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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2008): I can tell you about the situation in Germany, where it seems to be uncommon - since it is a kind of liberal and sexually open society -, but it definitly is not.Research has shown that somewhere between 18% and 33% of all men in this country visit a prostitute at least once in their lives. Probably a quarter is a good value. About 50% of these men have lost their virginity to a prostitute or have only had sex for cash so far - which would mean about 1 in 8.Might be different for the US, where Prostitution is illegal, but it could give you a hint.Apart from that, I think it is okay. From a certain age on (about 21), being a virgin sucks. Of course, somewhere out there is the right girl, but you might have to wait for years or even never meet her. So let's face the facts, many women might think that guys who visit a prostitute are low. But even more women think that virgins are even lower (they would not say it loud, but their acting is quite clear).Just insist on using condoms, pay for a decent call girl and your risk of infection is lower than with a "good girl".
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2008): I did this just 2 hours ago. I'm 21.
I don't really regret it but also I don't feel like going back again anytime soon. Give it some thought before you do it, but don't go nuts over it, either way its not a big deal at the end of the day.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2008): I'd say there are 4 groups of people.
1) Those that visit prostitutes frequently.
2) Those who visited one once and will do so only once.
3) Those who will never visit a prostitute.
4) Those who visited one once and will do again, but not as frequent as number 1.
Most people are obviously number 3, then 2, 1 and then 4.
1 is higher than 4, because it will be the same person who will be a "regular". 2 is higher than 1, because I believe once the "thrill" of being with one you don't want to do it again.
I'd never visit one, it's too risky, what would happen if you catch something? Also ask yourself this, if you keep a secret from a future girlfriend that you were with one, what would happen if your future girlfriend was one. How would you feel then, if she even told you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2008): Actually, yes! It's less common now but in the past, fathers did not know how to explain to their sons about sex so they sent their boys to prostitutes to learn. I would not suggest that because it can seriously traumatize the kid.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2008): I'm twenty-four and still a virgin.. I've thought about trying to find a hooker to lose my virginity to, but I'm a bit afraid. She could have STDs, rob and/or kill me, or could be an undercover cop.
Almost every day on the news they have 'Johns busted for prostitution'...
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2008): I LOST MY VIRGINITY LAST NIGHT AND I WAS 19. I DON'T FEEL GUILTY, BUT THERE WAS A PROBLEM.THE PROBLEM WAS that I couldn't get an erection because I was scared and when we were having sex I wasn't fully erect.Has anyone else had this problem?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2008): i lost my virginity too over a prostitute, and i dont think it is common! we are sad and shud not be proud of ourselves
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2007): I lost mine to a hooker when i was 22. I was really depressed and couldn't even look at a girl without feeling sick. Seeing a hooker saved me from my misery, it had to be done. I wanted to wait but it just wasn't worth the emotional pain.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2007): I lost it aged 21 (a month ago) to a prostitute and don't regret it at all, it was a curse to me and it was the only way I was ever going to move on. I didn't know at the time where to find one, until I came across;
www.punternet.com
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2007): In some societies yes. In Turkey for instance, my friend has told me that it was customary (and still is in some circles) for fathers to take their sons to brothels when they reach a certain age for this very purpose. One of Turkey's greatest heroes (you can find out who on your own if you're curious) lost his virginity to prostitutes- who found him so charming and attractive they said it was on the house. He later developed a night life on par with Hugh Hefner's, and Zsa Zsa Gabor lost her virginity to him. I live in Utah and am 20, I left the Mormon faith recently and am probably going to be forced into this situation because I can't stand the shame of being a virgin. I take solace in knowing that I'm not alone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2007): I did this in a one-off encounter a few months ago. It was a disappointing experience! Although I would say I regret it, if I hadn't done it I would be curious, so I guess I can't have it both ways. What's in the past is in the past, and we all have a past!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2007): Going to a escort is really not all that much riskier then meeting somebody in a bar.. you don't know who they are where they've been or who've they've been with. They could very well be carrying something. A escort is more likely to protect herself against STDs more then a regular sexually active adult. because having sex is her job.