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writes:Basically i have been with my partner for 11 months and we are only young, but i really do love him. Recently i cant help but feeling that the relationship is dry, and i always think about how we used to be, compared to now, it really gets me down. I miss what we used to be like and i miss feeling wanted and i miss all the little things he used to do for me, but now i feel like its all just routine and boring. We used to stay up until about 5 in the morning when i stayed round, it was exciting and we could talk for hours about everything, we could sit there without tv etc, but now he falls asleep at half 10 ish, but i stay awake, i just want to spend time with him like we used to, but he just doesnt seem to get me, but every time i try to tell him it goes over his head. I always have to get angry for him to listen, i always cause arguements even over the slightest thing and im not even sure why i do it anyway, i have a feeling its because the relationship is so plain i have to cause something for the relationship to kinda be good again? I'm really not sure :( but i dont enjoy starting arguements and getting annoyed about everything. I'm really fed up and i need help so badly, i always just think i need to end it but i can never do it, i cant imagine my life without him so i'm stuck. Please help!! Reply to this Question
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reader, cheers  +, writes (12 August 2011):
 What's his hobbies or his interest? You can start frm there.It definitely DRAW his ATTENTION back. At same time, You whispers...YOU LOVE HIM
Pls don't argue over small matter.Now It's the Time of your EFFORT to get HIM back. Good luck!
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reader, iceberg +, writes (12 August 2011):
 give him space and respect what he wants to do some time he might not always want to do the same things all the time.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (12 August 2011):
 It's the routine and boring things that keep the connection alive. I don't think anyone could function if they stay up until 5 for years. What are your biggest fears? Face them. If the relationship is plain and dry? What would happen? We all hear expressions like bored to death. That's our old brain talking. Instead of fearing this void, this emptiness, how about embrace it and see where it would take you? The essence of being content with life is that you feel alive even though not much is going on. I am a very boring person and I live like a recluse. If there is nothing to do with my boyfriend, there is always good food and movies. Once you accept that a relationship for what it is, you will be able to train yourself to look at everything with fresh eyes.
"After the enlightenment, the laundry." A book which teaches you to not have unrealistic expectations. A boyfriend's role in your life is not to whisk you away from this mundane world to go live in a faraway place happily every after.
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