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writes:Well it all started two years ago and it still hurts. i need advice on how to get over it or cope with it. I moved away from my family over two years ago and I left everything and once in a while I just miss them so bad. I just dont know what to do. Now I am married and with two kids. Yes I love where I live and how my life is but all I see is my husband family and I just get so depressed sometimes because I dont have my family to confide in or to have them support me and I just dont know what to do. Its just that I miss them so much and I need some help. Did anyone else go through this and how did you feel. I just need some help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2008): A lot of people decide to break off all contact with their parental families. Most people feel sad about it because it would have been better to have a good relationship. But sometimes that is just not possible and the pain and damage caused by constantly trying and being abused is spoiling their lives, so they choose happiness (with some regret) instead. Do you miss the reality of your parental family or is it the ideal that you are longing for? You will see, if you search this site, that there are lots of people in your situation, so you are not alone. And you can read the different solutions that people have found. If you do get in touch with your family again, set yourself some ground rules, especially how to deal with any abuse. You walked away once so you can do it again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2008): You haven't detailed why you moved away from your family, so it makes it a bit difficult to offer advice.
Why not just give your family a phone call? Or send an e-mail, or even just post them a letter? (If for some reason you don't want them to know where you presently live, you could hire a post office box in another town with a redirect to a po box near to where you are.)
I would suggest that you at least talk your feelings over with your husband.
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reader, ive been ther girl  +, writes (31 January 2008):
most people who move away from there parents settle in and dont miss them as much anymore but some people need family around them its how they find themselves and their confidence to be who they are.
I really think that maybe moving closer to your family may be a better idea that way you could stil be independant as in living on your own but then you would be closer to your family for that extra bit of support
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reader, bee12  +, writes (31 January 2008):
Can you not go visit them? are they that far away, can you not call them? Family is so important, you should get in touch with them again, I know you see your husbands family but blood is thicker than water, you need your family too!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2008): I'm so sorry to hear that. Family is very important. You obviously must feel so if this hurts so much. I'm sure your family misses you and probably feel deprived that they aren't included in your new family. Why did you have to move away? Did you leave on good terms. Regardless I know that phone calls seems cheap but it's a great way to start. It's amazing how close you can feel through telephone correspondence. Try to make scheduled visits to see your family. Also try to stay close to your husbands family if you like them. Since they are family too, it's worth a try. Hang in there.
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