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2007): What one does with their time and money Isn't for others to decide. In Canada prostitution is legal. Solictation in public is Ilegal however the act of prostitution itself is totally legal. I lost it to a prostitute when I was 20 and I don't regret it one bit. I don't believe virginity is a "gift" and I don't believe in saving it for someone "special" because who knows when or if that "special someone" will ever come around. and the thought of being a 40 year old or even a 30 year old virgin really didn't appeal to me. Which is why I did it. All this crap about virginity being a "gift" that I should give to someone I love sorry I don't buy it. I'm 22 and have been to prostitutes only a few times. I'm not addicted and what happens between me and her stays between me and her. And if I meet a girl and she wonders about my sexual past I'll do whatever everyone else does LIE
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2007): Hi, I'm an extremely shy Roman Catholic(no sex before marriage). I lost my virginity to a prostitute when I was in my mid-40's. I think I only did it because I was speaking to a guy who I'd met on the net...; and, he explained that he too had been a virgin unable to find the right person to both accept and love him; so, eventually, he had gone and done it with a prostitute, instead; this guy was a lot younger than me by around 10 years. He then started to criticize me; that how can I be so old and still have not have lost my virginity yet?! I think, that's what got me tempted to go try in the first place. I don't wish to go into too much detail; but, she was beautiful/half my age; and, I was extremely shy and afraid; I was so afraid that even though I had an erection; I did not come no matter how hard she tried; after 1/2 an hour of tying, I simply quit in sheer bitter disgust and frustration at myself; very politely I left. Looking back, all I can say is it was a VERY BIG MISTAKE! Do not listen to what other people think of you; or, to what THEY think may be the right time for you to go loose it; the right time is when YOU -and, ONLY you- do decide it's time to go loose it; after all, you only have virginity, once; so, why throw it away rather stupidly on something you know deep down that you're bound to most deeply regret having done, later. It's true you go around for ALL the rest of your life feeling both deeply ashamed to go and tell anybody else how you lost it; a hidden dark dirty secret that's something you just got to hide; you think to yourself if only I could go rewind time-but, no, you CAN'T! You even wonder to yourself did I catch anything; after all, only heaven truly knows how MANY men she's been with before?! And, some diseases may not reveal themselves, immediately, right away; for example, I heard that AID's can have a 10 years long incubation period; and, you may well feel VERY deeply embarassed to go to your doctors to go get yourself checked out?! Even worse, I'm ashamed to say -(it's certainly nothing to feel proud about/no matter what anybody else boasts or says/doing wrong is doing wrong, that's it)- I have been to revisit prostitutes, again and again. So, this kind of thing can actually develop into a regular habitual lifestyle you get into; and, then, find you can't even stop! I mean, think about it, it's so much easier paying for a 'sure' thing; than having to go get enough courage to go chat somebody up; and, then, go buy them lunch/tea/chocolates/-etc.; who might then choose to go dump you, anyway?! I think, that's why guys go to re-visit prostitutes mainly because it's easy, and, it's sure(especially if they under value themselves, and, feel far too shy -or, stained/dirty- to be able to approach normal girls). But, there's no real relationship there; and, in the end, it's just unfeelingly cold, detached, uncaring; instead, money is what it's all about; you know she doesn't love you; no matter how much you care for her; and, that all she really and truly loves is just your money, alone; and, this makes you feel unloveable all the more; thus, it leads to a totally unsatisfactory feeling and lifestyle. As to the sex; and, completely disregarding the constant serious risks to your health; well, if that was all there was to living, then, possibly it would be ok. But, for most sensible people; then, they know that sex isn't everything; just merely a small part of life; so if sex is your whole life; then, I'd say something has got to be wrong with you. I think, it's only people with very low self-esteem that tends to go approach prostitutes. I know that if my self-esteem had been high; then, I never would have done it ever; nor would I have continued to do it. There is a saying, that some people -such as gamblers- like to live their life right on the edge; that's a part of going with prostitutes like you are living right on the edge; playing with danger(health risks/crime/going to visit dingy dens/having to go deal with pimps/-etc). All in all it's just no good. It can mess you up, forever; making you feel you deserve no better in life. -The prostitution game only looks good on the outside when there's loads of mystery to it/but, when you're involved with being on the inside; then, man, it's just ugly and awful.- Quite honestly, the best ways to deal with it...-just like drugs-...is to not let yourself get caught up in any of it, in the first place; then, believe me, you won't be sorry possibly for all the rest of your life!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2007): IF YOU ARE READING THIS AS A VIRGIN FOR RESEARCH, PLEASE SAVE IT!!
