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writes:How to show my girlfriend I love her?I am a 14 year old boy. I've been going out with my girlfriend for nearly two months now, and I've never been happier, but the last week we've had a series of huge arguments about us, and she's recently been upset with me.I've told her everything on how I feel, but she still feels like she might finish with me. I've told her I love her and my side of the story but I feel as if fate might be handing me a bad card.She doesn't answer my calls anymore and leaves me resorting to waiting on msn to speak to her.She lives a far distance from where I am and recently when I told her I was going to see her, she told me she was ill.I love this girl more than anyone ever, and I don't want to lose her but I feel like I'm fighting a losing battle at the moment. Would anyone happen to have suggestions on how I can show how much I am devoted to her and love her?thank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI just logged on here for the first time in years, I can't believe how much advice people gave.
I was 14 then, scared and lost, looking for advice in 1 of my first few relationships..
I'm 19 now, seems so silly looking back on it. A 2 month relationship, I went head over heels, and we broke up. Life's a hard teacher.. but I've had many relationships since then..
so yeah.
Time is the greatest healer! And we all learn from our mistakes, I have no regrets since I learned from that experience.
Thanks for all the help!
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reader, 1704ems +, writes (10 March 2011):
well i guess you are older now, hope things turned out. a few wise words...
time is the greatest healer, even though in the moment it really doesn't feel like you will heal....
you have to love the bad ones to appreciate the good ones...
Hope the latest girl is everything you want, but even now, you are still young, live life abundantly!
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reader, Foilman  +, writes (7 August 2010):
If she feels your relationship must end, it probably should. And there is no way, NO WAY, you can love a girl that much after only 2 months!! There's no way!! I have been in a relationship with my gf for about a year now, she lives in ohio, and I live in California!! We haven't had as much as one word yelled at the other unles we r just messing around!! Just let her go. She's not the one, and you must accept that! You will find someone. You just can't keep pushing it on and on and on like this! Oh, and by the way, if you let her break up with you, and she is smart enough, she might consider your intelligence and maturity about the situation and take u back. But it's porbably too late for that anyways... Just let her go, that's all I have to say. From someone in the greatest relationship in history, Mandy + ~Trent :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2010): Hey dude, I am 14 also and my girlfriend broke up with me a few weeks ago, I have tried to get her back, but just like your girlfriend, she had her mind made up. Don't worry about her, if she still has feelings for you, then she won't leave you so easily. My girlfriend broke up with me twice and she said she won't give me another chance, so I just left her alone and moved on.
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reader, Med493  +, writes (22 May 2010):
I'm 17 years old and I had the same situation last year .. I did what you did I told her how I feel about her but her mind was alredy made and we left echother .. now that was so sad but now I have a girlfriend and I'm mush happyer than when i was with her so don't worry like they say " Time can heal broken hearts " ... i know it feels like shit i'm sorry but that's life you're only 14 years old you'll find better ones .
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2010): what happened?? ;p
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2010): sweety your really young dont get caught up on little things you have your whole life ahead of you
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2010): This is the way life goes by, even if we like it or not!! My father used to told me that time is the best medicine for lovers. Move on and things are going to be better soon..
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2010): If you've done everything you say you have, and she still thinks she wants to finish it... then it sounds like she's already made up her mind.
I'm sorry if I sound harsh, and this is certainly not what you want to hear... it's not what I wanted to hear at your age either... but there are others. You will find someone else that will make you feel like the greatest thing ever and as though you actually make a difference in the world. Letting go is not easy. And its harder for some than others, but you have to step back and ask yourself, is she happy? If you truly love her, then her happiness should be one of the first things you consider. You might even ask her if she's happy, or what would make her happier. Sometimes you have to settle for a friendship, and if you want to keep at least that, you should back off and try to just be friends. Who knows, maybe she'll come around and want to get back together.
