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30-35,
*exii_19
writes:Dear cupidI really like this guy I work with, but there's lots of reasons I shouldn't.First of all he's just come out of a really bad marriage, she turned all psycho and clingy on him and then cheated on him, and I don't want to be his rebound girl. secondly he is 9 years older than me and has two children by his wife, but thinking about it, that part doesn't really bother me.At work we get on so well, he makes me laugh all the time and he is always flirting with me. He gets jealous when I talk about other guys. Also lately we have these "moments" where we just keep looking at each other and smiling. It has got to the point where I really like him and I can't stop thinking about him, but his life is such a mess, I mean I can deal with that but I just want to do what is best for him. Any advice?
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reader, Bexii_19 +, writes (12 November 2010):
Bexii_19 is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni agree with you all, the divorce hasnt even gone through yet, i'll just wait until he's ready, because if he likes me i'm sure he'll let me know when he is xx thanx for all the advice guys
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2010): I'd agree with the ladies and say now is not a good time. Let the guy get his woes fixed up first, then go from there.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (11 November 2010):
 Is he legally divorced? What's best for him is to be single, deal with the aftermath of his ex wife, get over the divorce, work out visitations with his children then engage in dating when he's truly ready. Now isn't the time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2010): I won't date a guy until he's been divorced at least a year.
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reader, xanthic +, writes (11 November 2010):
 In all honesty, you probably won't be able to deal with it. His life is still messy and complicated right now, not to mention he has children with another woman, which means she'll always be a part of his life. It's a lot to take on at your age, and believe me, it's definitely going to be a factor if you two eventually get involved. If you still truly want to date him, wait a while. Give him time to heal.
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