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*jhoman
writes:On the last day of high school in may of 05, some random girl i didnt know came up to me and told me her friend liked me. That night i got to meet the girl in person - and boy was i scared. Since then we have been together until the 23rd of September. The first 9 months were awesome. Then my priorities got screwed up and she was put last. She kept coming to me and pouring her heart out to me and i did nothing. She would cry her eyes out for days because i wouldnt call her. I was screwed up. We broke up numerous times, then i would beg her back and still screw it up. Recently i matured and realized that she needs more, and she is barely hanging on. We wanted to grow old together. About 3 weeks ago we finally decided once again to make things right. I stepped up and was the man i never was. We went to the movies, out to eat, to the haunted house, she would come over and we would cuddle and sleep. We even talked about what we were gonna name our kids.Last tuesday, the 23rd, she took me to dinner and then we went to go kill some time at a halloween shop, Then she took me home and then her feelings came out in a conversation. She told me she lost her feelings for me and she tried getting them back but she just couldnt. I crashed. Since then, i have done nothing but cry and cry and cry over this girl. She is my baby and i care for her so much. People told me to leave her alone and let her miss me, but i wanted to win her back before some guy came and took my spot. I went to her house the next day and she closed all her windows and would not talk to me. I sent emails, she ignored me. She even changed her number. Yesterday i bought her a fish and card and left it on her doorstep. She messaged me today and told me that was sweet, but i need to really leave her alone and not do anything no more. What can i do to win her back? I miss my baby with all my heart. I shaped up and changed for her and everything. Please does anyone know how i can win her back?
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reader, Miami Ad-Vice  +, writes (5 October 2008):
I was touched by what you said and it obvious that love has changed you but your ex-girlfriend may think you've changed too late. Write her a letter expressing how you are sorry, that you understand where you went wrong and how you are willing to prove yourself. Give her space and once she reads your letter she will decide whether or not to give you another chance.
In time you will move on, don't let this make you bitter. Judging by your letter and your honesty you sound like a sensitive, sweet guy who knows he did wrong. Just admitting you cried over her is something most guys would never do and never admit.
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reader, Kjhoman +, writes (1 October 2008):
Kjhoman is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell she has not stopped full communication. She still talks to my mom and sister. I mean if she was fully done with me, wouldnt you think she would not talk to anyone of my side?
She just keeps saying she wants me to be happy. But im happy with her
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (1 October 2008):
 Sorry for your loss. Maybe just send her one last email saying, "Okay, if you want me to leave you alone, I will, but I will miss you." After that just try to move on. Your problem makes me want to cry, seriously.
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