Good luck and my best wishes,
- Been there, done that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2010): Dude I think you should dump her, if you don't then she will.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2010): your too young bro. is this your first girlfriend
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2010): hi, i would like to make a few points, firstly do not chase a lost cause: if she really loves you she will forgive you, if she doesnt there is nothing you can do and you deserve better. secondly the only way to show someone you love them is to be there for them whenever they need and enjoy every moment. Obviously she doesnt love you as much as you would like and therefore she is clearly toying with you. END IT, there is plenty of nice girls out there and your only young. from rob 16, in a loving relationship and have been in many relationship situations including this one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2010): You've only been dateing her 2 months Anne you love her?? Snd I'd forget about her if she's completely avoiding you then she's obviously to immature to handle a relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2010): hey bro just move to her house sit with ur girl for sometimes look at her in to her eyes and just say her wht all u feel about her and then ask her sorry if by mistake u hav hurt her ask her sorry even if u hav not made any mistake and just make her feel tht u love her too much seee this was the same problem for me few weeks ago with my girl but i went to her and i looked into her eyes with lots of love and i told her wht i feel for her now u see my girl is with me and she loves me more than what i do to her now simple buddy. just go and try this out and if it doesnt work then reply me back here i hav many ways to get her to u back. now be confident be sure tht u can do it and come on proceed all the best to u my frnd
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2010): Hey there big dog, how's it goin'? So I'm 17 years old, almost 18, and I understand what you're going through. Here's the deal. I know mom and pop have probably told you this, but this girl isn't worth putting up with. I've fell in love numerous times, and each time you tell yourself that you're having the best days of your life and that no one's ever made you feel quite like she does. Well that's just human nature I guess, and the point is you're going to realize that she wasn't too important and then tell yourself the same thing about some other girl that comes along. I mean let's face it. This girl is being ridiculous, not answering the phone and nonsense like that. Man that junk's just immature. She obviously doesn't want to work out your problems, regardless of who's to blame, so why deal with someone like that? Even though you probably don't want to hear it, it's plain and simple, man. You don't deal with someone like that. Acknowledge that something went wrong in this relationship and then move on. Use that knowledge to correct your ways and prevent the same problem from happening in your next relationship. If you get nothing else out of this post remember this: THERE'S NO SUCH THING AS GIRL PROBLEMS (at least there doesn't have to be). Life's too short to worry about not being happy. There's three ways to deal with relationship problems. You work them out (and evidently she isn't willing to do that), you just put up with it (and make your life a mess), or you ELIMINATE THE SOURCE OF THE PROBLEM. Now I'm not suggesting you throw your dukes up and knock her teeth out, but you should definitely get out of this relationship, bud. Trust me, better things will come along and you'll be a much happier man. Get in touch with her, on the internet if that's what she's limiting you to, and give her the break. Don't even mope around about it when it's over, tiger, just go find you someone who'll treat you better than this ol' girl. Take 'er easy bro.
And a little something else. I remember when I was in your shoes, and this site helped me out a LOT. I'm not a spammer or anything, but if you want to understand how women and the whole dating game works, then check out askmen.com. Read the right articles and it'll give you a whole different outlook on girls.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2010): im guessing your at school still, dont worry im 14 to.the best way is to get her a gift, find something that she realy wants and buy it for her. if that dont work i wish the best of luck to you.:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2010): when you truely love some one you have to set them free if she is meant to be with you she will not leave. You have to love some one so much that you want them to be happy, even if it mean they will not be with you. And if she does leave trust me god will give you what you looking for.
Tell her you love her and that you care for her and you will be there for her. Tell her you want her to be happy even if that means you two can not be together. Tell her you set her free. trust in god my friend the right girl will come into your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2010): i am 15 mate, and i have a girlfreind, who ilove to bits but, i know that if it all started to go pear shaped i would do everything that i could, not just because i love her but so that if she did finish me then i would no i lost the fight trying my hardest
best of luck mate
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2010): dude your 14, you have alot of living to do. dont be ignorant, take what fate deals you and roll with it
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2010): hey man iv been there... since its a long distance relationship she might be cheating... at least thats what my ex did... but itz not worth it... find someone new and forget about her
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reader, crickylfc9 +, writes (30 January 2010):
listen, im 18 and have been in so many relationships myself but your 14. i almost broke up with my girlfriend over the exact same thing, but what i did is i begged her to stay with me but i advice you not to do that, your young and have plenty of girls waiting on you, shes not the only girl in the world. i mean she lives a distance, tell her if she wants to act like that then fine, move on, get someone who will want to stay with you and not start arguments, trust me i made that mistake once and il never do it again, iv been with my girlfriend 4 months and love her but 3 weeks isnt good enough, if shes gona act like that tell her to look for someone new and you can move on and hopefully find who your looking for you know, take my advice kid
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2010): To me, it feels like she has you in the palm of her hand. If she says something, you will do it because you love her. She might still love you, but you need not to make yourself so available. Next time, don't be on msn. Don't call her anymore. If she never ends up calling you, she is not worth it. Do not waste your time on someone that doesn't care about you as much as you care about them. If she realizes you're not there anymore, she might get worried and call you. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2009): Umm how many of the people who commented recntly have noticed the fact that this was made in 05?
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reader, booms +, writes (29 December 2009):
well i my self have been there before and i said to her "she was the only one for me and i didnt see te point in living with out her in my life!" hope this helps a little bit.
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reader, Bam16 +, writes (23 July 2009):
Well there is only one thing I can tell u if u really love her as much as u say u do don't give up. There isn't a lose battle when ur truely in love trust me on this 1. I've been with my girlfriend for a 15 months now n they have been the best and the weirdest of me life but I kno she is the 1 who help me get out of bad habbits. Don't give up on her unless she really loves sum 1 else. GOOD LUCK N REMEMBER DONT GIVE UP!!!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2009): It seems to me, she's just looking for a little space. Most girls don't want to be smothered. Regardless of how much you want to spend all of your time with her, you need to fight that urge. Spending little time away from your special someone not only makes them long to be with you as well, it makes the time that you do spend together, all the more special.
