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I love my ex, but she doesn't know who she wants. Should I leave or stay?

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Question - (12 January 2007) 3 Answers - (Newest, 12 January 2007)
A male age 36-40, *utta writes:

look me and my ex lashenia have been apart for 1 year and 6 months and i want her back we talk like every day but she tell me she want me back also after dumping me because she have feeling for someone else but she came back to me and we started to get back sexually and my feeling just came out but she said was confused about who she want and she still tell me she love me and still in love with me in so many ways so sould i leave or stay just remember i love her to ?

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A male reader, Big boy +, writes (12 January 2007):

Big boy agony auntShe just wants the sex... it's up too you, the same way she comes to you is the same way she go's to the next man, if you are cool with that fine, if your are not well you know what to do...

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A reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2007):

If you have been apart for a year and 6 months and she's already involved with someone else, it's time for you to let go of this relationship and move on. She left you because she was searching for something else. She's feeling guilty because you're probably a nice guy and she hates the thought of hurting you. Therefore, she is sort of trapped in a vortex of wanting to be with someone else, but feeling the guilt of leaving you in shambles. Let her go because she is already half-way gone and this going back and forth, having daily contact with her, having sex with her occasionally is keeping you in limbo and that is not a good place for anyone to be. Make a clean cut of it too. No more contact. No more confusing visits that keep you holding onto some kind of false hope that she's going to return. I know it'll be hard, but you have to do this for yourself. 1 year and 6 months is longer than most people would stay in this situation. You've given it your best shot. I wish you peace, and future love because you have so much to give to the right lady. :-)

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A reader, I Dont Lie +, writes (12 January 2007):

I Dont Lie agony auntFirst of all, well done on finishing your whole post in just one sentence! I mean who needs punctuations nowadays anyway! Thing of the past that is!

Right, sarcasm over, now to your question. What you need to realise is the fact that when someone dumps you, the ball isn't in your court anymore! And once you realise that, I would not see why you would wanna still put up with the waiting for her nonsence. Once someone's moved on with someone else, regardless on whether they take you back for casual sex, you should start thinking about your future, with you alone in it! I suggest you leave her be and not contact her, let her stew in her own confusion. If she doesn't know what she wants, there's no way in the world you guys are going to work out!! Give it a short period of time, and if she's still adamant she wants out, then you should thank your lucky stars she's not in your life anymore, and move on!! Good luck.

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