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writes:My husband and I have been married for almost 2 years. Before we got married, the sex was great, but now I'm lucky if we make love once or twice a month. I've tried talking to him about this, but he always wants it to be all on his terms. Sometimes I wonder if he's taking care of his needs elsewhere, but I don't have any proof of that. I love him, but am tired of feeling so un-satisfied. What should I do? Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2008): Hey, thanks for the advice. I don't see this getting any better quickly, but I appretiate the ideas on how to get it fixed.
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reader, Ginalolabridga  + ♥, writes (30 November 2008):
 Hi,
I agree with Liewe you talk to him when sex suddenly stops you automatically know something is not right now if he is demanding it only on his terms i would be seriously asking why he is not interested in your needs and wants!
Two people in a marriage have got to agree on this one otherwise problems will emerge.
Does he view porn? Reason i ask is you mentioned about his need's maybe getting met elsewhere porn can be a reliever for a lot of men and something he may not let you know about just a thought!
If no joy after the questions then i would suggest seeing a doctor to see why he has lost his sex drive he is way too young to be ignoring this so have a word again with him tell him you are seriously concerned because you feel it is starting to infringe on the relationship and your not prepared to sit back and do nothing even if he is!
Good luck.
Ginalolabridga
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2008): TALK TO HIM. communication in a marriage is very important. If you have done that, or tried that without any success, I think you should suggest to him that you go for couple counseling. I cannot stress enough how important it is that you talk to him and tell him how you feel. He needs to know how unhappy and unsatisfied you are; he needs to know that you are wondering where else his needs are being fulfilled. His lack of libido might be due to numerous factors and issues, but the two of you need to talk about this and take all the necessary steps from there. A medical examination for him to establish his overall health etc. He might be over worked, stressed, be on medication, lots of things that could have an effect on his libido, but you need to get to the root of the problem.
Medical examination and counseling is what I suggest.
I know it might not be easy to convince him, but you need to make it very clear how you feel and that if he wants to save the marriage there is no other options.
Good luck. Keep us posted.
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