Don't get me wrong, I love my girlfriend to death, and I'd love to see her every minute of every day, but I know that's an unhealthy obsession, for both me and her. So I restrain myself, and let her have a little space. I work about 35 hours a week, as well as various hobbies.
Try hanging out with some of your other friends a little bit. But don't get carried away and overzealous.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2009): hey bro i know how you feel an you should take her to where you tow first met or your first date with her an jus LOVE HER!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2009): dude there are more fish in the sea, THERE ARE ALSO MANY SEA MONSTERS SO WATCH OUT!!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2009): First of all i feel your pain. I am also 14 years old so i know how a relationship can be at our young age. I dont really want to reccomend it but on youtube there is this channel name called the winggirls they give advice to men but scince we are young try to elaborate on there advice like simplify what they are trying to say or how you can show it. Well i got to go. I hope whatever it is you will both be able to solve it. BEST OF LUCK! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2009): Well your coming on way way way to strong bud, propably scaring her. Plus your 14, I dont think you can fully understand or comprehend love. You only want what is increasingly becoming something you canèt have.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2009): ay man i dont wanna be the dude who tells you this but i guess i am... uh well it sounds to me that you realy do love her and stuff, but are you 100 percent that she feels the same? i mean how can you love sombody that doesent love you back...? and if you are for sure then if she still wants to finish your guys' relationship. so be it. shes not the one for you. there is always that one girl that fools you but bro youll meet te girl of your dreams one day so for right now just hang in there bud. im just teling you this because nobody ever gave me advice. im 16 now and i have my 1 true love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2009): You say that you love her more than anyone ever. Well, that pretty much says it all. Ever means ever. Ever in your life time... I remember when my dad told me to take it slow and never stress out about girls. He was right, if i stressed out every time a girl had made me feel upset I would have spent half my life being emotionally unstable. Life is too short to have regrets. Move on. You'll find the right one eventually. Until then, enjoy life... Midnight rambler
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2009): Ask her one simple question, "Do you love me" ask her that... If she says yes then you should be happy but if she says know you're gonna have to end the relationship first to have a little bit of pride at least. Good Luck dude and i hope it works out
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reader, thedude333 +, writes (16 June 2009):
Seriously man, all of you are lame , 2 months , 6 months, not people to give any advice on relationships not that i am either. ive been with my girlfriend since i was 14 and its been five years. its all about who you are, that how you get the love back, and if i was you i wouldnt care cause your 14 dont make it seriouse before its to late and your with her forever.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2009): hi,well starters my name is mark 18,me and my girl friend been goin out for 14 months now,so believe me what am goin to say.just relax,tell her how you really feel,and if she gets mad at the truth just say,am gonna leave you alone now,bye babes,i love you,let her cool down if shes mad,then give her a call and just start making convo with her but dont bring up anything about your relationship,and after awhile ur gonna be back on track
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reader, kllgunner +, writes (1 March 2009):
 ok well my name is terry and me and my girlfriend have been going out now for almost 6 months and well at about 2 months we started fighting alot and eventually we broke up but the point is if this does happen never stop telling her you love her and dont be an idoit like me and go get another gf. Fight for her tell her that u love her SHOW her that you love her if you really do love her never stop showing it. Me and my gf are back togeather and are stronger then ever 6 months in 11 days hope this helped
-madly in love
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2008): Well you should leave her alone... hey your 14 there are alot of other girls to come buddy promise! Hormones are off the chart at 14 untill about 20 so dont go being to haisty!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2008): hey man. I completely understand you. I'm 18 and me and my girlfriend have been dating for around 4 months. I mean a lot has happened between us but there isn't anything we can't solve. You should talk to your girlfriend about it or maybe just take a little break off? Maybe then she'll realise how important you are to her. Nevertheless, it's fine, it's only adolescent love. good luck to you =D
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2008): Listen m8, if u love someone, u will do anything to get her to love you but if she cant love u then u are doing wrong by trying 2 her by trying 2 make her, if u really do love her u will do anything to see her happy, and if being with u makes her unhappy then the best way 2 show her ur love is too say " I love u but if u dnt want too be with me then i am willing to step back if it makes u happy" Theres always someone else and if she doesnt love you back then she isnt the right girl for u, and the fact she lives a long way away will make it easier to get over her, but trust me once ur over her it will be lyk all the stress will have been lifted off ur shoulders and u can start agen Gud luk m8, i hope she sees sense and realises she has what all girls are looking for, a man who will love her no mater what, me and u we have the same perception of women, am sixteen and i completely understand how u feel, get back 2 me tell me how it goes i use msn so [email address blocked] thats the bad thing bout these chat room thingys u neva know what happens lol
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reader, kaylam +, writes (27 June 2008):
