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I lost my virginity to a prostitute. Is this common?

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Question - (12 October 2006) 125 Answers - (Newest, 27 August 2011)
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I lost my virginity to a prostitute. Is this common?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2011):

17 year old. Anyway i slept with a prostitute and i regret it sooo Badly:( I promise to never do that again....I mean if i didn't lose my virginity to a prostitute....Then yeah i would like to visit 1...But i hate thinking about my first sex was with a prostitute...It really kills me...I wish to forget it, but that will never happen...Im struggling with hate to myself

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A male reader, randyrandy80 United States +, writes (24 August 2011):

I had sex for the first time when I was 29 years old. I'm a Utah Mormon and wasn't married at the time.

I wanted to have sex for the first time before I turned 30 so I went to Nevada to have sex with a prostitute. I had a really good time with her. The time I spent with her and other girls like her gave me the confidence to find and have sex with my future wife.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2011):

I didnt lose my virginity to a prostitute, although it was almost like that. My last sexual partner and girkfriend was in 1991, and only had sex (twice) with a Prostitute in March. It wasnt planned, but after 20 years without sex i was not in the least bit hestitant, and would do it again.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2011):

I'm so glad to have found this thread and see there's tons of guys in the same boat. I'm 27, still a virgin and thinking of arranging an encounter with a prostitute too.

I've always been pretty shy throughout my life and tend to always screw up with women. I've had two short relationships, one when I was 22 and another at 25. I've at least experienced making out with women, but even then, I remember her asking me "what's wrong," as we were doing it (at 25). I told her about my lack of experience, which she seemed okay with, but later broke up with me.

I've been to many strip clubs and during my most recent visit, a dancer I clicked with offered to deflower me at a hotel. I politely declined her offer, but told her I may be back later.

I find by the time you're in your late 20's, all this "find the right girl" stuff starts to sound a little too disneylandish and I'd really like to get this weight off my chest. I see others have posted they gained some real confidence afterwards, so I'll probably join the club in the next coming months.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2011):

I lost my virginity at 19 to a prostitute. it was a horrible experiance.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2011):

My husband lost his virginity to a street prostitute at age 19, for the same reason as many of the guys here, i.e. shyness. He continued to visit prostitutes for a time after that until he got a girlfriend.

I can understand wanting to lose the "curse" of virginity, as some guys here have described it, and if you’ll feel better just being rid of it, why not?

However it is important to keep in mind that the type of experience you gain from sex with a hooker is limited. Visiting a prostitute doesn’t teach you one of the most important parts of sex, which is how to please a partner. A prostitute is there to please you and flatter you, and to collect a wage. Any pleasure she manifests is faked.

This doesn’t really teach you about sex as practiced in a relationship and can instill some bad habits e.g. selfishness. In my husband’s case, I have had to teach him the importance of foreplay, how women’s bodies work and that giving me pleasure requires a certain finesse - not just banging away at me for ten minutes while suffocating me with his weight.

No doubt a lot of this is attributable to him, as a person, and not simply to the fact that he started his sex life sleeping with prostitutes. However I think if he had had those important early experiences with regular partners instead of resorting to prostitutes he would have a better sense of what normal sex involves.

So lose your virginity to a prostitute if you must - just don’t forget there’s more to “the real thing” than what you’ll experience with a hooker.

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A male reader, abcdaman United States +, writes (9 March 2011):

I lost mine this way,unless your really getting up there in ago it's best to just wait. Beyond the std risk,imo it's no big to get a hooker don't feel so bad about it,I agree with person who said part of it is almost knowing what once you have sex with a normal girl. In many places it's company to lose it that way. I so honest that it does me in b.c I can't lie about how I did it and if I mention what I did it's a huge problem. Trust me be very careful who you mention it to even if they seem cool with idea,they still might look down to you on the low or have a big mouth. I think it's better to get the 1st one in a natural way and then call a hooker if your on a dry spell. Many girl will not care,find it sweet or cut you some slack or even find it kinky they are dirty you up,lol.

I stress to those who did it, don't feel morally wrong about it,I use to feel that way. It just sucks how society look down upon some one. It crazy in someways b.c I had sex with 3 hookers,my 1st time was really bad and the 2nd was kind of awkard. Man the 2nd and 3rd time the girls where beyond beatufil and the last one I was totally relaxed and had awesome sex. The pure bliss of the sex combined with how drop dead beatuful the girl was is gonna make it almost impossablie to match.

The key is to realize is the hooker is not reality. It can become a huge crutch we have to learn how to pick up a girl and all the stages until sex. Recognize the vibes,know the game plus have confidence. I think everyone should lost it the 1st time with a regular girl. I am more confident with talking to,flirting with and getting girls. I am still bad at closing the door. A hooker one can just bang away and ask them to do this and that. A friend of mine I feel is worse of then me b.c he became addicted to them. I understand b.c hey he is having sex with models that would be impossible in real life. He starting to realize he has no idea how to even approach a girl that he likes.

Using an escort for a dry spell,becoming better at sex or just b.c dam they look amazing are the best reason to use them but understand the dangers. Stds.getting hustled or robbed. Find a way to do it safely and be careful who you mention it to. Another big danger is getting arrested.

The 1st and 3rd time I was drunk,the 1st time my friend just called and I was put on the spot. The 2nd time I just seen the girl and got hard instantly.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2011):

I lost my virginity to an escort (beautiful at that) and I am 17 (18 in 4 weeks) I didn't want to get to 18 and go to Uni and be a complete tard at having sex. She was very understanding, saying that I didn't have to do it if I didn't want to, but I insisted.

I haven't been lucky with women during my life, but today I met up with some friends, and it has really boosted my self confidence with girls, knowing that if it gets to that stage, I can perform.

Only today did I meet up with some friends. Was really good, and I am meeting up with one if the girls I saw today on Saturday for a proper date.

I'd say an escort is more of a teacher than just someone to have sex with. Count it as 1-to-1 education.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2011):

hello people i lost my virginity to a hooker yesterday and i feel really bad about it like a part of me has died and gone forever. I really cannot feel any different from anyone else and i feel like my innocence was one of the things i loved the most about myself I mean i even used to mention being a virgin to my friends and in songs and i used to be proud of it really so i dont know what to do I wish i could regain my virginity or have my memory wiped or something. :(

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2010):

after I read some of the comments;I'm gonna have a go! I am just about to be 30(in just few month) And I am still virgin, let me tell you guys It's not worth it, you think about sex all the time, hurting yourself with the idea of being rejected everytime you want a serious long term relationship, I've had it, I am gonna do it!!!!!, I am gonna wear a condom of course!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2010):

I lost my virginity to a hooker just a couple weeks after my 18th birthday last May (it was the end of my junior year in high school). It's not that I had never had a girlfriend; I've had a few. I was just desperate to get rid of my virginity. It felt like a burden or curse, and then a relief when it was gone. I attend a small private high school so there's not that much partying or dating going on.

I don't regret it at all. Virginity or the "special someone" doesn't mean anything to me. I now have a great girlfriend. Because I had previous experience I was prepared for the first time we had sex.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2010):

This is directed to the last poster who wondered if he might be failing some kind of test by having sex with an escort/prostitute. Dude don't worry about it you'll be fine. There is nothing morally wrong with paying an escort for some fun no strings attached sex. Now remember an escort is not a replacement for a girlfriend, she is there for money, you're there for sex. Since it will be your first time make sure and do your homework. Get on the net and look up escort reviews in your area. Read, Read, and read some more till you get to know the lay of the land. Make sure and book an appointment with an independent escort not one that works for an agency. Get an escort that has good reviews, preferably one that is good at GFE or the girlfriend experience. Let it be known in your initial communication with said girl that this will be your first time. Make sure and book enough time, not because you'll last long but because you don't want to worry about time. Try and find someone you think you'll click with, it will make it easier on you and make the experience less artificial. Use protection, of course condoms are mandatory, don't ever not use them. Like the poster in the Marine Corps put it, this is the most honest relationship in regards to sex that you can have. Once you get the v card out of the way you can focus on finding the right one for a relationship. Don't even worry about telling how you lost it either, it's no ones business but yours. Sorry about the rant but it had to be said.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2010):

Hey all of you, im lost my virginity when i was 13, yesterday it was on one of the best clubs of my city, i payed 300dollars for the chick but it was simply amazing DO IT if you are nervous there is nothing to be shy of.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2010):

I'm glad I found this column, it is good to know that there are other guys going through something similar.

I'm 31 and am a complete and utter disaster when it comes to relationships. I am good looking, I'm not obese or anything, I can approach girls and talk to them, but I seem to always say the wrong thing and turn them off. I have followed the advice of my female friends for years and it has just failed, failed and failed. I always end up in the "friend" zone. Things are really bad, I haven't even made out with a girl. EVER. In the past, when a girl has been sexually interested in me, I have not been able to smoothly handle it, not knowing what to do. And then there are some girls who have been really attracted to me, but I'm not interested in them and honestly I don't want to use anyone just for sex, or just to practice on. I wouldn't want someone to do it to me so I don't do it to others.

When I was in my early 20s, I always had faith that the "right one" would come along and I thought I would "save myself" for her, but I have pretty much given up on that idea now. Or maybe the right one came along and I just messed up. It doesn't matter. I mean really, I have been waiting for over 15 years, and at this rate, I'll grow old and die a virgin.

It is funny, I am a computer nerd, I can fix computers quickly and rapidly, I have a good job, but the whole issue of sex and relationships is a major problem to me. Girls seem to enjoy my company, they just don't look at me as a sexually attractive person.

And the fact of the matter, is at my age, girls do expect a guy to have some experience and I have heard that a lot of girls are repelled by virgins, that is probably part of the problem.

