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writes: My names *Andrew I have a son, hes 19 years old. Im 36, yes I was young when he was born. Hes been dating this girl, *Ashley for six months now. Shes 17 but will be 18 in a few months. They like each other alot but im sure theyre not in love. Recently Ive been having feeling for Ashley that I shouldnt be having. I have urges to just grab her and kiss her. But I dont just like her on a physical level, shes a really sweet girl. A while ago I was sick and she was there to help me. And by the way Im not married or seeing anyone else. Im not sure what to do, should I act on the feelings later after she turns 18 or should I just keep quiet about it? I would never "make a move on her" while theyre together. But I really dont think theyll be together for much longer and I dont know if I should ask her out or something when they do break up...Help me please, your advice is greatly needed and appreciatedThank you, Andrew
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2007): This just sounds too premeditated.
It was very convenient to put in there how they don't love one another so you can downplay the morality of the whole entertaining thoughts of the girl, yes girl as she is 17.
What can of worms do you think you will open to even wait til she is 18?
If 17 year old girl is just some kind hearted, compassionate person and not putting the moves on you but just wanting to be considerate and helpful...and then you put the "moves" on her when she is 18...I don't think what will occur will line up with the fantasy in your mind.
Please get a grip.
Stop entertaining thoughts of this young girl.
How about joining some singles' dating group and sites? Available and attainable should be more compelling than fanatasy don't you think?
And really, son is just going to say...gee Dad, your the coolest Dad Ever.
DOINK!
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reader, poison_0250 +, writes (2 January 2007):
 Wake up!!!
That's your son's girlfriend and not yours..
You only like her and not love and you are only attracted by her sweetness..
Things will change up... Don't let the relationship with your son destroy by his girl, let them be free..
That's not YOURS...
I agree with Dr Pete,find some one and not to your son,and if ever they would break up there are possibilities,he would not like it...
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reader, David Lewis  +, writes (31 December 2006):
 Ask yourself one question. Are you willing to lose your son?
Then you have your answer. I strongly suggest you act on it.
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reader, cam  +, writes (31 December 2006):
 think about this. how tha hell is your son goin 2 feel? bad idea m8 very bad idea. there are other women out there you should forget about this 1
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2006): There's plenty of 17, almost 18 year old girls out there who are not and will never have been a girlfriend to your son.
Why you are even contemplating the idea? Think less with your dick and more with your brain.
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reader, laburnum94  +, writes (31 December 2006):
 Firstly,examine your social situation.Have you got an active social circle?It could be this young lady is the only one who, for some time has shown thought and consideration for you.If so,these feelings you have may soon pass once you find a caring lady of your own,who you share time and interest.I`m of a similar age to you and raised my son.I couldnt imagine this myself and i dont want to judge,but imagine how you would feel if you found your son and ex girlfriend together.I do hope you come to your senses and i really wish a happy ending for you,and i do believe that one day you will meet your soulmate and look back in disbelief.Good luck.
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reader, beentheredonethat +, writes (31 December 2006):
 Ummmm I know your young enough to date her eventually....but really THINK. (with the big head please) Any best friends Ex is off limits...unless they give you permission. Any Son's girlfriend....ex or not....is OFF LIMITS. DO not DO anything....including starting little tiffs between them to further you own wishes. Be a DAD and be kind to her......Then find someone closer to your own age and get involved with them. Leave the teenie boppers alone....
If you steal your sons GF....he will never trust you or forgive you....ever. that girl could cure cancer, discover a new solar system and save all the worlds starving children and she would not be worth hurting your son for a second. Thinking with the little head is what got you a son at that age in the first place....don't prove it's still in charge.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2006): Please think of your son and do nothing even if they do split. There are lots of other girls out there but only one of him. You could wreck that relationship for a very, very long time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2006): I really don't think that would be a good idea, even if your son and his girlfriend do split up. Think about how your son would feel if his dad started dating his ex?
I'm just trying to imagine how I would feel if my mum started dating one of my exes. I probably couldn't handle it. Wouldn't be able to look at her the same way. Or him.
But I suppose if you two are close, he might be understanding. But there are plenty of other girls out there. Just go out and look. It will probably help to take your mind off her too.
Good luck x
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reader, Pretty and proud +, writes (31 December 2006):
 no way! thats your sons girlfriend. maybe you see something in her that you seen in a past love? and having a son so young you must have had to grow up alot for the age that you were. you should never make a move on her or ask her out if they split up, because your son will fall out with you then! maybe you should look for someone in your age groups here are some websites to help you meet people.
www.person.com
www.plentyoffish.com
these websites will help you find someone who lives near you and you can set up your own profile on there.
good luck.
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