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I love my girlfriend but can't get my ex out of my head

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Question - (15 June 2017) 6 Answers - (Newest, 23 June 2017)
A female United States age 22-25, anonymous writes:

I've been with my current girlfriend for 2 years. I love her to pieces but I can't get my ex out of my head. I miss her and want to talk to her again. She had been upset about me for a long time but she may have gotten over me. I've ways loved her. I feel like I love them both at the same time but I'm not prepared to lose my girlfriend or shatter whatever fragment is left of my ex. I don't know what I should do.

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland + , writes (23 June 2017):

aunt honesty agony auntIt is ironic how you ended your relationship because she kept her ex's around and now you are doing the exact same thing to your girlfriend. Your ex sounds to me like she is the type off person who doesn't let go in a relationship. You need to make the decision off who you want, because you cannot have both, and at the moment you are being disrespectful to your own girlfriend.

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A male reader, WiseOwlE United States + , writes (16 June 2017):

I think you're trying to make an excuse for your behavior, my friend. I just read your second post.

If this is all about tit for tat; then that's a very childish way to conduct your relationship.

So what you're saying is, you're getting back at your girlfriend for bringing up her exes?

It's just a matter of time. I guess this is what causes most breakups. Lack of trust, and two childish people who go back and forth with nonsense and silly mind-games.

You're very young. You need time to grow-up; and you'll gain experience and learn from your mistakes.

Break-up and work on getting your ex back. The odds are against her wanting you back. She will tease you and play with your emotions, if she knows you still want her; but exes do that to be spiteful.

I guess you've proven my speculation that your current girlfriend is a rebound romance.

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A male reader, WiseOwlE United States + , writes (15 June 2017):

If you can't get your ex out of your head, your girlfriend is just a stand-in or a rebound. You're using her as a substitute; while you wait for an opportunity to get your ex back. Waiting for her to breakup or have an opening; so you can work your way back.

Does your current girlfriend resemble your ex? Same hair color, eyes, and some of her other features?

No insult intended towards you, but I hate the phrase " I love her to pieces...but!" That statement sounds obligatory. Very insincere. You love your ex, but you'll settle for your present girlfriend in the meantime. That's what you heart is saying.

What do you do? You come to terms with the fact that the old relationship died. You bury the memories in the past. You show your current girlfriend your true face; or let her go.

She has the right to love someone who loves her, and her alone.

Your girlfriend is going to figure-out if you still want your ex. At your age, guys are not very good at hiding things like that. I'll bet you anything, she already knows it.

Girls snoop your phone and devices. At some point you'll be dying to contact your ex. How many times have you done it?

The questions are rhetorical. Keep the answers to yourself.

Better choose! Make sure she doesn't read your post!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2017):

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She had a bunch of exes on her case who admitted to still loving her. She claimed she was only friends with them but the fact that she kept them around upset me. She was one of those people who said that of the love was real it never went away. Which made me presume she still loved them, since she told me she had before. I feel as though she hates me now.

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A male reader, Denizen United Kingdom +, writes (15 June 2017):

Denizen agony auntYou can only ever have half the world. Why did you break up with your first girlfriend if you love her so much? Or did she dump you? Do you really think it will be better now?

Make your mind up - one or the other - man up, make a decision and live with it.

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A male reader, judgedick France +, writes (15 June 2017):

judgedick agony auntyou went into the new relationship too fast , you need time to get your head right ,

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