Now, having said all that, I'm a very religious person and I feel divided about going to an escort. My religious side says no and my masculine side says hell yes. Anyone in a similar situation.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2010):

I lost mine to a prostitute in Spain when I was 23. I had a very strict upbringing and was also very shy as a teenager and young adult. The prostitute was about 30 and much nicer than anyone I would have met during a night out in England. Unfortunately I did not manage to ejaculate. In fact I did not even know I was in a brothel. I thought it was just a bar and was not looking for a prostitute but was approached and seduced by this lovely lady who asked me to buy her a drink and then took me upstairs. Oh the joy of fondling a pair of breasts for the first time in my life! They were small and firm and the nipples were dark brown brown and hard.

Unfortunately I had already drunk quite a bit, I was very nervous and had masturbated immediately prior to leaving the hotel so what started off as a wonderful experience (I even managed a 69 at one point) ended up rather pathetically with me desperately trying to cum but failing. It was another two years before I put things right. This time abroad again with another beautiful prostitute. It was all planned and I didn't masturbate for a week before hand. Took her back to my hotel and she wanked me off in her hand and it shot right up in the air. In the morning we had sex and I came inside her (with condom of course). I had broken my duck and there was no stopping me after that.

Twenty years on I can report I am happily married and enjoy a healthy sex life but wish I had gone to a prostitute when I was 16-18 as it seemed to give me a lot more confidence with girls.

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A male reader, Virginboy29 United States +, writes (19 October 2010):

Oh, I'm damn sure about to lose mine to an escort before I turn 30, my life is in a downward spiral for the last 19 years. My Environment with a lot of super-strict family

Members who argued around when I was coming up and now Everyone wants me to be this boxed-in-Pilgrim where I have

To supress all my thoughts and feelings. I can't stand being told what to say, how to say it and when to say it and What to do, how to do it, and when to do it. Too many

Rules on me, I can't have any fun, because of my Religious

Beliefs. I want to keep them, but not at the sake of losing

Myself and my grasp on reality! Long Story short, My Family

Is super-Religious, spiritually-wicked, hypocritical, double-standardish and judgemental all at the same time.

It makes it very hard for me to even talk to them about

Anything, and I can't freely get things off my chest

Without them taking offense to what I have to say. They

Also have my friends trained to act this way too, They

Have a strong willed nature. So, I have to free from it.

My plan in losing it to an escort will be via money from

Some contest just for listening to thie Radio Station or

If They don't come through for me; by calling my name.

Then I will use my check from Junior College and go on

The bus via a pass, head to a hotel and make arrangements

To meet them there. My Family will not be used to some

Strange woman there being paid to spend time with me to

Help with my situation, they will be so judgemental. That

They won't understand why I have to do what I have to do,

But I will do it anyway. Because I'm not going to be old

When I do and then don't know how to, and pretend to. Forget that. I want experience! I will do this soon before

My Thirtieth birthday, no pathetic virgin then.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2010):

Why is it that the majority--if not exclusively-- of all the people who are AGAINST prostitution or say they don't think it is a good idea are people who have never used it? They speak of it as if it is a fundamentally understood "evil" just like arsenic is a fundamentally understood poison. I heard such remarks calling the act "pathetic" and "empty" as well as "sad" and "degrading." Why? So I buy a girl dinner, take her to the movies and drive her all over the place for so called "dates" for how long before I can have frigid, uptight and boring sex with her? Or how about the barfly who I have to get so drunk that the sex is, again, frigid uptight and boring?

I don't like lying to women. I also don't like being honest to women who want me to lie to them (i.e. all women who go to the bar/club.) I use prostitutes out of principle of the matter. You will NOT find a more honest relationship than the thirty minutes that you are with a paid female. PERIOD. She got what she wanted, you got what you wanted, and nobody walks away feeling cheated or lied to. I am young, financially secure, college bound and hell, I am even in the Marine Corps for crying out loud! And what does all this mean when I chat with a girl at a bar? "Oh....you are nice." which translates to "I am too stupid to realize a chance at a solid relationship when there is a cute and possibly abusive guy sitting at the other table and I want to talk to him, not you."

So I will cut this short before I keep ranting. For all of you who think soliciting prostitution is pathetic or sad or even wrong, get the bug out of your ass and grow up. Playing games with the opposite sex is childish and silly and I will have none of it. So for the time being, prostitutes are more sophisticated than at least half of their non-prostituting counterparts.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2010):

I also lost my virginity to a prostitute at the age of 17. I had a lot of girlfriends up to then but just was unable to score. I went to a club in Tijauna and had a beautiful older lady come and sit by me. I was nervous but I started flirting with her. She told me that I could have sex with her for 40 dollars. I hesitated but eventually gave in. She took me upstairs to a dark corner and told me to sit down while she sat on my lap. I got so excited that I stood up and bent her over a nearby table. She acted like it was the best sex she ever had. Shortly after I started banging girls like crazy. I think she boosted my confidence.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2010):

Well this blog or what ever gives me confidence in doing this! Im turning 22 i think its the one reason why i havent been able to hook up with any girl!

but I wont do it in my home town... Im going to AMSTERDAM!

im afraid I would do it again and again if i would go to a whorehouse close to where I live and thats not the idea...

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A reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2010):

Although I do not know how common this is, I can say that I lost my virginity to a escort at the age of 25. The beginning of the year I was 24 and as my 25th birthday was approaching I kept thinking about the terrible state of my life and the fact that I was still a virgin. I had a couple of girlfriends but not serious relationships.

When I eventually turned 25 I decided I searched the internet casually not looking for an escort and came across a website that allowed women and men to create a profile so they can be professional escorts. After searching for so long I contacted one that I liked the look of and arranged to meet her at her flat the day I had off from work. I booked a 1 hour session and when I arrived I explained to her my situation and she understood. I was incredibly nervous, not just because of the experience but because to be truthful I was very turned on, my dick stood up straight as a ruler. After minutes of playing around we started to have sex and soon I ejaculated. She asked me to sit with her on the bed as she rubbed herself over her breasts and asked me to insert a dildo into her vagina. I was still nervous and didn't know what to do. With a sense of guilt and shame I left her with the money and drove home. I never mentioned anything to anyone or probably ever will.

As I said I enjoyed having sex as months went by I looked on the same website again. After roaming the site I found women that are attractive and nearby. I decided to see another woman. I visited her as well and had sex. After a few weeks I did the same again and the same after another couple of weeks.

I lost my virginity to an escort and continue to see escorts. There are reasons why I have done what I have done and one is that I am very attracted to older women 30-60. If I was attracted to girls my age or younger I probably would not have slept with an escort and I can't think of another reason why I would.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2010):

Read this forum loads and it gave me the confidence to go for it. I'm 25 and never sex and it was on my mind all the time. Took the plunge and today went to see an escort. Nice BJ but could not get hard enough for much penetration, she did get it in there for a bit so it still counts... I think!

Do your research, find a nice lady, be up front about your inexperience and enjoy!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2010):

im 22 yrs old i think you should save it for someone you really love and are intimate with, i know that seems like the clquie thing to say but i truely beleive it, i didnt do that and i regreted it ever since. wait until you are intimate with someone you trust, love and want to be with, it makes it more incredible. ive had sex like that with one girl when i was 14-16, after we broke up its kinda been a downward hill of sluts,drug addicts and prositutes. i dont condone it even though im kinda apart of it,,,one day just find the person you love and that will cherish you for you, that is what makes sex the most wonderful thing in life

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2010):

Hi

I'm a girl and I'm thinking of losing my virginity to a male escort. I have the same issues, especially being shy. I kind of just want to get it over with. Should I just go for it. I'm 22 and don't care about sex before marriage or marriage for that matter.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2010):

HI, I am 21 and I still have not lost my virginity. when I was fourteen I had a rare form of non-life-threatening cancer that the only cure apparently was to remove a large section of skin on my forehead which caused a unsightly 6 inch scar running along my left eye brow to approximately 3 inches into my hairline. also I had to wear a protective head-band for two years after this which caused me to suffer from tournament, ridicule and constant harassing questions from both school staff and my classmates. This caused me to become extremely introverted around all people but especially with women. I have never had a girlfriend, nor have I ever had any type of physical relationship with anyone.

I have before and am currently considering the use of a prostitute because of sheer desperation and frustration with my current situation. However every time I begin to do this I feel so awful I can't go through with it. One time I had even worked up enough courage to go into a local brothel I had paid the fee, she was a really friendly and nice person. But I felt like I was forcing someone to have sex with me who didn't want it! And it's true prostitutes want the money, they don't want the sex. I snuck out of the building to my car before she got back to my room from changing her clothes...

I think 13 is way to young to lose your virginity, especially to a prostitute. But I can certainly understand and sympathize with a individual who is over the age of say 20 and still a virgin, because in my honest opinion if it hasn't happened naturally at this point it's 'probably' not going to be happening naturally in the near future atleast that's how I feel... Peace

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A male reader, Stevenjackson United States +, writes (10 September 2010):

Over 40 years ago, when I was 13 years old, I lost my virginity to a prostitute. My 8th grade class went down to New York to take in a Broadway Play and a Baseball game. When we got to the hotel, the teacher said we could go into the city, but needed to be back at the hotal by 5 PM. Several of us went down to Times Square. When we got there, it was a sea of people and after a short period of time, everyone expect me just wanted to get back to the hotel. I decided to walk around and eventaully came on guy who was handing flyers around and it was advertising girls available for $10. I wanted to do it, but was very nervous and scared. I walked to the place and just looked trying to work up the nerve to do it. A guy outside came up to me and said "go on in, there are girls who will take care of you." I was nervous and said, "I have never done this before. The guy handed me a card that just said "Virgin" and said go up there and a nice girl will take care of you. I went up there, gave a women at the door. She said the girls normally give just blow jobs, but in your case she will give you a blow job and then fuck you. I waled in through the door, very nervous and saw a number of girls nude. They all saw the card I had and wanted me. I gave the card to one of the girls and she held my hand and walked me into a room. She said, get undressed and "I take care of you." I got undressed and I looked up and she was staring ay my erection. She laid me down on the matress and started to rub my chest. She moved down on me and began to eat my asshole out. Right before, she put my dick in her mouth, she looked up at m and said, "you will remember me for the rest of your life. Within a minute or 2, I blew my load in her mouth. Right after that she got on the matress, spread her legs and let me finger her. Within a short period of time, I was hard and she said, let's fuck. I climbed on her to fucked her. She was moaning and then it turned into screaming. In about 5 minutes, I blew my load in her. She told me she likes virgin boys and shave my dick hairs to keep as a trophy. I have never told anyone about this.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2010):

I'm planning to lose mine to one real soon!

