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writes:I have been with my girlfriend for two years now. Recently we got into a huge argument. As a result of the argument I went over her house to talk to her. I told her that I wanted to forget about everything and get try to make it work between us. She agreed, but a min later she changed her mind. I got a feeling that there was another guy, so I asked her and she said yes. She said she likes him but she loves me. I found out that he and her were "sexting" and they had sent 800txt msgs to each other over the course of a week in a half. She told me that she felt that he was a better match for her and that he could do things that I could't, but she still wants to be with me. I finally convinced her that what she was doing was't right. She is supposed to cut him off but I don't want to be with her anymore because of it. I do love her but she hurt me so I don't know what to do now? Reply to this Question
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reader, Ambassadeur Koko  +, writes (18 April 2011):
 Thesame has been happening in my life. I love my first girl friend so much but she left me over an issue she never disclosed to me upto date. I tried to appologise though I did not know the reason but she refused.
You can't force somebody to love you. Always those we love very much don't feel thesame way we feel for them.
What hold on two people in relationship is love. If she doesn't love you now she will not love you 2moro even if you do evrything you can do.
You need someone who loves you and you will get somebody whom you will love thesame way.
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave  +, writes (18 April 2011):
She can't have her cake and eat it. If she thinks he's a better match for her then you should let her go. The only reason she wants to stay with you is for security.
I don't believe that she would just cut off contact with him.
You are right not to want to be with her any more and it will cause you hurt and pain to end it, but in time you will get over it and look back knowing you made the right decision.
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reader, Aunty Susie  +, writes (18 April 2011):
 I think, if it were me, I'd be walking away from this girl, and not looking back. "Sexting" is cheating in my book. I wouldn't trust her now. And a relationship without trust isn't a good one. Good luck.
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reader, macdubh712 +, writes (18 April 2011):
"She is supposed to cut him off but I don't want to be with her anymore because of it." ----- This statement is the part of you not blinded by emotion and is the one you need to listen to because in all honesty, she might cut him off but probably not. Even if she does cut him off it will only be a matter of time before she finds a new one.
I know it's not easy brother, when you love a girl, to tell her to take a hike but you have to protect yourself and have respect for yourself; if you don't have respect for yourself no one else will.
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