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writes: I have been with my girl or almost a year. Im in love with her so much, but it really bothers me about the guys she has slept with beore me and she is my 1st girl riend. What should i do to get over this?
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reader, markmark1 +, writes (23 December 2006):
markmark1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni really do love her and i know she loves me back! another thng tha bothers me is her old bf is always texting her or callin her, it really makes me mad! he asked her to get ack with him but she said she wouldnt but i already knew she wouldnt. and she works at a store where her old bf is there some times. it drives me nuts to think about it. sex to me isnt something to just go around and do, its something very ver special, i dunnlo i guesss its just something or me and her to do u know? it makees me feel very close to her and understand her
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reader, markmark1 +, writes (23 December 2006):
markmark1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all you helpin me. i constantley think about it all the time and it makes me misrible!!
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reader, eddie  +, writes (23 December 2006):
 Everybody has a past. That's good. It prepares us for the future. IT prepared her to be with you. She doens't have to justify anything to you. You have to accept that. Don't dwell on it or continue to ask about it. I guarantee it's not a question she' entertain for long.
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reader, DinaLeila +, writes (23 December 2006):
 The past is what it is and you can't change that but if you really do love her the best thing to do is concentrate on the future you could have with her. However, if you worry about this too much then you will be risking your future together. So look passed and it and enjoy what you do have. If it does bug you too much maybe you should take counselling although your girlfriend may not react well to this.
Take Care and Good luck
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reader, bonym  +, writes (23 December 2006):
 Hi, well I always say that the past is the past. There may be reasons why she had som many sexual partners in the past, maybe she has esteem issues and felt that my sleeping with lots of men she would feel wanted and needed and loved.
Try talking to her, but dont hold her past against her, every bridge ought to be burned behind you, forward still is the way. Take care. xXx
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reader, Nikita +, writes (23 December 2006):
 Hi Mark, Im afraid there's not a lot you can do about her past but there is a lot you can do about her future, and that is, realise that she's with you now and try and stop thinking about her other bfs. They are her ex's for a reason. Everyone has a past and what she did before she met you is gone and done with. you'll drive yourself crazy if you keep on thinking about it and her too. I think its worse for you cos she's your first gf but its not her fault she's had other partners. just concentrate on her and your relationship before you become her ex too! Seriously, you've been together for a year so she must love you and think highly of you. Just enjoy your time together and forget about the others. Have a good xmas okayxx
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reader, forgetmenot +, writes (23 December 2006):
 hi there :) What you're feeling is completely normal. I'd say most people go through it at some stage. In fact there's a lot of posts about just this. Here's one that's along a similar vein that I replied to recently http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-thought-i-could-get-over-this-insecurity.html
A lot of it aplies to your situation too.
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