Makes perfect sense to me.

I'm nearly - don't want to enter my fourth decades still wearing my V-plates!

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A male reader, Mongoose Ireland +, writes (31 August 2010):

I'm 29, and I'm going to be 30 in less than two months, and I don't want to stay a virgin anymore.

Had so many short-term flings with women - kissing, cuddling, but not full sex. I've had a ****ing horrible life - horrible upbringing, bullying parents, so much cruelty done to me I've been introverted and introspective as a result. Most women don't like this I find. Had lots of opportunities for sex, but just not gone the whole way. If I tell women about my life they seem to put two and two together and realise I'm basically a loser.

I'm tall and very good-looking, but this seems to count against me. I look so domineering but my personality is the opposite!

I'm going to go and see an escort soon, lose my cherry, and gain some confidence, so that I know what to do in future.

Booked my liaison already - just something I've got to do.

It's not ideal - I would rather not be doing it this way, but I've got to do it. Found a really hot-looking escort, and spoken to her on the phone, told her I'm a virgin and she says it's okay - she'll go easy etc. Few hundred euros - it's worth it I think.

Don't wanna make it a habit - I can't afford it, but it just feels like something I've got to do.

Ed

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A male reader, player1 United States +, writes (6 August 2010):

I lost my virginity to an escort as well! I did this because i have a girl friend of mine coming over in a couple weeks and were guaranteed going to have sex! So I just didn't want it to be terrible for her! to my amazement I lasted like an hour and did really well so i had nothing to worry about! Now i feel like it was a waste. How many of us actually lose our virginity to our soul mates? Not many! so i don't think its a big deal! If your thinking about doing this, all i can say is... if you think you can do it without caring about moral implications, DO IT. if not? then DONT! Its all in how you look at it! for me it was an overall positive experience! Like that guy said below me. Make sure you buy the BEST one!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2010):

I also had the problem loosing my virginity so I did it with an escort. I was really glad when I did it. I was not embarrassed anymore when people were talking about sex.

If you want to lose it with a hooker than definitely pick the best and hottest escort girl that you can find! Tell her your problem and she will be happy to help you. But pick the BEST money can buy!

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A male reader, jcazx United States +, writes (14 July 2010):

I lost my virginity to a prostitute at age 22 on july 11 2010. I did not do this because I am bad with girls, I am actually pretty good with girls. I did it because I time and time again turn to sex or sexual activities when I am depressed. My mom has been a huge source of pain in my life, as she has a continuing mental illness, and has only recently showed an interest in my life after being absent for many years. I thought getting a prostitute would take away the pain and the numbness I felt on the inside, because I had a very traumatic experience filled with lots of hate and anger before I saw her. But now I realize all it did was make me feel much worse and make the pain amplified. I regret with every fiber of my being losing it to a prostitue , I wish I could take it back. And I will tell my girlfriend and/or my wife that I did this to give them a fair chance. I cant stand what I did, but realized that I did it, and cant take it back. If you need to have sex get a girlfriend, or better yet wait, but this audience I think gf would be the best idea.

Aside from all the moral issues, a sexual experience with a girlfriend (which i have had, although not actual sex), is MUCH MUCH more pleasureful, and meaningful.

Kill two birds with one stone get a girl........which is often easier said than done

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2010):

I'm glad I found this thread. I lost my virginity to a prostitute too, and I admit it. It wasn't the best experience ever!! But to all those looking to loose your virginity to a prostitute my answer is: if you really want to do it, but if you want to wait get to do it with someone other than a prostitute because you will regret for the rest of your life like I have.. I mean yes it was good at the time, but If your in your teens! my advice is go out, meet people, go clubbing meet a girl and loose it to someone you like, being a girlfriend or even someone you meet randomly at a club! much better than going to brothel lol :P.

To all the teenagers out there looking to loose there virginity!! Don't do it unless you really want to!. . ..

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2010):

Yes I too lost my virginity to a prostitute in Amsterdam when I was 18. It wasn't good sex or anything but worth the money not to have to carry your virginity around with you. I say do it because you will never have o tell anyone and you can just see what it's like.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2010):

look at all the pussys on here, "moral implications" this and "wait to do it with someone special" that. i mean really you lot are ment to be men and you sound like a 13 year old girl, why wouldnt you want to tell your wife you had sex with a potistitute when you were younger? she wouldnt care!. if you lose youre virginity to a prostitute, like i did at 16 even though its illegal where i live(london), it will just give you bags of confidence to go on and talk to girls so that you can have sex with girls your own age.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2010):

I'm nineteen, I haven't lost my virginity yet, and I'm not planning to lose it to a prostitute either. Though I can't say that sometimes I'm not tempted to; the loneliness is, really, something I'm tired of. But I can't say that I'm about to give up yet, finding someone. Just putting that idea out there.

To answer the question, yes, losing it to a paid worker does seem common, but there are a number of people who wait it out too.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2010):

I just had sex with my second prostitute. It was much better than the first time since I was nervous the first time I did it.

I don't feel any guilt or shame about losing my virginity to a prostitute and will go back again in future to get more confidence.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2010):

Yes I also lost my virginity to a prostitute.

I believe it is quite common as most men will not admit it due to male pride.

I did it out of fear of staying a virgin which I believe is why men go to prostitutes to lost they virginity. For you are always being told by friends about their great sexual conquests and you feel that you are missing out and you take the view that everybody else is having sex apart from you.

I did not enjoy the experience which was with some young girl in a brothel. I was left feeling confused as I felt guilty that I had used a girl like a bit of meat, and relief that I had finally lost my virginity.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2010):

hi, i am considering having sex soon and am a 18yo male who has had no successful or any relationships for that matter at all, i feel that i want to do it but am not happy with the moral implications that come with it, i believe that personally you should wait to do it with someone special, meaning that you have been in a relationship for quite some time and are ready to proceed with physical intimacy, i think this because thinking long term, you can lie to anybody you want about having sex with a prostitute, but you'll only be lying to yourself plus you'll also feel bad when you do have a long term relationship going, you won't be able to tell your wife and therefore always have an underlying effect that gives you regret and emotional disturbance, anyways that's what i believe and think, but before you do want to have sex with a prostitute think about what i have said and if you are comfortable with it and have no problems whatsoever, then go right ahead!!!!!! :)

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2010):

Well I'm 20 and I'm really happy that i found this thread, it has helped me a lot.

I'm a virgin, never even kissed a girl, i had chronic problems with my stomach most of my teenage years and that left me in a bad depression (and unable to interact with my peers).

Now I'm on antidepressants and some other powerful stuff (that have totally killed my libido). I've resolved most of the problems i have but this one. I really, REALLY whant a girlfrend cuz i'm really lonly.

So I'm thinking of traveling to amsterdam and using that special deflowering agency. It's like 1200€ (6 hours) but i think it would be worth it. I just need have a little intimacy in my life, to break my depression.

Anyway if you think about doing it with a prostitute or have done it, dont feel bad, it's nothing to be ashamed of, she's just human, and what you did has been done from the start of time, does it really matter if she sleeps with you for money or for food?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2010):

I lost my virginity to a prostitute at 25 and it was a HUGE relief. Being a virgin at 25 was killing me. I was very insecure going out with girls because I always had these thoughts that if we were to have sex I would not be able to get it up or cum too fast.

Losing my virginity with an escort helped me get rid of a lot of insecurities I had. For example, I thought my penis was too small to be able to fuck doggy style without it coming out. I also thought that I was going to get tired fast. A lot of things like that. None of that happened and at the end of the session I was left with a huge smile on my face.

If you're a virgin and plan to lose your virginity to a prostitute, here's my advice:

1) Make sure that when you do it you are in a STATE OF HORNINESS and NOT a state of nervousness. If you are feeling very nervous about it then the experience will most likely suck and you are going to have problems with your erection/ejaculation and you'll end up regretting it. When I did it I just HAD TO. I was at a point where everytime I went to a bar I just wanted to jump all over the girls. If you can go to a brothel then that would be better than calling an escort and having to wait for her to arrive to your place. It's ok to be a little nervous, but if you are not feeling any excitement or desire at all to fuck a prostitute then don't do it.

2) Negotiation with her is very important. Make sure to tell her that you want a NICE experience and that you don't want her to rush you or put pressure on you. Tell that to her several times so that she feels she has to give you a good experience. You don't need to tell her that you are a virgin but if you want to then go ahead.

Now for those worried about STDs, here's my advice:

1) Make sure to do it with a medium-high class prostitute, the kind of woman that looks mature and intelligent enough to not take risks and lose her job. Don't do it with any skank or hooker you find on the street that will probably use your money on drugs. Use your common sense.

2) Use condoms for sex AND blowjobs.

3) Don't kiss her and don't eat her out.

You have to be VERY VERY unlucky to catch something if you follow those 3 steps.

Hope this helps!