I lost it to a Japanese prostitute while I was stationed in Okinawa, Japan.
She was one of the sexiest women I'd ever been with, but it was definately the worst sex ever. She just lied there and took it. I've had sex countless times afterward, but that's the really bad one I can't forget.
Sex without meaning is masturbation. Sex with a prostitute feels like public masturbation -- it's embarassing to tell anyone about and you ALWAYS regret it afterwards. I should know: I've banged hookers in S. Korea, Japan, Mexico, and the U.S. It's sad, really.
The most amazing, mind-blowing sex is always with a girl who really cares for you, or if you're really lucky, loves you. If you have a girlfriend who loves you but won't give it up, then do the suprising thing and wait her out.
You'll thank me later. (If she's a virgin: Don't worry, it gets better with time. The first time is always an awkward, bloody mess.)
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2007): I lost my virginity to a prostitute when I was 19 and I don't regret it one bit. One thing I always found annoying is people inhibited by their morals or the need for petty emotinal attachment. "Your first time should be with someone special", they say. Well screw that. I've had several girlfriends in high school and nothing serious ever came out of that (they were either "not ready" or had strict parents, religion and whatever other bullshit they usually make up). Believe it or not for some guys their virgiity is a curse and an embarrassment. So to make long story short, I went and "done the deed". She was an extremely beautiful Japanese girl,6 years older than me, and the sex was simply incredible and completely worth every penny.
I mean look at all the positive things you can get out of it:
1. The girl is always understand and sweet and can guide you through the whole thing without looking like an idiot, which is good if you're shy.
2. The girl is always experienced, so the sex will be mind blowing as she knows what buttons to push.
3. The girl is amazingly hot, unlike 99% of the girls you see on the street.
I know screwing a prostitute carries alot of negative stigma etc, but in my opinion guys who go to clubs just to pick up chicks are no better. At least here, both of you know exactly what you want with no bullshit charades.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2007): i lost mine a few days ago to this cute prostitute and i dont regret it,i was amazed with my performance lol lasted at least 45 all my friends were saying id only last 4 mins tops lol but i showed them up. i really dont see the point in keeping your virginity and acting like its some kind of sacred thing, your really just tricking yourself and your just missing out on all the fun, we only live once lets try to atleast make it worth it..
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2007): Yeah, I did about three weeks ago. I was eighteen. She was a high class escort, cost £280 for two hours. She was easily the most attractive woman i'd ever seen in real life; 25 years old, 5'9", blue eyes, blonde hair, natural 32FF breasts, she could have been a pin-up girl or a model; makes me wonder why she decided to prostitute herself.
The experience itself was a positive one. She was warm and frindly, and extremely beautiful. I was nervous and she put me at ease with conversation and a drink of wine. It was a very comfortable way to lose my virginity but I felt detached from her; there was no emotional connection.
The funny thing is I'm considered a very good looking guy, I'm a straight A student, and I'm constantly being approached by females. I'm painfully shy however, and just didn't know how to interact with women. I think this experience has boosted my confidence somewhat, and hopefully in time I'll be more confident.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2007): Hey, Im 17 and I lost my virginity to a prostitute when I was 15 years old, I regret it.... at the time I was just like f**k it... sex is great was my reaction afterwards... but its difficult living with the fact that you KNOW deep down that you lost your virginity to a prostitute, and you have to hide it away for the rest of your life. Its sad really, I just wish I had met the right girl. Life sucks I guess.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2007): I'm 16 right now, still a virgin, and if I don't lose my virginity by the time I'm 18 I plan on losing it to a hooker.
