter in law baby daddies were drug dealers and she did some time for one of them. The problem is Her and her daughter never wanted me to be here from day one and have been making me know that. I have really tried to be to myself and stay in the room when I am there but they still run to my son. The mother once smashed a cupcake in my granddaughter's face while once again only her family members were at the party whereas I had to feed the children outside where it was pretty chilly being all the grown-up were inside. My question is now my son is furious with me and told me to get out because I am being rude to his family because his wife knew she allowed her teenaged daughter to do anything she wanted and I intervene when she had her boyfriend in the room and I had been telling her that her the things her daughter does and when the crap hit the fan she fronts in front of my son and said I should have come to her and yells at me curse words telling me to get out I yelled back that she knew of her daughter behavior and I told her numberous times and she yelled for me to get out. I recently just started a new job and I have no money to move. I am dishearted as to the way my son treats me and they are not here to guide their deceitful children so I have been helping them with their lessons guiding them as best as I can. I want to leave so bad but I am in a new state and I have no money saved. I have been here a year. The cost of living is a little high and I have been out of work for about 6 months off and on. What can I do?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2018):

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Thank you so much, Billy Bathgate. Your information is very helpful.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2018):

Its best you find yourself a roomate and move out asap.

Best for you and best for them.

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A male reader, Billy Bathgate United States +, writes (28 January 2018):

Call your local YWCA and tell them your situation. The YWCA is in the business of helping women. They may be able to find you cheap temporary housing or put you in contact with agencies that can help.

You need to get the heck away from these people.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (28 January 2018):

Honeypie agony auntSince you have recently started a new job you have an income, so I would suggest you look for a room-mate situation if you can not afford a 1 bedroom apartment.

It was a DUMB idea to move in with them if your DIL didn't want you there.

And while I absolutely get that you didn't want the teenage daughter to do "bad" things in her room it IS her mom's responsibility to RAISE that girl, not you. If her mom was OK with whatever she was doing it was really none of your business. IMHO

The sooner you can find a place, the better I think.

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