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writes:there is a lad i use to go ut with during school, he was my first love and ive never really got over him, we went our seperate ways and lately weve been texting i fell pregnant by my boyfirend at the time but it didnt last and i slept with my ex tom while i was pregnant i knew that was just a one off i had my son in september and recently toms been texting me about staying at my house we slept together again about 2 months ago all my old feelings came flooding back, nothing happened then and we didnt talk aboutgetting back together, my on isnt his so it wouldnt be fair on him, we were texting in the week again and last night he stayed at mine and we slept together it was great i love him so much but i dont know if im being used. i need some one elses opinion. please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankx 4 ur replys!! ... he does text 2 c how i am and what im doin etc etc ... yes he knows my son is not his ... he knows the father and he doesnt like him ... he knows what the dad put me through ... im so confused ... i love him so much!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok well no we havent been out 4 a meal or watchin a dvd or ne thing. we use 2 back wwe use 2 go out. thing that makes me think is that after we sleep together he getsa bit strange with me and that and then after a few days hes back exting again!!
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reader, Silence is Golden +, writes (31 March 2007):
i would talk to him and ask him straight up of what he is hopeing to gain from all this? ask him if he wants a relationship or just someone to sleep with from time to time. I can understand that you feel used. So therefore be upfront and ask him. That way you know exactly where you stand.!Good luck!
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reader, cd206 +, writes (31 March 2007):
 I think it's quite telling that you don't mention anywhere that he came over to watch a dvd or you went out for a meal or anything. You just say you've had sex three times. Sounds like that's al the relationship is to him but maybe he thinks that's all you want. Talk to him.
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reader, Miss C +, writes (31 March 2007):
 You don't say how Tom feels about you but it sounds like he is just using you. Does he ever text you about anything else besides staying at your house? If all you both do is have sex with no discussion about getting back together then it sounds like he is only after you for one thing. What is he like with your son and does he know it is not his? Don't get involved with this man if he is messing you around and leaving you unsure of where it's leading to. You should be looking to find someone who is interested in the emotional side of a relationship much more than the physical side. This is especially important because you have a son to think about and he is your main priority. You need to find someone stable who is ready to support both you and your son. You say that it isn't fair on Tom because it isn't his baby but if he loved you like you seem to love him then wouldn't he accept the fact you have a child belonging to another man. If you think having sex with him is a way of moving forward and the development of a relationship with your ex then you're wrong. You need to find out if he is more interested in sex or a real relationship and also find out how he feels about you and your son. Is the reason he has avoided getting back with you becasue of your son? If so then you must move on. as i said before, your son should be your first priority and even though it's tough, anyone who loves you will have to deal with that. I wish you luck! Regards, from Miss C.
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