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writes: This is about me and my best friend. I didn't act like a best friend at all. I lied to my best friend about my life, I made up stuff about myself that wasn't true that I told 3 people and when I met my best friend in February I planned on not lying to her and putting the lie behind me but my "cousin" (she's only related by marriage) told the lie and when I tried to ignore it and move on, my cousin just kept bringing it up to my new best friend and I couldn't get her ro stop. Me and my best friend got really close like we did everything together. Until July 1st,she found out about the lies because her friends mom talked to my uncle and my best friend hasn't talked to me for 20 days. I texted her, called her, apologizing and saying I'm truely sorry and told her why I created the lie and said that I understand if she nevee wants to talk to me again and I said how I probably lost my best friend because of it and she said she wasn't sure and that was it. Should I just move on? I know I created this all on myself but I don't want to make her feel like she has to be friends with me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for your help. I did text her again and I told her that I'm sorry and that I know I hurt her, and I said how much she means to me, that having a best friend like her ment everything to me. And I said some more. And all she said again is that She still isn't sure if she wants to be my friend. I left it at that, it's killing me inside though, her just saying again that she isn't sure. I'm not trying to cause anymore hurt or anything with her but at the same time I need to know cuz I'm constantly wondering if I should text her and plain out ask her to give me an honest answer. I know I caused the pain and hurt but now she's hurting me.
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reader, sammi star  +, writes (22 July 2012):
 You're obviously genuinly sorry for your lies but your friend probably feels as though she can't trust anything you say anymore. Send her a letter explaining everything one last time and letting her know how much you value her friendship. Tell her if she ever decides she can trust you and be friends again then you'd love to hear from her but leave it so the ball's in her court. Maybe she'll come round with time but if she doesn't then you've learned an important lesson and hopefully won't repeat your mistake in future.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2012): The only thing I can think to do is when you try to text her again to include in it how she means a lot to you and you wish to work hard to regain her friendship as you wish her to again be an important part of your life. She needs to know she is important to you still and her well being is important to you too and if that means that she chooses to stay her distance for good, then you need to know that information too. Wish her well from there but you deserve at least one more response not just an empty "not sure" statement. You seem to have made it clear in here how much she means and that you do not want to lose her but that you are willing to, for her feelings since it was a consequence of the sad lie that had been previously going around still. I feel for you greatly. I wish you well.You at least have a clean slate to start on now for your future whether it be with her or another new friend to come.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2012): I think that you should probably give her some space. She's probably just really hurt because her best friend lied to her. I think depending on how big the lie was, she might forgive you.
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