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A male reader, BORO1453 Croatia +, writes (25 April 2010):

Boys, men, I have the same problem. Almost 25 and still pushing this virginity. I cant get a girl because my social skills are almost 0, i mean i dont fear any man when i am in town, but girls. Ive been in the middle of a battlefield, watch men die in front of me and still i cant approach a girl. My buddy goes to another country to do prostitutes. I laughted at him, you have to pay for it, but now that i have given hope of finding the wright girl and all that BS, I think Im gonna go with it. At least Im gonna have a story to tell, and finnaly touch a girlfriend.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2010):

I lost mine to an Amsterdam prostitute back in November 2009. I've not had sex since so I'm going to a brothel in the city I live in (I live in the UK). Most of my friends have had 5 or so sexual partners by now (I'm 18, my friends vary in age from 18-20), so I figure if I can get up to somewhere around that number I'll be happy enough. I did tell myself I'd only do it once just to get the v-card out of the way...but I guess times and plans change.

To be honest, the relatively small amount of money it costs doesn't matter to me so any people who post "negatives" that say "it costs a lot of money/it's cheaper to do xxx and get a girl"- while I'm far from rich, it doesn't really have any bearing on me. I'm not that broke that I can't live without another £50 in the bank.

For me, my problem with approaching girls is a fear of failure/rejection, which going to a prostitute completely eliminates- if you have the cash, you'll succeed, end of story.

I'll get up to 6 girls I think, then I won't go anymore. Just so I have a respectable number.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2010):

First, I'm a very shy guy who have spend the whole school years in an all-boys school. In college, I just keep to myself and barely talk to girls except for lab works and the occasional "hi". I just cannot stand myself for lacking in confidence, I can't even stand it when I'm already 21 and still a virgin when my mates were proudly telling the hot nights. So...

I just lost mine just now at noon to an escort. However, the time of actual sex was only 30 minutes before the allocated time was over. I did not manage to cum in her as I masturbated before seeing her. My first time in bed and kissing in girl was all done in that fateful afternoon. Got to say it was not bad although I did not cum, I did enjoy the company. I was smiling even until now, I was quite happy to lose my virginity while living up to my fantasy of doing it with a tall girl, a fetish of mine (she's 6' and I'm just 5' 4"). Feels good man. Feeling of guilt? Not a bit, only a little bit of regret for not able to "relief" myself but still I'm satisfied just being able to cuddle up with a girl.

Losing your virginity to a prostitute could be more common than you think, only guys announce it in public. I know I won't tell that I lose it to a prostitute, I'll just say i lose it to some girl.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2010):

i lost it with an escort also. I think it was a good choice because for the first time everyone is kinda bad. So later on you can show the girls that you can satisfy them.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2010):

It totally depends on your gut feeling, if you find it difficult to move on, then take advice first - talk to those you can trust e.g. a friend. Only then make a decision. If you have sex and you're feeling guilty, then ask yourself why? Maybe it wont be for you - we are all different.

However, it's NOT reality. And slowly it can draw you into an addiction; It's a question of balance. Final words - be safe!

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A male reader, bruce lee Nigeria +, writes (12 April 2010):

bruce lee agony aunt There is a strong side and a vulnerable side to everyone. If you listen to the strong side of your mind... you can say to yourself that it's no big deal. Or nothing to be ashamed of. But if you listen to the vulnerable side of yourself, you can say...Oh no, what have I done?

But the true answer is this... You did what you thought was right at the time. And it's a question of what you're willing to live with.

Don't worry. I made the exact same decision when I was 30.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2010):

Never I mean never lose your virginity or your first kiss with a stranger.you will and I'll say this again you will regret losing your virginity the way you did.it's all based upon the morals and ethics that you stand by.if the temptation comes cry out to God before you do it.just wait for the right time,it will come soon enough.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2010):

Never I mean never lose your virginity or your first kiss with a stranger.you will and I'll say this again you will regret losing your virginity the way you did.it's all based upon the morals and ethics that you stand by.if the temptation comes cry out to God before you do it.just wait for the right time,it will come soon enough.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2010):

"im 18 and thinking of doing it with as hooker but im not sure if im going to regret it"

I was in a similar position at 17 and then decided to just get over myself and go all out on a few girls. Succeeded on the first try and a fulfilling relationship ensued, also experience turned out not to be an issue as the girl was a virgin too. I suggest you do the same. Sure, you'll likely suffer a little embarrassment in the process but that's life. Personally I get the feeling I'd regret the hooker scenario if I went through with it. On the other hand, you're never too late to get one so why the rush?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2010):

I lost my virginity to a prostitute in Amsterdam last year when I was 20. I did not go to Amsterdam with this intent, but when I got to the Red Light District I began to seriously think about it. After I left my friends and wandered about alone for a couple of hours debating it in my mind, I began to ask prostitutes how much. Once I became comfortable doing this, I found myself walking into one of the red rooms. I couldn't believe I actually did it. Even though it was no strings attached and devoid of any emotion, the physical act of sex got me over the stigma of being a virgin and being terrified of having sex. Since then I have managed to have three non-prostitute sex partners. So, for me it was a great experience.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2010):

I think that losing virginity to a prostitute or escort is not very uncommon. I bet that a lot of guys do it, they just don't advertise it. As one guy pointed out women these days expect a man to be experienced or at least have the general mechanics of it down. Also I think that the age at which you lose it is not super important. If a guy is extremely shy and has trouble meeting women this might be the only way for him to get out there and get some action. Another good reason for doing it with an escort is so you can take care of the raging hormone issue. I find that when conversing with a nice looking woman you are sending off all kinds of signals especially sexual ones. This makes you come on too strong and the woman might back away from you because of your sexual wants. However once you get some no strings attached sex you're not focused totally on getting a woman to bed and you can have a regular conversation that might lead to a relationship if you want. Or at least that's what I read, but for real I did notice that the conversation part is totally true. Also I know for a fact that there is a whole community of guys out there that see escorts on a regular basis. These dudes aren't exactly ashamed of their behavior and most of them are usually married. So I think that the shame factor of it should be minimal. It's just sex not a commitment for life. If you want some action look up escorts in your town or city on the web do your research and find one that fits your budget. Of course the first time is probably gonna suck but this is why you want the practice, so when you finally do get to relationship sex you more or less know what to do. Unless you're lucky enough to land a virgin female and that is a rare beast these days.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2010):

I lost my virginity to a prostitute almost 3 years ago when I was 22. It was what I needed at the time, the sexual repression was driving me insane. Since then i've learned how to talk to girls and lost my virginity 'properly' to a cool American girl I met at a party less than a year later, and dated her until she went back home. I'm still convinced that without my original experience I would never have had the confidence to talk to her and i'd still be a virgin now.

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A male reader, lucas_1988 Canada +, writes (13 March 2010):

Buddy, since you have already lost yours. Still, I'm put out my opinions here:

pros:

0 time investment (either give a call or email)

expected quality (depending your budget)

all-around satisfaction ( roleplaying, and personal fetishes)

cons:

time and emotional investment

big bucks off

potential of addiction (it's so easy to get horny between 16-25,if you stick with escorts,eventually broke at an early age)

potential STDs,HIVs

completely change your attitude about relationships

advice:

regular "relaxation" ( you know what I mean)

go to the gym

get involved with peers

just wait for the right one to come!!!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2010):

im 18 and thinking of doing it with as hooker but im not sure if im going to regret it

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2010):

The thing is it's pretty easy for many to say "Don't worry about what society says, it's not a badge of shame" or whatever. But the ideal person who can LIVE succesfully off this advice is rare to be found, especially a reflective, shy guy. I know all types of older men who have had few sex partners, even ones in married loving relationships, and many seem to regret not being more frivolously sexual when young. A prostitue is not such a cynical thing, when you think about it - how about THAT for not buying into society's values? - it's not drug dealing, for God's sake. It's not murder or war; it's just intercourse. I don't think thirty forty yrs in the future, the average man will regret having done it.

ps I'm a 26 year old virgin, and should at this point take my own advice

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2010):

I lost my virginity to an escort a few days ago, I'm 20. I've never had any luck with women. The only woman i've ever really connected with lives 8000 miles away and i only know her over the internet. If i hadn't have done it with an escort, I'd have been a virgin till the age of 30-40. People really don't understand to wonder if there's something wrong with you and how shameful it is to still be a virgin when most of your friends have had several girlfriends by now. This idea of waiting for someone special is a load of romantic rubbish.

I don't regret it, the first time is pretty rubbish to be honest. But the escort was nice and understanding. After we finished i sort of realized that sex is no big deal really. I don't feel any particular shame for losing it that way, i don't believe there's anything wrong with paying for sex. Paying up front for an hour of a girls time is not really different from a regular relationship, if anything its more honest.

Not that I'd tell my friends i slept with an escort. I'm not sure if I'd want to tell any future girlfriend that my first time was with an escort either. But who i share my body with is no body else's business so I'm not really bothered by that. Study's have found the risk of STD's is lower from prostitutes than it is from regular sex because they always use protection.

I think its fairly common for those who are late bloomers to lose it this way. Really what woman is going to want to see a man who can't perform in bed by choice when there are loads of other men who do know what they're doing?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2010):

I am relieved to read that there are a number of guys, who are going through the 'trauma' of using/thinking about using a prostitute. I myself have had sex now twice with prostitutes and it's something i am so ashamed of. I will never ever have sex with a prostitute again because the guilt is just too unbearable. I lost my virginity to a prostitute when i was 20 and was 24 when i did it again. These are are my only two sexual encounters and i am desperate to find a girl and have a normal relationship (and a normal sexual relationship).

There is a stigma attached to prostitution and quite rightly i feel. It's something i regret but i do need to move on from it now and try and find love. I would strongly urge anyone thinking of losing their virginity to a prostitute to wait (even though it's difficult and you kinda feel pressured) because you'll enjoy it a lot more with someone you know and you don't feel any shame.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2010):

Hello. I'm going to Thailand soon where prostitution is legal and I'm a 19 year old virgin.

I'm going to be there for three weeks and you can't walk in the city and not get 100 girls jumping all over you. So I guess I will be VERY tempted to lose my virginity when I'm there.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2010):

Losing one's virginity is very unlikely to be anything like the best sex you ever experience. I found this when I lost my virginity to the French prostitute at the age of 24 (18th January post). She could hardly believe that this was my first time. My next experience, which was with the same prostitute two days later, was much better.

