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female
age
13-15,
*elenne
writes:Hey there!!!!I have a guy friend and a boyfriend and I love my b/f of 2 years and 2 months but 2day I kissed my guy friend!! And the problem is that I don't like my friend at all and my b/f thinks I do, but the other day I had just convinced him that I DON'T!!! But 2day my friend kissed me and I kissed him back and all of a sudden we started making out and the other thing is that this friend is also my ex!! I feel guilty cuz the other day I had just promised my b/f that I wasn't gonna make out w/my friend anymore just my b/f!! Should I tell him or should I just keep it a secret??? If I do tell him he WILL break up with me!!!He told me already cuz he thinks that I do have feelings 4 my friend and I don't!!!!Need advice PLEASE!!
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reader, mcbirdie  +, writes (25 June 2007):
 If you have had an agreement with your boyfriend to be faithful, up to and including not making out with someone else, then I think you need to tell him. It is quite likely that he WILL break up with you--clearly he has been concerned about your ex enough to specifically name him as someone not to make out with, so I'm sure he will take it as a real betrayal of trust.
But if you tell him yourself, you have a better chance of talking it through with him. If you don't, and it comes up later, or worse, your ex tells him, he will have two betrayals to deal with.
More interesting to consider, though, is why you did it. You say several times that you don't have feelings for your ex--so then why did you end up making out with him? Why does your boyfriend think you have feelings for him? I think you may want to spend some time considering if you do, in fact, still have feelings for your ex and if not, why you would be willing to do something that was so clearly doing to destroy your relationship with your boyfriend.
Best of luck.
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