Atleast then I'll have some experience in the sac, afterall, practise makes perfect. Besides if you bang a chick you know and suck miserably the odds are other people will hear about it.
But hookers will keep it to themselves.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2007): I believe the older someone gets the worse the stigma of being a virgin gets. I don't blame guys who go to hookers as a way to lose their virginity. Women have it much easier then men do when it comes to getting sex. Hence why they're fewer female virgins. For some guys finding a sexual partner can be close to impossible. when its because they are unattractive OR shy, or just have a hard time meeting women. eventually these guys are just like "screw it" anf book an apointment with a hooker. I can't really blame them and I do believe it's pretty common. but because of all the stigma surrounding hookers guys usually keep pretty quiet about it. I personally don't see anything wrong with losing it to a hooker.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2007): Yeah, I lost mine to a prostitute since at age 21 I was still a virgin. I had girlfriends before and kissed but always got screwed over when it came to sex. I was too much of the nice guy and always told the girls I was with that I was a virgin. I finally realized that girls wouldn't have sex with me because they knew I was a virgin.
I felt really good afterwards that I was finally free from the curse of virginity that had screwed me over so much. I don't regret it at all and in fact would have done it at an earlier age if I could go back in time. I didnt get any diseases either.
Not long after this, I met a girl who really fell in love with me, but get this, while we were making out she asked me if I was a virgin. I just said no, and she was like OK and right after that wanted to have sex with me. Can you believe this? Girls totally stereotype guys who are virgins.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2006): One guy mentioned that he'd hate to tell his future girlfriend that he went to a prostitute. Who you said you'd have to tell her anything? It's in the past and it's none of her bussiness anyway. I certainly wouldn't tell her besides, I decide what I do with my time and my money. I don't have to justify myself to anyone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2006): hey, i lost my virginity to a prostitute too. Although i don't know how common it is for people to lose their virginity to prostitutes, i decided to lose my virginity to a prostitute because i was 23 years old at the time, was still a virgin, never had a girlfriend in my life...in fact, had even though i was 23, i had never even been kissed by a girl! and never in my life had any girl ever shown any interst in me whatsoever, and at the rate i was going, i thought i would never find a girl, so thats what drove me to do what i did. but after losing my virginity to the prostitute, i really regretted it, felt dirty etc...and further more, despite the fact that i took all necessary steps to protect myself (eg condoms etc) i still ended up catching an infection from her....my doctor doesn't know exactly what it is (all tests have so far come out negative) but says it is a definate infection, but is hoping that it may be treatable, but its been six months now, and the problem still hasn't resolved, and i'll be seeing a specialist soon about it. Ironically, it was after i lost my virginity to a prostitute that i met a very nice girl who had real relationship potential since we got along so well and had so much in common, but because of this infection, i decided not to enter into a relationship with her because i didn't want to risk infecting her. Now she is with some other guy. My point in saying all this is that losing your virginity to a prostitute may sound appealing, especially if you are in a similar situtation that i was in (ie being 23, never had a girlfriend, never been kissed, and still a virgin etc) but doing it can really backfire, as has happened in my case. i know that what i'm saying wont be of much use to the person who posted the original question, but hopefully it will give something to think about to those who are considering having sex with a prostitute. Remember, not only can it scar you mentally, but can leave you at risk of having a lifelong infection/disease. The bottom line is to learn from my mistake and think very carefully before embarking on the path of having sex with a prostitute.
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reader, Dr Pete + ♥, writes (22 December 2006):
It's not common but it does happen a fair bit. I know three people in my various groups of friends throughout the last 10 years that lost their virginity to a prostitute and it usually made good conversation when we've been out drunk in a group. The truth is though, tis a little sad really that they couldn't find a girl they could love, and trust first - I bet they too, deep down, think that. Interestingly, I would say these guys were quite secretively sensitive and they probably did it because they didn't believe they could ever find a girlfriend who would love them. That's just me reading in to things.
