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*melie123
writes:I met a guy at a party 6 weeks ago, we chatted for ages and ended up sleeping together. We exchanged numbers and texted each other during the week. At the weekend I went out drinking with friends and ended up sending him a text to meet that night. We slept together again and this became a regular thing every weekend. Last week I texted him and he didn't come to meet me. He rang me later on and said he was busy. I sent him a text during the week and had no reply. Then at the weekend I saw him and he completely ignored me! What did I do wrong?
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reader, amelie123 +, writes (6 March 2011):
amelie123 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your comments - I think I wanted it to turn into something more and thought that he wanted that as well. I know there is no one else. I feel like I was kicking myself as in the beginning he was texting me asking to meet up properly for dates (not just sex) and I didn't make the effort and now the tables have turned. Oh well, I realise now it's his loss. I will definitely not sleep with anyone the first time meeting them again.
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reader, sam44  +, writes (6 March 2011):
To me it looks like he enjoyed the sex and now he's gracefully moving on with his life... you're now yesterday to him. is there a lesson to learn? yes... Dont jump into sex before you get to know someone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2011): Hi
You did nothing wrong at all, and you have no reason to feel bad. Yes he has moved on but so will you...plenty of fun to be had and new experiences...you live and learn.
Waiting a few nights before you decide to have sex is your choice but it gets you no extra brownie points...sometimes one night stands can last a lifetime and sometimes beautiful children are born....it makes no less of the joining. If you want to keep someone interested by WORKING at it....then it is not natural and there is a good chance the relationship would crumble later down the line anyway, when the facade drops. Be who you are and please don't feel sad....it's not your fault he walked away and look on the bright side you did'nt wait longer for him to walk away.
spunky monkey.
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reader, Artistry  +, writes (5 March 2011):
 ..Hi there, Why would you think you did something wrong? Why not that he possibly was only interested in you for what he received? I don't know what you talked about when you met, but if there was no indication that he was a hit and run kind of guy then I guess that means you have to go through the experience to find that out. I think that as adults we meet people, we talk, if we like them and we engage physically with them, then what happens next depends on two willing people. He had other ideas as you went along, he only wanted to be there for the time he was, then he lost interest. There is nothing that you did wrong. Also it should be a two-sided relationship, you should not put yourself in the position of wanting and needing to please a person for them to stay in a relatiobship with you. That is too much pressure and not a good way to have a relationship in my opinion. Next time get to know the person a little longer, see where their head is, take your time, then when you are comfortable go further into it. People are different, but you need I feel to have some sense of what they want before you put yourself in and find that that they may have been just a player, along for the ride and nothing else. Hug yourself, learn from the experience and move on. There are other fish in the sea, might taste better as well. "o) Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2011): He got what he wanted and willingly. He made you no promise so what is there to be confused about?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (5 March 2011):
 The truth is sweetie you never done anything wrong, he got what he wanted and now he is moving on to the next girl. This is what happens when we sleep with a guy we just meet, he loses respect for you and just sees you as a sex partner. Therefore he met up with you every weekend because he knew he would get sex and now he has stopped bothering because either he got bored of it or else he met a girl he actually likes. Thats why it is better if you meet a guy and you think you could really hit it off with him, then its important not to have sex that night therefore it will keep him interested in you for longer and it will make him look at you like you could be a potential girlfriend and not a one night stand or a girl that is available to hook but with. We all learn from out mistakes sweetie.
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