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writes:Okay, so here is my story. Back in 7th grade (we are sophomores in college now) my best friend and I had huge crushes on one another. We talked 24/7 and couldn't get enough of each other. Out of me being a scared little kid, I missed my shot with her then. Since then, we have remained best friends and still talk all of the time. Through out the years, she has dated nothing but jerks who have constantly hurt her. At one point, she was engaged. She eventually got pregnant and she now has a one year old daughter, who is the absolute cutest kid there is. And she is an incredible mother. Her and the father are broken up with for good. Now, 7 years later, I'm still in love with this girl. She still talks to her share of jerks. Sometimes I'm mean to her out of pent up emotions and frustration, and no matter what I say, she always forgives me. Last night she even told me that if I were anyone else, we'd be done. But she said, "you're just special I guess." I've done nothing but love this girl since the first time I saw her in our sixth grade math class. Sure, I've had a girlfriend or two throughout the years, but no one has ever compared to her. I've pretty much saved myself for her out of the hopes that it would one day all come together. Now is the perfect chance for me to put it all out there, but I don't know how, nor do I even know if I should. I've kinda felt like she's been holding onto her feelings since 7th grade too, but I really can't tell. Can anyone give me any advice? Thanks for your help.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (21 February 2013):
 Go for it before it's too late. I don't know what you've been waiting for all this time. If you don't make your move someone else will, and next time she might actually get married and have more children.
If you want to be the man in her life, then you need to start making your moves. There's a reason she tells you you're special, and a reason she puts up with you being rude to her. She obviously loves you.
You need to stop being mean on purpose though, or else whatever relationship you'll start will end fast. If you want a good, solid and mature relationship you need to be good to her, with full intent, and never mean on purpose. That way she wont "put up with you" because you're special to her, but rather long to be with you.. because you're special to her.
Make your move before it's too late, or you'll just sit and wonder "what if" and regret not telling her how you feel.
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (21 February 2013):
 Youre setting urself up for possible disappointment if youve been 'saving' it for her. My opinion is if u dont even kno how to approach this situation which is a simple thing then what makes u think youre mature for a relationship or even parenthood?
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