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writes:i am a gay teenager. Me and my boyfriend have been goin out for 9 months and have been friends for 12years. Before we went out we both had girlfriends until 1 nite last summer when i got drunk and he made a move on me and told me he wanted to be with me and that he loved me but he is embarassed about our relationship and dosent want every1 to know but i doo. I love him but i want a relationship that i can tell every1 about should i dump him and find someone else or should i just go along with my current bf in secret relationship?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2011): hiI think you should talk to him about it ...tell him that he wouldn't want to have a secret life for ever... having a double life is a terrible mistake ....look i come from the middle east and I'm gay...do you know what does that mean... it means I'll be either killed or killed so I chose to stay in the closet for ever...until one day.. when I woke up and said I've had it ..I packed my stuff and I left the country...you can't imagine how great the feeling of liberty is...tell him that he should be happy he was born in where he can be him self without getting killed..I wish I had that ...and that I didn't have to leave the place where I was born and brought up just to be my self...
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reader, gaydating  +, writes (27 May 2011):
Hey, dont dump him because of that! You have to understand that not everyone has a family that support them as gay people. If you have a family that supports you, thats great, but not everyone is as lucky as you. Just give him sometime. Maybe til he goes to college, and moves out from their parents' house, of course only if you guys are still going out. If you truly love him, you will understand him, and you will give him time. Dont force him to come out. You dont have to tell everyone, maybe just tell close friends, people who both of you trust. I cant really make you chose, because thats up to you. You have to ask your self if you truly love him and if you are willing to wait til he's ready. If your answer is no, then break up with him. I'm just going to warn you, most of gay guys are not out at your age, many wait til they are independent and have moved out from their parent's house....oh you also need to think on how his family will react if he comes out to them. Do they hate gay people? are they conservative parents? are they going to support their gay son? These are some of the many questions you have to ask yourself... Don't be selfish, If you love him you will make the decision that is going to be best for both of you.
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify +, writes (27 May 2011):
 dont force things but i can understand there is a limit to how long you can tolerate this.
its rare to find someone you are that close to that loves you. maybe keep asking him to show his love for you by going in the open.
coming out isn't that scary as long as you have a lot of support. if you have each other then that will make a huge difference.
just remember he might be very worreid about the negative reactions you two might face mostly from his family i would guess.
how do you think his family would react to this announcement?
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