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I love my boyfriend, but I have strong feelings for another girl...

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Question - (3 July 2009) 4 Answers - (Newest, 4 July 2009)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, *enusinfurs writes:

MY name is Alice and I am 18. I've been with my boyfriend for about 5 months and its going okay, I do love him despite his struggle to stop taking ketamine on a regular basis.

The drugs do get in the way because he has become quite selfish, we don't do normal 'couple' things like going to the cinema or dinners out.

The sex is okay, although because I am bisexual I crave other women and generally prefer lesbian sex.

Recently, I started talking to another girl and she has been playing on my mind constantly, she is very forward and likes me, and I really like her too.

The problem is, I don't want to cheat on my boyfriend although I am developing strong feelings for the girl, Shane, so I am stuck in the middle.

What should I do?

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A female reader, emotional day United Kingdom +, writes (4 July 2009):

Hey there Alice, i am going through a similar situation as i have been with my b/f for 3 years and have now fallen head over heels in love with another gal who i work with. I've been majorly stuffed up to be honest. Im currently still with the bf although he is not on drugs. From what you've said your relationship with your fella doesn't sound great and doesn't seem to be your first priority. Even from the way you wrote your question you seem to have put this other gal as your number 1 priority, but then again im not sure how well you know this gal either. I'd say leave it for a while and get to know the girl a bit more. Maybe go out as mates for a while and see if any sparks happen. Once you are sure its up to you to leave your bf. Seems harsh but there is nothing wrong with hanging out as friends is there? Also for goodness sake if you stay with the bf try to get him some help with the drugs. If he wants to do that to himself so be it...but if he hurts you in the process then you know it seriously ain't a relationship worth keeping xxxx

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A female reader, emotional day United Kingdom +, writes (4 July 2009):

Hey there Alice, i am going through a similar situation as i have been with my b/f for 3 years and have now fallen head over heels in love with another gal who i work with. I've been majorly stuffed up to be honest. Im currently still with the bf although he is not on drugs. From what you've said your relationship with your fella doesn't sound great and doesn't seem to be your first priority. Even from the way you wrote your question you seem to have put this other gal as your number 1 priority, but then again im not sure how well you know this gal either. I'd say leave it for a while and get to know the girl a bit more. Maybe go out as mates for a while and see if any sparks happen. Once you are sure its up to you to leave your bf. Seems harsh but there is nothing wrong with hanging out as friends is there? Also for goodness sake if you stay with the bf try to get him some help with the drugs. If he wants to do that to himself so be it...but if he hurts you in the process then you know it seriously ain't a relationship worth keeping xxxx

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A female reader, misscafc United Kingdom +, writes (4 July 2009):

the qestion is do you really love him? if you do you will forget this other girl and get on with yiu relationship if not then you need to break up with him do not get with this girl straight afterwards give yourslef time to think and get over your boyfriend, also your boyfriend needs help on getting off the ddrugsx

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A female reader, cherry cherry boom boom United States +, writes (3 July 2009):

Well don't lie and cheat if you feel being with this girl is worth braking up with your bf then so be it but if you love him more then you should be with him and maybe your boyfriend even concider a threesome. This ya girl, peace.

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