On the side of the prostitute, if you stay away from street prostitution you can get "nicer" prostitutes that provide a "girlfriend" experience if you ask, where they give you lots of reassurance and affection. Apparently it is pretty great, but at around £100 - £300 an hour, it should be. =)
I don't know. Perhaps tempting, but personally I'd look to the future, I'd hate having to tell a future girlfriend I saw a prostitute, similarily I'd hate hearing that from a girlfriend. That's just me, a little old fashion and out of date, perhaps, haha.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2006): it's not common, but it's not unheard of. Thankfully the internet brings people together so you hear of others like this. I had my first sexual experience with a hooker, didn't have sex though. It was pretty rubbish and I replay it in my mind on a weekly basis and hate myself for it. I'll never be able to share that info with anyone either.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2006): I always hear all this hooie from people that "oh your first time should be special a gift you give to somebody" these are the same people who say "yeah I lost my virginity when I was 13"...Doesn't that sound a bit hipocritical? Actually losing your virginity to a hooker is very common but like the 3rd poster said guys who do this aren't going to go out of their way to advertise this information because of the stigma. Anyone who has gone to a hooker or is planning on it, DON'T TELL ANYONE!! because you'll always have somebody making some snide remark like "hookers are diseased ewwwwww" (a professional escort will insist on using protection and is probably more cleaner then a "regular" at the bar and club scene. There is a reason why escorts like to emphasize they are "discret" They know you wanna protect your privacy. It's not really anyone's place to tell someone what they can or cannot do with their body.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2006): Hey there, I don't know if it's common these days or not, but something tells me it is, and everyone seems to be saying the same. So yes, there has to be a difference between having sex and "making love". But what's wrong with losing your virginity to a prostitute? Absolutely nothing at all. If you took care of yourself, then you should feel proud. And you're a man, why the hell should you care about "your first time" like it was some deeply emotional thing that will hunt you for the rest of your life (screw that!) leave that sort of thing to effeminate men and girls. You're no longer a virgin and that's it. Your first time was with a prostitute and that's alright. End of story.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2006): hey dude i lost just my virgnity to a prostitue yesteday in some cheap motel in downtown ft lauderdale. im 17 but in a way i kind of regret it. 10 minutes...20 minutes...damn im good--i can hold out much longer. it wasnt until half an hour that i realized i couldnt cum even though i had a damn erection! eventually the hooker got tired of it n just left. i did a bit of research online after that n apparently i have this condition...aint that a bitch. i can have it fixed within two weeks but still, losing my virginity to a hooker yetnot even ejauculating. you cannot go lower thna that
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2006): Hi there, I think it's becoming more and more common these days, people just generally don't shout about it due to the whole stigma surrounding using a prostitute. I know someone who lost their virginity this way too. He didn't do it for the emotional detachment or because it was easy etc. He did it because at the age of 19 he headn't had a sexual relationship with anyone and was quite concerned it was a reflection on him, he needed reassurance that he could do it and was 'normal'. He's in a very happy and fulfilling relationship now.I wouldn't be yourself up about this at all, sex with someone special can always happen, it doesn't have to be your first time to mean something.Hope this helps :o)
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reader, David Lewis +, writes (12 October 2006):
 It is more common than is thought, though not an everyday thing. Some people do it as an easy way to lose it, without the emotional attachment.
It is no susbtitute to giving your virginity to somebody.
I believe you only 'lose' something when it is something you value and wish you had back. I think of virginity as something you should 'give' to somebody special.
I lost mine when I was 13 in a one-off sexual encounter. I wish I had waited to make it special with somebody I cared for.
Some things you lose and then you find them again, virginity is gone forever.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2006): I wouldnt say its common but its not unusual.I know somebody who lost their virginity this way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2006): probably not common, but i can understand it, girls made me wait until 22 or so, if i knew i'd feel so damn awful or how difficult it would be, i would have tried to consider it myself
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