 I understand where you are coming from. Im also 14 and I love my boyfriend more than anything. We have been going out for 8 [almost 9] months and I just recently started believing him when he said I love you. I have been in some pretty bad relationships and its hard to trust sometimes. So that might be part of the reason. Just let her know you love her more than anything and tell her you are there for her, whatever it is. My bf tried absoulutley everything to get me to believe him. Just remind her constantly you love her. And don't listen to people who say "You dont know what love is" because they dont know how YOU feel. Only you do, and you need to share that with your girlfriend. Good luck (:
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2008): dude that is all that u should have to say if she doesnt think u love her then u need to keep telling her
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2008): Too young for love!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2008): look dude im recently goin through a similar situation and i no how hard it is but u just need to give her some space u may love her but u cnt make someone love u back. no offence girls but a lot of women like to play with our minds and uv just got to show her that it isnt bothering u. its hard but this is wot u need to do. let her chace u coz if she truly loves u then she will come to her sences. im only 16 myself but i have been there done that so trut me dude just dnt text her phone her or speak to her on msn or out like that let her go running after u coz she will if she loves u. oh dude msn couses lots of shit to id stay off it trust me man
good luck anyways dude i hope it all works out for u =p
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2008): hi friend i think that you have to go on in you way, couse you dont now that you are the best for your sel an i belive that you should to apreciate more for yoursel cose you are the more important for you , the firs think is that if you don want to yourself you never gonna be out of this case oor circule i thint that you are very very espesial to cry for her, i know how you must to feel maybe you feel like a pricion into you but just lieve past the time an you gonna be that all will chance
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2008): dude your 14. shes not that important, trust me, heartbreaks a part of life. i had a girlfriend when i was 14 too but trust me, you most likely wont end up marrying her, and even if you did she will be a completely different person before you get the chance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2008): Hey heyI'm 23 and whenever I tell my girlfriend I love her I really, really mean it. Telling my parents about me and her going out mean I got kicked out of my house when I was 15 (parents were strict) and had to live with my friends until I got back on my feet. Now I'm a practicing doctor and I'm about to marry this girl. I've had arguments but coming clean always resolved thingsYou say you've told her everythhing she wants to know - she's still being bitchy about it? then she aint for you. I know this'll sound like bullshit coming from a randomer but seriously, when you do find your special girl, you'll know. This one aint worth it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2008): Hey there young bud
I just want to tell you that life is a great adventure, when I was your age I thought that this was it and when I found the girl I thought was the girl of my dreams the world would stop and thats it. But thats not the case and really you have to learn to be by yourself, be comfortable that you don't have to depend on someone (girl) be secure enough to know that you can be good without her too. But when the time comes along and you find that person who you will have so much in common and get along so well and learn to appreciate each other, and I stress appreciate each other company. Good luck live life and continue your journey at life you have a long way to go bud.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2008): You are 14. Shouldn't you be worrying about more important things then a girl at this point? Take it from me, im 26 years old and have dealt with the entire middle school and high school "dating" if you will call it dating.. Honestly bro, shes not worth it. Your both young, too young to be saying the magical 3 words to someone... I know your going to read this and say I'm wrong, but when your my age (heck, even 18) you will realize what I'm talking about. Go out and have fun, do good in school, be respectful, just be a normal young teenager and enjoy life without the girl!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2008): You're 14 years old!!!!!!!! Stop giving a shit and go play some video games!!!!!!!!! My name is Bobby. I'm 18 years old and i've been with my high school sweet heart for 2 years. We even live together and neither of us could say where we'll end, nor do we want to. like a lot of people neither of us could see us not together, but that's because we are together. We are completely in love and i think the only reason we are is because we could care less. we both have our entire lives ahead of us and if we (or anybody) start basing our happiness on whether or not we're together, then our lives would forever be at a complete stand still. Seriously dude, i was in love when i was 15 too, and it sucked, really really sucked when it ended, but that's just it, "it" ended not your life. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2008): Good luck i love my baby and allways will
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2008): heya im in prety much in the same situation as u im 14 and i couldnt picture myself with out my gf but the last month hasnt been the same a lot has happend. i think wer ok now but it always crosses my mind that i might love her more than she loves me. but all u can do is pray and hope for the best write her a letter to explain her much u love her and how much she meens to u. let her have a bit of space and she might realise that she needs you and couldnt be without u. good luck mate hope everything works out
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2008): just do not show you love her it sounds desperate.
ignore her and she'll come to you
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2008): i know how you feel mate my girlfriend is the same. just try and give her some space and let her make her mind up! remember to respect her decision no matter what it is, hope everything goes well for ya
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2008): alrite man so i was in your same position a week ago. Im just like you bro, except im 15 and my girl. Shes the first girl ive ever loved and i hope the last, we've been together for 4 months..but lets get started on you.
