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I might not manage to go to the prom but she said she'd just go herself! This bugs me.

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Question - (31 July 2010) 4 Answers - (Newest, 1 August 2010)
A male United States age 26-29, *geek writes:

hey me again,

me and my girl where discussing when her senior prom will be, and I brought up the question of what if I couldn't come? (since I'm in job corps like 3 hours away from her, there is a distinct possibility I wont be able to)

And she just replied, she would just go alone. This kinda bugs me....I'm not trying to be a selfish prick or anything but my last relationship was lost because I couldn't attend prom with her, she went alone and then by stereotype hooked up with some guy afterwards.

I told my girl that that would really bug me... because I would be jealous, that I haven't got to dance with her at all yet and some other guys and her ex's would get the opportunity to.....and she just kind of blew it off.

It is something that is really bugging me, I don't know why, I trust her, I keep telling myself this but I just have this really bad sinking feeling of fear when I think about it... what can I do?

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A male reader, awsome101 Zambia +, writes (1 August 2010):

awsome101 agony aunthahaha women lie, dude she is only thinking about how she will look in her dress and who will ask her to dance etc. Let her go and tha time comes you blow her off just like she ur own thng man plenty women out thr let her have her prom.but you gota establish your manlines dude. A man gota be masculine dnt bother go to work more important.

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A female reader, Moo's Mum New Zealand +, writes (1 August 2010):

Moo's Mum agony auntI understand you feeling nervous about this given what happened with the last GF but don't let what happened with her ruin what you have with this new girl. You don't want to become a weirdo control freak because some tramp abused your trust in the past.

Tell her you hope she has a great time and that you can't wait to see her and then you will take her dancing just the two of you. Then take very deep breaths. Every time you feel the anxiety rising over this take deep breaths and calm youself. This is a different girl.

Good luck my friend it's all gonna be ok.

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A male reader, Odds United States +, writes (1 August 2010):

Odds agony auntYou trusted your last girlfriend too, right? Teenage girls attach waaaaay too much significance to prom night, and to prom night sex. It's fine if she disagrees, and even if she does choose to go alone, but if she just blows you off and doesn't even bother trying to make you feel better, that's a major red flag.

Try your hardest to get that night off. Pull in favors, get someone to cover for you. But I doubt this relationship will last if she does not even bother herself with your feelings.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2010):

if you trust her enough, you should let her go. i mean, it's her senior prom! why hold her back from something like that? if she's the one for you, then she won't cheat, so just don't worry. by the sounds of it, everything will be fine, so just let it happen.

good luck!

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