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I love my wife... but I am having this battle of wanting to be with men.

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Question - (9 November 2008) 6 Answers - (Newest, 31 December 2009)
A male United States age , anonymous writes:

I love my wife. I really do! But I am having this battle of wanting to be with men. I am so natural with men, whether it be sex or just sitting in a room with them. I don't know what to do. My wife knows I have been with men. I think I am Gay and I don't know what to do any more. I am always thinking about sex with men. As far as I remember I have been masterbating with imagining being with men in sex. I really need some help on this matter.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2009):

Hey i also have the same problem.i cant make love 2 my wife without thinking of other man

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A female reader, Oceania Mexico +, writes (16 November 2008):

Oceania agony auntI'm sorry to hear you are having problems with your wife, not only because of your strong desire to be with men but also because of the money, What XXSABBYXX recommended you its a good idea, a threesome can make you feel better, and maybe you need to know what you really want. You just happen to be confuse with what really makes you happy. Maybe your marriage has become monotonous, you dont deserve to be unhappy. Go and chat with some guys, lets see where that leads to.

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A male reader, xxSABBYxx Ireland +, writes (12 November 2008):

Oooh sounds tricky!! Listen if you have these strong desires for men you need to find out exactly what it is you want... Would you not chat with here and see if a threesome with another male might please/arouse the both of you? If your wife knew you were with men before,she must understand what you were going through then...and must know that this feeling towards men might have came back..She got into the relationship with you already knowing the fact you liked men,after all you dated a few.. try and talk with her as open as you can, but first go out on your own sit somewhere quite and think about what you want...you cant hold on to please other people YOU need to be happy. Im gay and have been in my relationship over 5 1/2 years and its not dead...If you leave your wife wou will find that someone special,i believe we all always do! trust your heart... You only live once So enjoy it

Hope all is well, keep me updated with what happens!!

Love

Sabs

xxxx

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A reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2008):

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Oceana; We have talked but I have not told her about my strong desires. I know it is not fair to her, but I am afraid. I don't want to hurt nor loose her. Gay relationships are so dead end, at least it seems like there are so many guys out there who just want to indulge. Alot of Man whores. My wife is good for me but I am not sure how to make us work anymore. THere are other issues like money. We are not broke but her desire to spend money we don't have does not make like any easier.

She seems to be some knd of road and I am not sure if I am the problem. Maybe I am.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2008):

so did i and hooked up with a man through a gay phone line and met in person i sucked his cock but did not enjoy so i stopped now i don't even think about it and no one even knows

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A female reader, Oceania Mexico +, writes (9 November 2008):

Oceania agony aunttalk to your wife, she needs to know the truth, you can keep being unhappy with your life. If you continue keeping all this feelings to yourself one day you'll explode. Maybe you just need to start all over with a guy and see what happens. Just after having a solid experience you can tell if youre happy with your wife or not. Trust me do what you like best, you deserve to have a happy life.

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