Bud, im not gonna sit here and tell you that you dont know love because that is what everybody tells me and i know i love my gf and it sounds you really love yours. If she really wants you in her life shes gonna be there and is gonna want to see you more than anybody, but she also needs her space. Thats what my girlfriend told me, try a break. Sometimes thats good, because she'll realize your the right MAN for her and she'll be grateful for you more! But i totally know how you feel, dont be ashamed or embarrassed to shed your tears for her. You also dont need to prove your love man. If she is the RIGHT one then shes gonna know that you love her. Just talk to her. If she ignores you go chill with your boys and get your mind off of it! If she wants you bro shes gonna call you. A girl that loves you needs you in her life, DONT EVER LET A GIRL RUN OVER YOU. Your a man yourself and dont need that. Dude, breaking up is the last option so that is not what im trying to get you to do. Im sure you believe she is the one you want forever! Just pray and let God do the rest and dont try and handle it yourself! I know u wanna see your girl every second of your life, just like i want to with my girlfriend, but yall both needs yall space. Go and do stuff with your friends, and let her do stuff.
JUST PRAY MAN, I HOPE THE BEST FOR YOU! DONT LET ANYBODY TElL YOU THAT YOU DONT KNOW LOVE AND THERES OTHER GIRLS! BECAUSE IF YOU SEE SOMETHING REALLY SPECIAL IN HER AND YOU TRULY BELIEVE SHES THE "ONE" THEN DONT LET HER GO! JUST REMEMBER MAN, DONT LET HER RUN OVER YOU OR CAUSE YOU TO BE UNHAPPY! GOD HAS ONE GIRL PREPARED FOR YOU THAT WILL ALWAYS MAKE YOU HAPPY! JUST REMEMBER THAT..
GOOD LUCK BUDDY! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2008): First off I think the people who rely on your age as the first step to giving you an answer are ignorant. They aren't you and each individual is aware of their feelings and their feelings alone. You can explain, but all they will see is your age and will say that you are too young to feel that way when, in fact, you aren't. It would be like saying that a baby can not possibly feel love for their parents because they don't know what love is. Ignorant right?
Well, moving on, #1 the people who say give her some space, are actually right. You also need to give yourself some space, do things with your friends, do things that will take up your time, and your mind. Hell do things with your family. What you will notice is that it may be easier to deal with when there are other people around you. Being human you need human contact and when you isolate yourself to just one person you set yourself up for lonliness when they are not around.
#2 You can let her know how you feel about her, but also let yourself be reserved. What I mean by this is still talk to her, don't ignore her, but let her know that you are of importance as well as she is. If she calls you and you are busy, don't drop things for her just say "Hey, I am actually doing (fill in the blank) Let me call you in a bit" and actually call her back when you are done. This will let her know that you do have a life outside of her and she will try harder to be in your life. She will see that you will make time for her as well.
Those are just minor things, you will learn the rest throughe experience. Who knows where this relationship may lead you, but the main thing to keep with you always is experience. Learn from your Triumphs and your Mistakes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2008): im 18 n being with my girlfriend for 9 months i love her n she says she loves me aswell. best feeling there is. but seriously man your 14. you dont even know what lov is. i probably wont be with this girl forever as much a si love her right now. you are just a kid n so am i pretty much. if shes not into you move on
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2008): I am near to your age (12 year old girl). I understand how you feel. About a few months ago I was trying to break up with my boyfriend (same age as you 14) and even I made him feel bad. My boyfriend kept on sending me love text messages on my phone and all of them made me feel so emotional that I cried and called my boyfriend and met him ASAP. While he was trying to make me interested he gave me all these gifts, took me out which made us closer. So maybe speaking directly to her is not good. Send her texts, emails and letters and see how it goes. Luv...
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2008): I know how you feel. Hey, ever thought about ignoring HER at times, just so she knows what it's like? Try it, I mean, don't be so harsh, but just try to avoid eye contact, movement, sound, and such...and she'll know what it's like. Don't do it for too long now...maybe just a few days, or week..as it could (and probably will) lead to disaster...and her leaving you for nothing. Anyways, if she starts showing you signs that she's into you, not by voice, then just tell her to quit nudging you and talk to you. And if you get along sooner, then do something that you know will fill her heart. Chocolate, flowers, gothic stuff, and if it leads to more than that, then just make love to her. That's not good enough? Just tell her how you feel, and leave her before you get it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2008): Dude give her some space.. ignore her for while, let the time move on. If she is urs she will stay with you. if she is not urs then she is not urs from the begining.
God bless you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2008): why not treat her with something and buy her stuff that shows her that you like her and pay her a lot more attention and show her you want her more than anything in the world
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2008): why not treat her with something and buy her stuff that shows her that you like her and pay her a lot more attention and show her you want her more than anything in theworld
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2008): why not treat her with something and buy her stuff that shows her that you like her and pay her a lot more attention and show her you want her more than anything in theworld
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2007): dude, i am with ya. consider i am in a similar situation as yours. The only thing is that your are 14 & i am 19. But love is blind. So Don't You Be! If it was ever true, imagine what you are saying is that you want to stay with her till you die!
