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I love him but we want different things, please help?

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Question - (19 December 2009) 0 Answers - (Newest, )
A female Ireland age 36-40, anonymous writes:

my boyfriend and i have recently broken up after 3 years of being together. we still love each other very much and are completely attracted to each other.

the problem was that we didn't actually have what i consider a real relationship.

when we got together at first we used to go out all the time with our group of friends, we went on sum weekends away and were always having fun.

as time went on this got less frequent and eventually i ended up never going out at all or having any kind of fun. i gave up on all my friends as they seemed to be causing hassle between us became isolated and depending on my boyfriend to take me out to have fun but he didnt. he just was going out with his friends all the time and never wanted me around.

eventually i got very upset and depressed at the situation and whenever i would try to express this we ended up arguing all the time.

i love him with all my heart and he is a good person but i cant understand why he never wanted me around.

we talked about it recently and i told him that i wanted to go out together, go on holidays together and do those kind of things but he said that he did not want that and it was not the type of person he is.

i just dont understand this at all. how can he love me but not want to share our time and socialize together?

we are still in contact with each other daily and we are still in love but i dont know what to do. i know he doesn't want the same things as me but at the same time i dont want this to be the end of our relationship. am i wasting my time, love and effort on this guy or should i give it more time and wait for him to come round?

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