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writes:I have offered my man a break as to be honest he was in a bad place with work and housing problems. The problems... met him on a dating 5 months ago and we were getting on fine. Used to text him to check he is alright but it is doing my head in as I'm worried that he is ok and don't want to contact him because he wants space, when do you think would be a good time to check he is ok so he knows I'm still worried about him. Don't want him to think I'm not respecting his request for a bit of time without me texting/calling him. What should I do and how long should I wait.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (8 February 2010):
 5 months, and already he needs a break, and has requested that you don't call him or text him. Dosen't sound very good. If the relationship was longer, then yes, the request would be reasonable, but at this rate, you'll spend more time apart than together. You hardly know each other, it's been so short a time, how are you supposed to grow closer, how is this relationship supposed to progress.
Anyway, I don't think that calling every week is wrong. It's just a call. But maybe once a month is more suitable if he's in a bad situation. I don't know, after 5 months a guy wants space!!!!!! Why can't I call him, what would a call hurt, a call doesn't cost a lot of time or emotional involvement. Sorry to bring doubts, but are you sure it's not his polite way of letting you down and trying to get out of this relationship.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (8 February 2010):
I would suggest texting him once a week to see how it's going, then gently make it twice a week and so on. He should be clear about where he is in a few months, and if he's not then it's time to move on.
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