Ever imagined it that way? If you're not familiar to the problems of the world, then i think you'll experience it as you grow older, more humble & mature. You will realise that love was never a pass time. Many have sung songs on it, many a poets have died for it & girls have remained a mystery to them. But my friend, in simple words, i would say, whenever you get a chance, ask her about her problems if you haven't. Ask her if she's seeing anybody else? Ask her if there's something wrong in you? Ask her what all things you did to hurt her sentiments, little they may have worth for you but they are her precious assets. Never try to prove your love. If it's true, it'll catch you by the ear & heel. Just believe in god, i hope your situation gets better everyday for the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2007): What you need to do is say how sort you are even if you did not do any thing rong if you love her that much
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2007): dude you sound kinda clingy, ur 14 and u have a gf ull have many more to come. just dont rely on her, giver her some space, and ask her if somethign is wrong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2007): dude i think that if you go and see her she will get more upset. also not to be mean but your only 14 you still got time to see all the other girls in the world. also pray for God to help you find you path. it might be good or it might not be what you want. but i did and im engaged. good luck and god bless you
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2007): never love someone so much it just brings u a lot of pain n sufferings
but the most sad part is i also love someone tat much n cant think anything without her
so i get the pain too
i dont understand why these girls r so fool tat they dont understand how much the true lovers love them care them
just..,...don know wat to say
have a nice relationship
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2007): well first of all are you sure that you love her? or are u just caught in the moment that you think you love her? if you do love her and you mean it, call her and ask her if you can go visit her. if she tells you she is ill even better. Go to the nearest flower shop or even steal some flowers just get some. go to her house and surprise her. If she is ill, she will love the fact taht you made the effort even if she did not want you to go. if she is not ill, tell her you thought of her on your way over to her house and this is the perfect moment to pull her aside and explain to her why she should be with you.... but please end the arguments. thank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2007): mate show her how much u like her by not fighting and respeact what she thinks and if she breaks up with u just face it and ask her if u can still be friends
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2007): I feel the problem is that you came on to stong to fast. She is scared...
You need to show a girl that you "like" her but not scare her away by telling her you "Love" her, atleast not for the first while until you KNOW she loves you too
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2007): You're suffering from one-itis. But don't worry, there is a cure.http://www.adventures-of-a-pua.com/2005/09/overcoming_oneitis_1.html
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2007): im in the same situation you are for the most part. been going out with my girlfriend for 2 months too.I love her more than anyone else too. She just told me she wants to date more than one person at the same time because she feels she would get more from it. That makes me feel like i'm not enough for her and man all i can say is thats the worst feeling.All I can say is look back to your most recent coversations. Have you said anything that might make her mad?Other than that advice all i can say is give her some space. i tend to get a little clingy and girls seem to hate that. Best of luck you buddy. Oh and im 17. If you really love her more than anything then show her the best way you can. Peace.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2007): You're young, Odds are it will fall apart, and it will hurt alot at first, but you've gotta be strong. Two months may feel like a long time at first, but once you're older you'll realize how insignificant that is, compared to relationships you'll find yourself in later. Most of what you'll experience is going to just be a social dating. pretty much dating for the heck of it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2007): heyy dude dont worry. stuff happens. do what i did. im 20 and me and my girlfriend have been goin out for 3 years. i made a ton of mistakes in our early relationship. so i did what i thought i should. i called her once, let her know i knew i had screwed up, told her i was so so sorry, that i love her with all my heart, that id be there waiting for her call, and that her decision is respected. then i hung up and just waited. a few days later she called back, told me she was sorry for making a big deal about it, and that she wanted to have another go at it. now we're happily together and we are discussing marriage :). i wish you luck dude. for real. ill pray for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2007): Dude, the first advice posted here is the best. PLAY IT COOL. Don't talk to her for a little while. I know it's hard but don't call her no matter what. Let a full calandar week go by then if she hasn't called you call her. Casually mention a female friend you are going to hang out with. Remind her that she is important to you but skip the L word. She isn't at into you as you are into her. If she think you are taking it lightly she'll stick around.
Good Luck.