Some people have no difficulty in forming relationships and cannot understand why on earth anyone would want to visit a prostitute, and are often strongly against the whole idea.

Others, myself included, find close relationships very difficult to form and maintain, and soon learn that unless they go to a prostitute, they're not going to get any sex anytime soon. I didn't have any "relationship sex" until I was 30, and that didn't last very long.

Still others go through life without ever having sex with another person at all, and claim to be satisfied with that. I can hardly imagine what that must be like!

I think the only rule is to do what you think is right for you. But remember, your first time certainly won't be your best, and that your first partner is very unlikely to be the person you end up forming a long term relationship with - if you can form long term relationships at all.

In other words, be careful what you wish for - and good luck!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2010):

Do not lose your virignity to a prostitute,

I am 17 years old and still a virgin, most of my friends are in a relationship and having sex on a regular basis and sex is a topic that is talked about a lot at college. It is hard when you are a teenager and waiting to have sex but you have to get through it mentally and I believe you should wait till you're in a relationship with a girl you like before you lose yout virginity, because then you will want to remember your first time not forget it.

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A male reader, Been there, Done that United Kingdom +, writes (26 January 2010):

Im my opinion if you are only looking for sex then there is nothing wrong and quite common to have sex with a prostitute or escort.

I just feel that your virginity shouldnt be something to be ashamed about, you should experience your first time with someone you care about.

Hope this helps.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2010):

I was unable to obtain any sex during my teens. I finally cracked by visiting a brothel on my way to university on the first day of the first term. I at least had the satisfaction of not arriving at university a virgin. The sex in the brothel was quite good, although she would not allow me to touch her breasts – groan – only in England. So I had sexual intercourse before my first kiss or touching a breast. No sexual success at university, other than the occasional brothel visit, which is probably not technically a “success”, and I was well over 25 before I managed a non-prostitute sexual partner. I fear that there are many more cases such as mine than we like to admit. This is not what I had envisaged or hoped for when I was 16. The UK is full of 20+, 30+, 40+, 50+ male virgins.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2010):

I was 21 when I went to a prostitute to lose my virginity. At the time I didn't feel too bad and I did become more confident around women. It probably did put an idea in my head that I can get sex and not have to be married. And it can be habit forming. Be careful. Also be careful of the alternative, nomarriage.com

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2010):

I lost my virginity to a French prostitute when I was 24. My only regret is that I waited that long! I'm no good at relationships, so almost all the sex I have ever had has been with prostitutes.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2010):

To be honest most girls would rather have sex with a guy that's a virgin. At least the kinds of girls that are worth staying with would. Especially if the girl is a virgin herself. I kno I lost my virginity yesterday to my bf who was a virgin & I've had a lot of bfs that wanted to have sex/ that I wanted to have sex with but I wouldn't cuz I didn't want to lose it to someone who wasn't a virgin.

Basically it's better to wait & find a girl you're going to stay with thenn have your first time with an STD infested girl that you had to pay to get action from. I mean really if you think of it that way it's like totally bad to you're man ego/ rep that you couldn't get any action unless you paid./: anyways goodluck.(:

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2010):

There is nothing wrong with losing ones virginity to a hooker. I lost mine to a high class escort at 27. Being a virgin was haunting me day and night, so much so that I started developing suicidal thoughts over it! So one night on a foreign holiday I paid for an escort to come to my hotel room and I dont regret it for one minute. Most guys dont really think about virginity the way girls do. For us its a badge of shame to be one past 20/21 or so and I needed to take that badge off my chest. You'll have plenty of time to have emotional sex when youre in a relationship. Like someone else said, youre not looking to 'make love', just to have intercourse!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2010):

I say GO FOR IT DUDE! I lost my virginity to a prostitute. I went in and said, "I'll just get a blowjob." The girl was so good at it and so nice to me, that I thought, "Fuck it." Not only that, but I connected to her just enough so that it was in fact meaningful. I've tried others, but its not the same as her. Maybe it just depends on who you get, even if that person is a prostitute. Well anyway, I have no regrets, and I keep in touch to the girl to this day. I see her once in a while too.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2010):

Don't do it. I'm 17 and a virgin and I saw an escort once but couldn't go through with losing my v to her so i got a blowjob instead. Not only was it shit and a waste of money, but you feel so greasy afterwards. And even worse I've had tempations to go back and i've had to fight them, a couple of terms inches away from going back but I just about managed to come on top. But I did learn something from it all. Forget about everyone else, think about you. do you really want to have the knowledge that you payed a dirty skank for action on your conscience? LET ALONE LOSING YOUR VIRGINITY TO HER. Wait it out for the right girl, if shes the right girl, she wont care if your a virgin. And if im too late and you've already done it. DONT GO BACK JUST FIGHT THE TEMPTATION I have a mate who lost his v to a prossy in amsterdam, and he pretends to have no regrets. But I know he does. I feel bad enough for getting my 1'st blowie off an escort. So imagine how you'll feel if you lose your v to one.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2010):

I think if you do it once, do not do it again. Nothing wrong with curiosity but dont let it be a habit.

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A male reader, schunn India +, writes (25 December 2009):

I also lost my virginity to a prostitute. After that I went to a prostitute once more before I could realize the gravity of the act. I do not want to make you people feel that you have done something terribly wrong, but I would certainly advise others to desist from doing this. It has been 2 years since all that happened and I am still affected by those two incidents mentally. I am going to get married in some time and I feel really guilty that there is one aspect of my life that I have to hide from my wife. I am a little sensitive so maybe that is the reason I am so disturbed. I don't have any STD but I have got tested for at least 3 times for all the STDs just to be safe.

It is just not worth the mental trauma. Suppose you are a virgin - you can lie to your future girlfriend that you are not a virgin. In my view, that is better than lying that you didn't see a hooker if you have been to one.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2009):

I am a 16 year old male, where I live prostitution is legal and the age of consent is 16. I just lost my virginity to a call girl a few hours ago. I believe it's fairly common, but definitely an experience I regret. I would rather have back the money than the relatively poor hour of pleasure.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2009):

Im 17 i just lost my virginity with a prostitute and i didnt fully erect because i masturbated before it but she was fuckng up the mood every fucking time ex. during sex se wa like can you wipe your sweat cause its pouring on me wtf.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2009):

Women these days seem to expect guys to be experienced... I am 27, never been in a relationship, still a student (read b.r.o.k.e), extremely lacking in the area of social skills (apart from being very introverted I'm also very shy, and can't seem to get over it despite, oh, I don't know, more than 10 years of trying).

At this stage I've decided to see an escort, if only to know whether I can get it up in front of a real woman. And how long I can last.

And it's sex I'm after, not making love. Maybe virginity is important to some, but not me. At least if I go there with a clear mind I won't expect fireworks.

And I do know the thought of being for the first time with a woman I care for makes me sweat more than the idea of seeing a prostitute. If only there weren't those little pesky things called STI I couldn't pick up...

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A male reader, zacharyQ United States +, writes (14 September 2009):

Ok. I am 23 & Virgin ! Also considering seriously losing it to a prostitute. Interesting views by others here definitely. Looks like many people had trouble getting ejaculations or good erections on their 1st time !

I agree with some ppl here though .. dont go to some cheap hooker, get a high class escort. They take care of themselves & hot n that is why they charge high too !

I'm also quite concerned with the STD risks but thing is that only risk free sex is only Masturbation .. LOL !

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A reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2009):

The answer to your question is think through it. Also The problem is not whether it is common, many things are common. But whether you should do it and for what reason.

I am also a virgin at 26. For me it is the biggest negative in my life and has been for the past few years. as one guy from germany said women secretly think you are worth less then dirt if you are a virgin at such an age. In my opinion This eats at a mans character however strong it may be. depressions and obsessions appear. I will surely go to a hooker soon the question for me is when and finding the right establishment. being a virgin should not be a reflection on character as there are many reasons for it. the fact is. life isnt a fairytale and sex should be experienced by a man. at 25-30 remember this was the life span hundreds of years ago.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2009):

just make sure you tell the prostitute youre a virgin!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2009):

I'm planning to loose mine to a high class escort. I thought strong and hard about it and figured the whole love and special thing is totally overrated.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2009):

I lost my virginity when i was 28... this is in the Philippines in a city that is famous for its night life. I got the woman at a bar, she actually picked me. There were many girls gyrating on the dance floor on the poles and i wanted one girl particularly who was taking off her panty seductively even though there was another panty underneath, it was very stimulating. But some Caucasian guy got her, so I was left sitting there.

Then this woman, she looked 20 something a bit older than the usual girls in bars who can look anywhere from 14-18. But she was still very sexy. She was wearing a white top and white pants. She came right up to me and she said she liked me and started gyrating and lapdancing on me.

So after a few lady drinks for her she asked me if I wanted to barfine her. This woman was aggressive and I being inexperienced just went along.

So we're at the motel and right off she kisses me deeply and then kneels down unzips me and starts BJing me. My head was buzzing, I was just thinking "so this is what it feels like to be BJéd". I kept repeating that to myself while standing there looking at her. I was not drunk, and I don't drink alcohol.

After a few mins, we got undressed and she guided me in her. I slid in without any difficulty, now that i found out later meant that she was either loose or she had just been pregnant recently, since my tool still cannot fit in some of the working girls i have been with. So She was riding me and again my head was buzzing... so this is it???

We were doing the deed for about maybe 5 or 10 mins... i couldnt tell but it wasnt long, we did missionary and cowboy with her on top riding me ... she then said that she needed to rest, i then noticed that she was kinda tipsy -

so i let her sleep... I stood up looked at her, i was feeling kinda dirty. Then I put on some clothes, and on my way out paid for a whole nights worth for the room so the woman could sleep it off. Went home, and took a long shower.

