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writes:im 15 years old and i have a b/f that is 23 years old.i love him with all my heart. we've only been dating for 4 months and already i love him and wanna spend the rest of my life with him, but my dad dont approve. a lot of people think its weird but i dont..he dont.if your in love then wats the problem? now, it'd be different if i was like 11 or 12 but im really mature. Sometimes i feel like i mite miss out on other things, but not too much because he dont care if i go and hang out with my friends or anything. is that weird? he dont just use me for sex either like most guys would...and i really like older guys because they're more mature and know how to treat a girl than most immature guys my age. should i try to take a break with him to try other guys? but i kinda dont want to?? I don't know, i'm realy confused!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you everyone for the advice i appreciate it a lot! :]
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reader, Dr. John +, writes (30 June 2008):
 If this guy is so great then he should not mind waiting awhile before trying to carry on a full blown relationship with you.
You are at an age where your feelings for someone can change rapidly and you won't understand why.
I understand that you feel sure you want to spend the rest of your life with him. But the rest of your life is a long time so what would it hurt to first give it some time.
I'm sure you have heard people say that the older you get the smarter it seems your parents get.
Well, it isn't that they get so much smarter but as you age you learn that perhaps your parents knew all along what they were talking about.
In my opinion the age difference in itself is not a problem. My Dad and Mom were eight years apart. But they didn't even carry on a relationship until my mother was 18.
They took some time to really get to know one another before they married and it paid off. They were married 48 years and would still be married had we not lost him in 2002.
Think about it. Is he really worth waiting for?
Are you worth it to him?
My best to you both. Doc
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reader, DuncanGreen +, writes (30 June 2008):
 Where does your relationship stand?
You stated that he doesn't "just use me for sex either like most guys would." Does this mean you're active, but don't feel used, or that hasn't forced anything upon you? If he has, he can and should go to jail.
That said, if the two of you find your relationship meaningful than keep it. Although relationships such as yours may be uncommon, I believe it is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all, but just as I'm sure your dad would say 'NO SEX OR DIE!'
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for your advice, but really i dont feel like ive missed out anything and i kinda dont wanna take a break and try things out with other guys..
i really appreciate ur opinion.. it helps a little. :)
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reader, softballplaya +, writes (30 June 2008):
 Hey girl
In my opinion I would listen to your dad. I learner that your parents just want whats best, you may not be able to see that but its true. Everytime I went against my parents judgement I always shortly found myself wishing I had listened. This guy is 8 years older then you. Hes had all his fun and hes grown now, your not. There is still soo much more out there that you will miss out on by staying with him. I could see if you were with a guy your age cuz then you can hang with him and your friends. What 23 year old wants to hang out with a bunch of 15 year olds? None that I know. Im not going to flat out say that your relationship is wierd. "wierd" is an overrated word. Would I see it as normal...well dear, in a sense not really. This guy could get arrested. I would break it off and save yourself all that drama and emotional baggage. Find a guy your age, I know you may feel that you dont want to because your still fixated on this guy but in time you will. I was in that same situation. I dated a highschooler (im 14 he was 16) at that point I only wanted an older guy, but then I dated a guy my age and it was the best relationship I was in. Im not saying you have to listen to me but if you gave it a try I'm sure you will be just fine. Your young still and have plenty of time to grow up, why rush it? Take some time out and think to yourself if your truly happy with him. Still if you do love him you would let him go so he dosent get arrested=/
I know how your feeling girl but it will get better
take care && best of luck!
private mail me if you have any questions or need aything!
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