Oh PS, my qualifications:
I am 24 and got crazy tail in high school. I had a lot of experience like yours because I fell in love easy. You deserve this girl so long as she is smart enough to know it. If she still leaves you you need to think of you and run with it. Don't worry. You will get over it I promise, and the next one with love you for your devotion.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2007): Hey man, It sounds to me like you are head over heals in love with this girl. I personally think that shes feeling annoyed. If she needs to make a decision then you need to give her the room to do so. It sounds like you are smothering her. One of the hardest things to learn and get used to is not acting too interested, even though you feel as if you want to marry her every time you see her. Getting too close too fast creeps most girls out. When you pop up in her head while shes pondering her decision do you want to be associated with a good memory or do you want to be that good situation gone bad?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2007): All you have to do is start calling her less and emailing her less, and eventually she will either remove you from her caller ID or she will just answer your calls cause shes bored, once on the phone with her don't beg or anything, just talk casual and DO NOT mention you still love her. She will gradually become your friend again and after awhile of waiting ask her out, if she says no tell her thats cool and try again some other time. Try to find if she has feelings for you and work with that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2007): U can tell her that you r srry for the arguments and ask her if she'll forgive you, if she says no i guess she just h8s u
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2007): I have the same problems:-
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2007): i am 27 now but met my first love at 16 i knew it then and after 11 years and two kids i am still the happiest guy in the world even though we split just 3 weeks ago i know i love her still and as long as in your heart you keep her there you can always remember the good times even when you are not there for each other.dont try force it on her its all to do with trust.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2007): Don;t do anything Pal, you are young with your ENTIRE LIFE AHEAD OF YOU. It is real love that you feel now. remember what it feels like so that when you fell it again you'll make sure you're not wasting your affection on someone who is not receptive to it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2007): I had the same length relationship not to long ago and kind of the same thing happen to me.she did break up with me and this girl was my life but it didnt take long to get over it so if worse comes to worse dont feel that bad.. Your still young
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2007): Listen man I love my girlfriend more than anything in the world im your age. it took us twice to realize how much we love each other and occasionally things still get a little slow but thats just a relationship. I she loves you things will work out if not im sorry thats just the way it goes
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2007): As I see it man.. Its not worth it. I bet if you break up with her you will totally forget about her in a week or two. but if she makes you happy then go for it bro. just have fun
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2007): listen dude youve only dated for two months and your only 14 so odds are its all just infatuation which doesnt mean it doesnt matter because later that might turn into love. My advice to you is give her some space. the more you talk to her or wait for her on msn or wahtever the more pathetic you look and girls love guys with confidence, so next time she wants to hang out or something just say your buisy and take a rain check, trust me it will totally throw her off guard. Good luck with your girl hope it all works out.
later
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2007): hey my relationship is goin good and im 14 2 but 1 thing u gotta go there figure wat the hell is goin on and get her 2 tell u but i always check 2 see if my girl isnt feelin violated sad alone and all that other shit so go and get her try bringin flowers.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2007): Hey man. I kinda had the same situation a little bit ago. Each relationship has the ups and downs. Love bonds two people in a relationship. Keep loving and I promise, soon enough shell come around and things will be great. And if people say its puppy love, they dont know what theyre talking about. You know how strongly you love. You and only you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2007): Your fourteen and this girl does not have feelings for you anymore, you may think you love her, but it's nothing more than puppy love and you are coming off as a stalker LEAVE HER ALONE
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2007): listen, bro....u need to grow up! if she doesnt giv any respect to your feelings, then u better let go of her coz sooner or later u too would feel that she is not worth it! but i too know how it feels,that too, from first hand experience, and i know that it isnt easy to let go of your first love!.So u need to teach her how to feel your feelings. do one thing; flirt with other girls near or in front of her, or make sure that "you flirting with other girls", the news reaches her, and then u'll see the babe jumping in jealousy. Beleive me it worked, in my case and there is no reason it wont work for you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2007): YOU ARE 14! Honestly, if it will work, it will work itself out. BUT YOU ARE 14! Please, for the love of God, read "Datable." It's a great book that you really need to read.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2007): BOy you beter fight for this girl if your sure you love her. But only if you really do. Because there are plenty of other girls even if you dont think theyll be the same as she is theyll actually be better "trust me" but if you truly believe in love and loving her then fight hard as hell to get her back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2007): dude if shes done with you you have to let it go. Your 14 and have the rest of your life ahead of you so if she does dump you then its not really a big deal. But I totally understand where your coming from so if you truly can't live without her then you have to drive down and see her. Regardless of whether shes "ill" or not stop by and talk to her in person about whats going on. Also cut the msn bs cause thats just weak.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2007): just dont be to pushy. let her come to you, if she loves you she will! dont call, or speak to her for a while and see what she does. if she likes you then she will come to you, if not then she was not ment for you. there is plenty more fish in the sea! buy her annonomous flowers, she will like that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2007): hiya im chris, i have the same problem as u mate, i live 1hour away from my gf cos i live in holyhead and she lives in prestatyn witch is quite far away really, all uv got to remeber is that distance is nothing wen u love someone, just tell her all the things u wanna do with her in the future and how life is with her now. i know cos iv been in the same position, distance only makes u more exctied cos u know you can see u in abit.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2007): dude you should supprise her with a gift that has a card that says i love you so much i dont want it to end and maybe it will work ive gone through something a little like your in right now so i hope it does work out with you guys
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2007): do something romantic
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reader, nabeilrachell +, writes (26 December 2006):
dude dont listen to any of those replies if you love her man, go for it. i had a similar situation back in 04 my girl was doing the same things and i didnt understand it i thought i was doing all the right things but still nothing. but i showed her how much i loved her and even tho we broke up for 5 months she came back to me and realized that she made a huge mistake and after a while i took her back and now she loves me more than anything and the same for me. but like i said man go for it if you really want it go get it.