It was a nice experience and have gone and done it several more times. None of which have been that great. Im now 34 and still have not had sex wherein i have ejaculated while doing the deed due to circumstances such as the girl didnt seem into it and I wont force any girl even one i paid for to do it and look like they are in pain. Others can't fit me into them. This makes me still a virgin in my book.

Hope this has provided some insight for others.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2009):

It's fine, people say you should lose it to someone special, but I just think you should lose it in a special way. I lost my virginity at 21 to a hooker years ago, and nowadays I just laugh about it. It was more important that you gained experience for future relationships. Let's face it, we all are terrible our first time. Better being terrible with a whore than the girl of your dreams.

Don't worry about it!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2009):

I see nothing wrong with "starting out" with a prostitute. Ask yourself this; if you lost your virginity to a sluttish classmate in high school, would that be any more meaningful? If you had sex for the first time with a girl who was a nymphomaniac, would you feel any better?

Chances are, you won't stay in contact with the first girl you ever had relations with. There's nothing wrong with getting a hotel room and calling an escort service. I've had great sex with asian escorts who advertised in the back of the paper or in the yellow pages.

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A male reader, JohnDoe123 United Kingdom +, writes (11 April 2009):

I just did this. I was nervous as hell beforehand and nervous as hell during to be honest. Quite frankly it was a horrible experience, it wasn't really the hooker's fault as she was fairly understanding but right from the off it just left me cold. We started kissing and it was just like kissing a piece of meat, even touching her didn't 'excite' me at all. I had a hard on and she starting sucking me off, then after a while she suggested I lick her out. After doing this for a while eventually she climaxed (or at least pretended to) but at the same time so did I, and I couldn't get it back up again in the remaining time. I asked if we could just cuddle for the last few minutes but even that felt fake. The whole experience was very flat and I left feeling terrible, in fact I felt even worse when I realised I'd over paid due to my nervousness at the start.

A few hours later, while there were a lot of negatives I'm trying to look at the positives. At 23 years old I'd had enough of shying away from women, hopefully now I can approach women without the fear of what might happen if things went well. Also I made lots of mistakes, now i know to skip the foreplay as much as possible until I get a bit more experienced. I also know that I never want to visit a prostitute again, beforehand I was scared that I might like it and want to go back, but I don't intend to. I don't think I can have meaningless sex, I need to feel something for the other person otherwise there's no point.

In summary though it was a horrendous ordeal it was a necessary one and hopefully now I can try and live something of a normal life.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2009):

I lost my virginity to a prostitute when I was 19. At the moment it was great and she even took a liking to me and

Knew that I was a virgin and offer to have sex with me for free. So I took it.. A few days latter I got very sick and was affraid she gave me something, so I told her I can't see her no more, even though she said she let me hit it for free. I finnally got tested and everything came out negative. The following week I met this girl and the same day we met we had sex and I wasn't scare anymore of sex and girls anymore because that prostitute boost my confidence up. I wouldn't recommend for someone else to go out and find a prostitute, but just have cofidence in yourself and find you a nice girl to have a relationship first and always use latex codons. Hope this story help. Good luck.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2009):

I'm a virgin at the age of 24 and I've considered this for some time now but I'm scared of possible long-term psychological implications. Like many people, I don't see any logical reason why I should "keep" my virginity for someone special. At the same time, however, I guess that loosing it to someone you care about would be the ideal case scenario, but given the stigma towards male virgins at my age, I don't think it's likely to happen. Plus, when you think about it, it's mainly a societal thing htat people should loose their virginity to someone "special". Most people i know did not loose it in a great way.

I have very limited sexual experience (some of which stems from women I've been with teasing male virgins. Example: this guy really liked my then girlfriend, but she would laugh it off and tell me "He's such a virgin" obviously making me reluctant to loose it with her...). Obviously, no one even knows I'm a virgin (even my closest friends) as I don't act "weird" either in general or around women.

So right now, I'm thinking of going to get a massage with "extras" to ease myself into it. It's a smaller step and I suppose there are lesser "moral" implications. If that experience goes well then I might as well either go back or simply see an escort to get it done with. One thing that is really pushing me towards it though is the fact that I'm deploying to Irak for 9 months in a short while, so I'm really tempted. Any suggestions? This thread is full of good info btw.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2009):

I had a difficult childhood that affected my sex life and I lost my virginity at 27 to a prostitute that I picked up on the street. Why? Some of the women that I worked with at the time, loudly proclaimed that I was a virgin. Horrified and fearing my 'secret' getting out...I headed for the street on a Saturday night. She was quite patient and understanding and over numerous visits and a lot of money I learned the basics of sex. I am not proud of what I did but I am relieved that I am no longer sexually inexperienced - it was a worry that stayed with me for years. I have had several successful relationships since then.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2009):

When i was 16 i went to Frankfurt for vacation. One of the youth-hostels was a stones throw from the red light district and one night i got drunk with some college students and we all went to a brothel.

The lady couldn't speak English at all so i was stuck conversing with her in broken German which was awkward. After about 30 minutes i still hadn't ejaculated cuz i was blasted and she was trying to tell me that my time was up.

In short, biggest waste of 75 euros ever. I left the place and somehow ended up back at the youth-hostel. I am happy i don't remember more.

If you are a virgin and reading this please consider saving up for at least a classy hooker instead of whatever i sort of remember fucking.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2009):

I lost my virginity in a brothel at 23. I've alwyas got on well with woman, but unfortuently i'm only ever considered a friend. I've been depressed lately, so thought that it wwould be one step to get over it. Anyway, on that day I was drinking and smoking heavily. I wasn't nervous, but I definately wasn't horny. It was just something that I needed to do. To be honest, I have suffered from stress and depression for years, and as a form of relief I masturbte regulary.

I didn't know what to expect. I don't have any regrets, although the sex was terrible. I couldn't get fully erect, it took me too long to ejaculate, and all I could think about was how dry my mouth was from drinking and smoking all day. But I have no regrets whatsoever. I see it as a beginning to my sex life.

Obviously the sex would be better if there was an emotional connection. But I see no ethical or moral problem. I actually feel proud in a way for having the courage to visit a parlour, instead of accepting my depresion due to lack of physical intimacy.

I'm actually planning to go back soon, but this time plan to have good sex.

I'm looking forward to it. I see it as preperation for future relationships. As long as the sex is between two consenting adults, I see absolutely no problem with it.

Prositutes - male and female - have my complete and uncompromising respect. There are too many men and woman like myself who, for no fault of thier own, suffer from lack of physical intimacy and affection.

The only advice I would give is this - make sure when you visit a person, you do so with a clear mind and objective. Don't turn up due to peer pressure, or some socially enforced idea that you need to have sex, and do not turn up on the spur of the moment. Plan ahead. Do so because you want to.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2009):

I just lost my virginity last night to an escort. She was extremely professional and cool. I´m 19 and noticed others have lost it at around the same age too...funny. The key is condoms Do I regret it? It happened several hours before this post so I can´t say. Honestly, it would have been more pleasurable if it was somebody I cared for but true love is hard to find these days (at least for me)... so i said hey why not (i´m on vacation for spring break). To answer the question: I think it is very common in countries outside the US. In the words of a friend, "Prostitution shouldnt be a problem if it is regulated."

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A reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2009):

I'm 20 years old and I lost my virginity to an escort and I do not regret it for 1 second, ever.

She was simply amazing. I told that I was a virgin and she was very okay with it and was willing to "show me the ropes". In the end I had done everything I always wanted to do with a girl. It felt like I was complete or something, also not to mention I felt so more confident after as well. I lasted around 30 minutes which was 29 more minutes than I thought I would of lasted. I made her climax which really gave me a lot of confidence.

It all depends on who you are and what you want. Some guys want a relationship with a girl and some just want only casual sex. Virginity isn't that big of a deal as people make it out to be. If you want experience sex and don't feel like or want to go through all the hoops of dating/meeting people, find yourself a nicely reviewed escort in your city (there are usually a few good ones depending on where you live).

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A male reader, Ultraman Jethro United Kingdom +, writes (9 January 2009):

I did lost my virginity to an escort on 8th December last year.

She has blonde hair, blue eyes, 5'7'' and she has 34D breasts.

I greeted her with a kiss, gave her £150, had a little chat, we both undressed, explore each others bodies and finally I had sex until I finally lost my virginity.

I will never forget my experience with a blonde escort and I will see more blonde escorts in order to gain my confidence before I go to uni in a few years time.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2008):

I lost my virginity to a prostitute when I was 18. Afterward I felt dirty and regretted doing it in the first place. However, the main purpose of doing "it" was to build my confidence so that I could more easily approach women. All in all, there are pros and cons to the situation and it if for you to decide whether the reward is worth the risk.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2008):

I am 26 and a virgin and have been considering this for sometime. I have never had a relationship ir even kissed a girl. On the one hand I think it might help my confidence - get it over with so its not such a stigma, but on the other its not how I'd imagined it would happen. I often feel like it's never going to happen and I could get hit by a bus tomorrow having never experienced sex. I keep saying 1 more year but I think my patience has worn thin.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2008):

I lost my virginity at 29 to a hooker, then 8 years later I married one. Been happily married for 6 years now and we've both given up our past habits.

Doesn't matter who you lose your virginity to, so long as you don't expect too much. Love is not dependent on sex, and sex is not dependent on love. Just that when they go together, it's 10 times better....

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A male reader, Tsang Canada +, writes (22 October 2008):

People say you shouldn't go to a prostitute because you might catch something. My question is who is stupid enough to have sex with a prostitute without using a condom? 99% of callgirls will refuse a client sex if he does not use a condom many won't even give a BJ without one and what makes people think sex with a stranger at a bar or nightclub is any safer then a prostitute?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2008):

I can tell you about the situation in Germany, where it seems to be uncommon - since it is a kind of liberal and sexually open society -, but it definitly is not.