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reader, dyllan +, writes (5 September 2006):
hey i can relate im 14 to i live in orange she lives in fort worth i love her more than any thing else in the worldand i tell her that but i dont think she realy nows so listen i got her pregnant but after 7 months it ...died i was going to be a father so listen im not gunna give up on you try tell her you love her im not gunna give up on you now so now were both in this ton gether i ll rite you later okay man...thanks...dyllan james draven wehres
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2006): i personally think that you should consider moving on; it sounds like she doesn't want to see you anymore. i am 20 years old and majoring in Developmental Psychology and have been around long enough and been through enough relationships to figure out that long distance relaionships don't really seem to work- either she will cheat on you, forget that you guys are even going out, or she actually does like you, but usually a person likes to see their significant other more than several times a year! i know i would. And although you are only 14 years old and i am sure that you are ready for a serious relationship, but is SHE? i can tell you from experience that if you try to force a relationship and do not let things happen naturally, everything you put your heart and soul into will come crashing down over your head and YOU will be left in the dark. a relationship has to be a two way street, not one. you seriously need to communicate with her and ask her where things are going so you BOTH can move on and so you can stop worrying. you have a lot going for you right now and life for you hasn't even begin to start yet. look at this as a lesson learned and mature from it so the next time you are involved with a pretty girl(which sounds like you certainly will be because you sound like a good guy and girls dig that!) make sure you don't make the same mistakes from previous relaionships.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2005): I'm afraid the same is happening with me man, I'm trying to try as hard as I can to show her that I love her and I'm trying to enjoy the last bit of time I have with her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2005): well it sounds like she already made up her mind already i would say move on. You need to face the fact that it might not be meant to be. Your young it may sound hard to do but you'll get over it and find someone who is worth your love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2005): It sounds like you have done a lot to try to explain yourself. How hard have you listened? Ask her how she feels. Repeat back to her what your understanding of the situation is. Make sure that she agrees that you have firm understanding of how she feels. Then explain your situation to her. Have her repeat back how she understands the situation. Find a solution that works for both. Your solution may be that you should no lonber be together, but you'll both know that this is the right solution. Remember in a relationship, always seek first to UNDERSTAND, then be understood. God Bless.
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reader, Kay-the-Cloud +, writes (26 October 2005):
You love her, yes? Have you ever considered that she doesn't feel the same way about you anymore? It's not nice when you're being ignored by the one you love, but you have to remember, a relationship has two people in it and we can't control what the other feels. You'll probably find someone better, you are only 14, very young. You have your whole life to have a relationship. My advice would be, talk to her. Tell her you feel ignored and that you really love her. If she still ignores you then end your relationship with her, you'll feel better! Hope I've helped! Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2005): Just ask her why she has been so distant but not agresivly ask her calmly, and say to her that you love her but dont act all needy and say to her that if she does want to leave you that its her loss because i can see that you have feelings for her ,if she cant see that give your love to someone who will appreciate it
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reader, pops +, writes (25 October 2005):
You are only 14. YOu are not going to keep anyone forever for a number of years. Accept that, and stop driving yourself nuts. The girl has found a reason to dislike being around you. It can be the wrong reason, but she is entitled to make her own mistakes, just as you are. So, she may be making the mistake of her lifetime. At her age, she can correct this, if she reconsiders what she has lost in leaving you. IN the meanwhile, leave her alone, and find someone else to like. You are not the first to meet a girl at your age and be very seriously in like with her- I don't think I knew, and I don't think you or anyone at age 14 really knows what love is- and lose her. It is part of growing up. Learn from the mistakes you have made. Think about the arguments, how they started, how the misunderstanding and miscommunication began, and learn from that. Being direct about your feelings and emotions may not always win you friends, but people you are close to will always know where your head and heart are at. When you see her in school, smile, be polite, and respectful, but leave it at that. She will come to admire you for your classy way of treating her after the breakup. Most guys go around telling rumors and lies about girls who break up with them, on the theory that they have a right to hurt her back. Don't do that. Whatever happened between the two of you, should remain between you two. If she tells her girlfriends something about the relationship, ignor it. If one of her girlfriends approach you and accuses you of doing something bad to your gf, don't respond. Or simply say, you didn't hear that from __________. Be a class act, and I bet some of her girlfriends may just let you know they are interested in dating you, now she is out of the way.
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reader, gillybean2k5 +, writes (25 October 2005):
 Have you ever considered that your girlfriend might be cheating on you? It's a strong possibility, the signs are there; the abandonment, the arguing, the desire of leaving you. These are guilty signs. Love is a strong word to be using at 14, are you sure you really love her? If you do, don't tell her *too* often, most girls don't like it when guys are ALWAYS telling them that, the guy comes off as desperate or clingy. That's never a good image.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2005): Sorry for your loss mate. But I have been there myself even at your age. Women are very hard to figureout and eal with , but it is one of those lessons in life that take time to accomplish. Even after numerous years of trying to figureout if i am goign or coming , I have managed to Fall in love a few times and none of them hurt more then the ones that want to push you away. Things will get better trust me I survive to this day knowing that one day i will find a person in this world that loves me as much as I love them . You are young that doesn't mean you can't feel love but enjoy your youth and be happy you were not involed more and she chooses to push you away. Best Wishes
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