Research has shown that somewhere between 18% and 33% of all men in this country visit a prostitute at least once in their lives. Probably a quarter is a good value. About 50% of these men have lost their virginity to a prostitute or have only had sex for cash so far - which would mean about 1 in 8.

Might be different for the US, where Prostitution is illegal, but it could give you a hint.

Apart from that, I think it is okay. From a certain age on (about 21), being a virgin sucks. Of course, somewhere out there is the right girl, but you might have to wait for years or even never meet her. So let's face the facts, many women might think that guys who visit a prostitute are low. But even more women think that virgins are even lower (they would not say it loud, but their acting is quite clear).

Just insist on using condoms, pay for a decent call girl and your risk of infection is lower than with a "good girl".

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2008):

I did this just 2 hours ago. I'm 21.

I don't really regret it but also I don't feel like going back again anytime soon. Give it some thought before you do it, but don't go nuts over it, either way its not a big deal at the end of the day.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2008):

I'd say there are 4 groups of people.

1) Those that visit prostitutes frequently.

2) Those who visited one once and will do so only once.

3) Those who will never visit a prostitute.

4) Those who visited one once and will do again, but not as frequent as number 1.

Most people are obviously number 3, then 2, 1 and then 4.

1 is higher than 4, because it will be the same person who will be a "regular". 2 is higher than 1, because I believe once the "thrill" of being with one you don't want to do it again.

I'd never visit one, it's too risky, what would happen if you catch something? Also ask yourself this, if you keep a secret from a future girlfriend that you were with one, what would happen if your future girlfriend was one. How would you feel then, if she even told you?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2008):

Actually, yes! It's less common now but in the past, fathers did not know how to explain to their sons about sex so they sent their boys to prostitutes to learn. I would not suggest that because it can seriously traumatize the kid.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2008):

I'm twenty-four and still a virgin.. I've thought about trying to find a hooker to lose my virginity to, but I'm a bit afraid. She could have STDs, rob and/or kill me, or could be an undercover cop.

Almost every day on the news they have 'Johns busted for prostitution'...

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2008):

I LOST MY VIRGINITY LAST NIGHT AND I WAS 19. I DON'T FEEL GUILTY, BUT THERE WAS A PROBLEM.

THE PROBLEM WAS that I couldn't get an erection because I was scared and when we were having sex I wasn't fully erect.

Has anyone else had this problem?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2008):

i lost my virginity too over a prostitute, and i dont think it is common! we are sad and shud not be proud of ourselves

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2007):

I lost mine to a hooker when i was 22. I was really depressed and couldn't even look at a girl without feeling sick. Seeing a hooker saved me from my misery, it had to be done. I wanted to wait but it just wasn't worth the emotional pain.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2007):

I lost it aged 21 (a month ago) to a prostitute and don't regret it at all, it was a curse to me and it was the only way I was ever going to move on. I didn't know at the time where to find one, until I came across;

www.punternet.com

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2007):

In some societies yes. In Turkey for instance, my friend has told me that it was customary (and still is in some circles) for fathers to take their sons to brothels when they reach a certain age for this very purpose. One of Turkey's greatest heroes (you can find out who on your own if you're curious) lost his virginity to prostitutes- who found him so charming and attractive they said it was on the house. He later developed a night life on par with Hugh Hefner's, and Zsa Zsa Gabor lost her virginity to him. I live in Utah and am 20, I left the Mormon faith recently and am probably going to be forced into this situation because I can't stand the shame of being a virgin. I take solace in knowing that I'm not alone.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2007):

I did this in a one-off encounter a few months ago. It was a disappointing experience! Although I would say I regret it, if I hadn't done it I would be curious, so I guess I can't have it both ways. What's in the past is in the past, and we all have a past!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2007):

Going to a escort is really not all that much riskier then meeting somebody in a bar.. you don't know who they are where they've been or who've they've been with. They could very well be carrying something. A escort is more likely to protect herself against STDs more then a regular sexually active adult. because having sex is her job.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2007):

What one does with their time and money Isn't for others to decide. In Canada prostitution is legal. Solictation in public is Ilegal however the act of prostitution itself is totally legal. I lost it to a prostitute when I was 20 and I don't regret it one bit. I don't believe virginity is a "gift" and I don't believe in saving it for someone "special" because who knows when or if that "special someone" will ever come around. and the thought of being a 40 year old or even a 30 year old virgin really didn't appeal to me. Which is why I did it. All this crap about virginity being a "gift" that I should give to someone I love sorry I don't buy it. I'm 22 and have been to prostitutes only a few times. I'm not addicted and what happens between me and her stays between me and her. And if I meet a girl and she wonders about my sexual past I'll do whatever everyone else does LIE

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2007):

Hi, I'm an extremely shy Roman Catholic(no sex before marriage). I lost my virginity to a prostitute when I was in my mid-40's. I think I only did it because I was speaking to a guy who I'd met on the net...; and, he explained that he too had been a virgin unable to find the right person to both accept and love him; so, eventually, he had gone and done it with a prostitute, instead; this guy was a lot younger than me by around 10 years. He then started to criticize me; that how can I be so old and still have not have lost my virginity yet?! I think, that's what got me tempted to go try in the first place. I don't wish to go into too much detail; but, she was beautiful/half my age; and, I was extremely shy and afraid; I was so afraid that even though I had an erection; I did not come no matter how hard she tried; after 1/2 an hour of tying, I simply quit in sheer bitter disgust and frustration at myself; very politely I left. Looking back, all I can say is it was a VERY BIG MISTAKE! Do not listen to what other people think of you; or, to what THEY think may be the right time for you to go loose it; the right time is when YOU -and, ONLY you- do decide it's time to go loose it; after all, you only have virginity, once; so, why throw it away rather stupidly on something you know deep down that you're bound to most deeply regret having done, later. It's true you go around for ALL the rest of your life feeling both deeply ashamed to go and tell anybody else how you lost it; a hidden dark dirty secret that's something you just got to hide; you think to yourself if only I could go rewind time-but, no, you CAN'T! You even wonder to yourself did I catch anything; after all, only heaven truly knows how MANY men she's been with before?! And, some diseases may not reveal themselves, immediately, right away; for example, I heard that AID's can have a 10 years long incubation period; and, you may well feel VERY deeply embarassed to go to your doctors to go get yourself checked out?! Even worse, I'm ashamed to say -(it's certainly nothing to feel proud about/no matter what anybody else boasts or says/doing wrong is doing wrong, that's it)- I have been to revisit prostitutes, again and again. So, this kind of thing can actually develop into a regular habitual lifestyle you get into; and, then, find you can't even stop! I mean, think about it, it's so much easier paying for a 'sure' thing; than having to go get enough courage to go chat somebody up; and, then, go buy them lunch/tea/chocolates/-etc.; who might then choose to go dump you, anyway?! I think, that's why guys go to re-visit prostitutes mainly because it's easy, and, it's sure(especially if they under value themselves, and, feel far too shy -or, stained/dirty- to be able to approach normal girls). But, there's no real relationship there; and, in the end, it's just unfeelingly cold, detached, uncaring; instead, money is what it's all about; you know she doesn't love you; no matter how much you care for her; and, that all she really and truly loves is just your money, alone; and, this makes you feel unloveable all the more; thus, it leads to a totally unsatisfactory feeling and lifestyle. As to the sex; and, completely disregarding the constant serious risks to your health; well, if that was all there was to living, then, possibly it would be ok. But, for most sensible people; then, they know that sex isn't everything; just merely a small part of life; so if sex is your whole life; then, I'd say something has got to be wrong with you. I think, it's only people with very low self-esteem that tends to go approach prostitutes. I know that if my self-esteem had been high; then, I never would have done it ever; nor would I have continued to do it. There is a saying, that some people -such as gamblers- like to live their life right on the edge; that's a part of going with prostitutes like you are living right on the edge; playing with danger(health risks/crime/going to visit dingy dens/having to go deal with pimps/-etc). All in all it's just no good. It can mess you up, forever; making you feel you deserve no better in life.

-The prostitution game only looks good on the outside when there's loads of mystery to it/but, when you're involved with being on the inside; then, man, it's just ugly and awful.- Quite honestly, the best ways to deal with it...-just like drugs-...is to not let yourself get caught up in any of it, in the first place; then, believe me, you won't be sorry possibly for all the rest of your life!!!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2007):

IF YOU ARE READING THIS AS A VIRGIN FOR RESEARCH, PLEASE SAVE IT!!

I lost it to a Japanese prostitute while I was stationed in Okinawa, Japan.

She was one of the sexiest women I'd ever been with, but it was definately the worst sex ever. She just lied there and took it. I've had sex countless times afterward, but that's the really bad one I can't forget.

Sex without meaning is masturbation. Sex with a prostitute feels like public masturbation -- it's embarassing to tell anyone about and you ALWAYS regret it afterwards. I should know: I've banged hookers in S. Korea, Japan, Mexico, and the U.S. It's sad, really.

The most amazing, mind-blowing sex is always with a girl who really cares for you, or if you're really lucky, loves you. If you have a girlfriend who loves you but won't give it up, then do the suprising thing and wait her out.

You'll thank me later. (If she's a virgin: Don't worry, it gets better with time. The first time is always an awkward, bloody mess.)

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2007):

I lost my virginity to a prostitute when I was 19 and I don't regret it one bit. One thing I always found annoying is people inhibited by their morals or the need for petty emotinal attachment. "Your first time should be with someone special", they say. Well screw that. I've had several girlfriends in high school and nothing serious ever came out of that (they were either "not ready" or had strict parents, religion and whatever other bullshit they usually make up). Believe it or not for some guys their virgiity is a curse and an embarrassment. So to make long story short, I went and "done the deed". She was an extremely beautiful Japanese girl,6 years older than me, and the sex was simply incredible and completely worth every penny.

I mean look at all the positive things you can get out of it:

1. The girl is always understand and sweet and can guide you through the whole thing without looking like an idiot, which is good if you're shy.

2. The girl is always experienced, so the sex will be mind blowing as she knows what buttons to push.

3. The girl is amazingly hot, unlike 99% of the girls you see on the street.

I know screwing a prostitute carries alot of negative stigma etc, but in my opinion guys who go to clubs just to pick up chicks are no better. At least here, both of you know exactly what you want with no bullshit charades.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2007):

i lost mine a few days ago to this cute prostitute and i dont regret it,i was amazed with my performance lol lasted at least 45 all my friends were saying id only last 4 mins tops lol but i showed them up. i really dont see the point in keeping your virginity and acting like its some kind of sacred thing, your really just tricking yourself and your just missing out on all the fun, we only live once lets try to atleast make it worth it..

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2007):

Yeah, I did about three weeks ago. I was eighteen. She was a high class escort, cost £280 for two hours. She was easily the most attractive woman i'd ever seen in real life; 25 years old, 5'9", blue eyes, blonde hair, natural 32FF breasts, she could have been a pin-up girl or a model; makes me wonder why she decided to prostitute herself.

The experience itself was a positive one. She was warm and frindly, and extremely beautiful. I was nervous and she put me at ease with conversation and a drink of wine. It was a very comfortable way to lose my virginity but I felt detached from her; there was no emotional connection.

The funny thing is I'm considered a very good looking guy, I'm a straight A student, and I'm constantly being approached by females. I'm painfully shy however, and just didn't know how to interact with women. I think this experience has boosted my confidence somewhat, and hopefully in time I'll be more confident.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2007):

Hey, Im 17 and I lost my virginity to a prostitute when I was 15 years old, I regret it.... at the time I was just like f**k it... sex is great was my reaction afterwards... but its difficult living with the fact that you KNOW deep down that you lost your virginity to a prostitute, and you have to hide it away for the rest of your life. Its sad really, I just wish I had met the right girl. Life sucks I guess.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2007):

I'm 16 right now, still a virgin, and if I don't lose my virginity by the time I'm 18 I plan on losing it to a hooker.

Atleast then I'll have some experience in the sac, afterall, practise makes perfect. Besides if you bang a chick you know and suck miserably the odds are other people will hear about it.

But hookers will keep it to themselves.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2007):

I believe the older someone gets the worse the stigma of being a virgin gets. I don't blame guys who go to hookers as a way to lose their virginity. Women have it much easier then men do when it comes to getting sex. Hence why they're fewer female virgins. For some guys finding a sexual partner can be close to impossible. when its because they are unattractive OR shy, or just have a hard time meeting women. eventually these guys are just like "screw it" anf book an apointment with a hooker. I can't really blame them and I do believe it's pretty common. but because of all the stigma surrounding hookers guys usually keep pretty quiet about it. I personally don't see anything wrong with losing it to a hooker.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2007):

Yeah, I lost mine to a prostitute since at age 21 I was still a virgin. I had girlfriends before and kissed but always got screwed over when it came to sex. I was too much of the nice guy and always told the girls I was with that I was a virgin. I finally realized that girls wouldn't have sex with me because they knew I was a virgin.

I felt really good afterwards that I was finally free from the curse of virginity that had screwed me over so much. I don't regret it at all and in fact would have done it at an earlier age if I could go back in time. I didnt get any diseases either.

Not long after this, I met a girl who really fell in love with me, but get this, while we were making out she asked me if I was a virgin. I just said no, and she was like OK and right after that wanted to have sex with me. Can you believe this? Girls totally stereotype guys who are virgins.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2006):

One guy mentioned that he'd hate to tell his future girlfriend that he went to a prostitute. Who you said you'd have to tell her anything? It's in the past and it's none of her bussiness anyway. I certainly wouldn't tell her besides, I decide what I do with my time and my money. I don't have to justify myself to anyone.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2006):

hey, i lost my virginity to a prostitute too. Although i don't know how common it is for people to lose their virginity to prostitutes, i decided to lose my virginity to a prostitute because i was 23 years old at the time, was still a virgin, never had a girlfriend in my life...in fact, had even though i was 23, i had never even been kissed by a girl! and never in my life had any girl ever shown any interst in me whatsoever, and at the rate i was going, i thought i would never find a girl, so thats what drove me to do what i did. but after losing my virginity to the prostitute, i really regretted it, felt dirty etc...and further more, despite the fact that i took all necessary steps to protect myself (eg condoms etc) i still ended up catching an infection from her....my doctor doesn't know exactly what it is (all tests have so far come out negative) but says it is a definate infection, but is hoping that it may be treatable, but its been six months now, and the problem still hasn't resolved, and i'll be seeing a specialist soon about it. Ironically, it was after i lost my virginity to a prostitute that i met a very nice girl who had real relationship potential since we got along so well and had so much in common, but because of this infection, i decided not to enter into a relationship with her because i didn't want to risk infecting her. Now she is with some other guy. My point in saying all this is that losing your virginity to a prostitute may sound appealing, especially if you are in a similar situtation that i was in (ie being 23, never had a girlfriend, never been kissed, and still a virgin etc) but doing it can really backfire, as has happened in my case. i know that what i'm saying wont be of much use to the person who posted the original question, but hopefully it will give something to think about to those who are considering having sex with a prostitute. Remember, not only can it scar you mentally, but can leave you at risk of having a lifelong infection/disease. The bottom line is to learn from my mistake and think very carefully before embarking on the path of having sex with a prostitute.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2006):

It's not common but it does happen a fair bit. I know three people in my various groups of friends throughout the last 10 years that lost their virginity to a prostitute and it usually made good conversation when we've been out drunk in a group. The truth is though, tis a little sad really that they couldn't find a girl they could love, and trust first - I bet they too, deep down, think that. Interestingly, I would say these guys were quite secretively sensitive and they probably did it because they didn't believe they could ever find a girlfriend who would love them. That's just me reading in to things.

On the side of the prostitute, if you stay away from street prostitution you can get "nicer" prostitutes that provide a "girlfriend" experience if you ask, where they give you lots of reassurance and affection. Apparently it is pretty great, but at around £100 - £300 an hour, it should be. =)

I don't know. Perhaps tempting, but personally I'd look to the future, I'd hate having to tell a future girlfriend I saw a prostitute, similarily I'd hate hearing that from a girlfriend. That's just me, a little old fashion and out of date, perhaps, haha.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2006):

it's not common, but it's not unheard of. Thankfully the internet brings people together so you hear of others like this. I had my first sexual experience with a hooker, didn't have sex though. It was pretty rubbish and I replay it in my mind on a weekly basis and hate myself for it. I'll never be able to share that info with anyone either.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2006):

I always hear all this hooie from people that "oh your first time should be special a gift you give to somebody" these are the same people who say "yeah I lost my virginity when I was 13"...Doesn't that sound a bit hipocritical? Actually losing your virginity to a hooker is very common but like the 3rd poster said guys who do this aren't going to go out of their way to advertise this information because of the stigma. Anyone who has gone to a hooker or is planning on it, DON'T TELL ANYONE!! because you'll always have somebody making some snide remark like "hookers are diseased ewwwwww" (a professional escort will insist on using protection and is probably more cleaner then a "regular" at the bar and club scene. There is a reason why escorts like to emphasize they are "discret" They know you wanna protect your privacy. It's not really anyone's place to tell someone what they can or cannot do with their body.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2006):

Hey there, I don't know if it's common these days or not, but something tells me it is, and everyone seems to be saying the same. So yes, there has to be a difference between having sex and "making love". But what's wrong with losing your virginity to a prostitute? Absolutely nothing at all. If you took care of yourself, then you should feel proud. And you're a man, why the hell should you care about "your first time" like it was some deeply emotional thing that will hunt you for the rest of your life (screw that!) leave that sort of thing to effeminate men and girls. You're no longer a virgin and that's it. Your first time was with a prostitute and that's alright. End of story.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2006):

hey dude i lost just my virgnity to a prostitue yesteday in some cheap motel in downtown ft lauderdale. im 17 but in a way i kind of regret it. 10 minutes...20 minutes...damn im good--i can hold out much longer. it wasnt until half an hour that i realized i couldnt cum even though i had a damn erection! eventually the hooker got tired of it n just left. i did a bit of research online after that n apparently i have this condition...aint that a bitch. i can have it fixed within two weeks but still, losing my virginity to a hooker yetnot even ejauculating. you cannot go lower thna that

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2006):

Hi there,

I think it's becoming more and more common these days, people just generally don't shout about it due to the whole stigma surrounding using a prostitute. I know someone who lost their virginity this way too. He didn't do it for the emotional detachment or because it was easy etc. He did it because at the age of 19 he headn't had a sexual relationship with anyone and was quite concerned it was a reflection on him, he needed reassurance that he could do it and was 'normal'. He's in a very happy and fulfilling relationship now.

I wouldn't be yourself up about this at all, sex with someone special can always happen, it doesn't have to be your first time to mean something.

Hope this helps :o)

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A male reader, David Lewis United Kingdom +, writes (12 October 2006):

David Lewis agony auntIt is more common than is thought, though not an everyday thing. Some people do it as an easy way to lose it, without the emotional attachment.

It is no susbtitute to giving your virginity to somebody.

I believe you only 'lose' something when it is something you value and wish you had back. I think of virginity as something you should 'give' to somebody special.

I lost mine when I was 13 in a one-off sexual encounter. I wish I had waited to make it special with somebody I cared for.

Some things you lose and then you find them again, virginity is gone forever.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2006):

I wouldnt say its common but its not unusual.I know somebody who lost their virginity this way.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2006):

probably not common, but i can understand it, girls made me wait until 22 or so, if i knew i'd feel so damn awful or how difficult it would be, i would have tried to consider it myself

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