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writes:I'm 15 and a male , i have liked my 21 year old female cousin for almost 2 years now and 2 months ago she start to act different around me talk about her relationships and much more sexual information , so recently i told her that i liked her and she told me that she liked me back. Now everything i see her and we are alone she talks sexuality to me and makes sexual gestures(such as when we were swimming and everyone else in the pool left she started undoing her top of her bikini and i saw here breasts for a few minutes til someone went backin the pool then she put it backon. I like it when she does this but is it right to go along with her? I really want to be with her but should I?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2010): Well, it depends on what state you live in. In 19 American states it is legal to get with you cousin, just not any other relative. why? most of American law is based out of the christian bible. There are several examples of cousins marrying, and even having children together.
As for the mutations or deformity's, this risk is only increases by 1%-3% over the usual 1%-3%.
It is more of a societal issue than a moral issue.
Why do I know all this? I also began to have an unexpected crush on my first cousin. I researched everything I could find about it, then told her. she said no, but we are still good friends and, there isn't even any awkwardness between us about it.
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reader, CommandoDude +, writes (5 September 2010):
 Well, you need to ask yourself why you don't think you should go. What are your doubts? Are you afraid something might happen? Are you afraid something will happen and a friend/relative will find out? Are you afraid that you're misinterpreting her actions? Do you feel uncomfortable or awkward around her?Think about it in terms of, why do you think you shouldn't go? If you can't think of any reasons that satisfy you, you should go.
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reader, dannyrawr +, writes (4 September 2010):
dannyrawr is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNow that she knows I like her and she likes me , shes been touching me more and likes spending time alone, she recently asked me to go camping with her just her and I, I don't know if I should go, she keeps telling me to go cause I have a fun time but i don't know what should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2010): No its not right.It america thats illegal! You could both be arrested for incest.If you had kids there would be a very high chance that they would be physically and mentally deformed. She is taking advantage of your feelings aswell, she knows this is wrong and should put a stop to it, its very immature and stupid of her to lead you along. You are practically still a child, I remember what it was like to be 15 and there is a huge difference between that and being an adult at 21. You both need to stop now before you do any damage. I cant imagine you family would be very happy about this.
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reader, CommandoDude +, writes (3 September 2010):
Well, there is the issue of age, you're young, probably just into high school, you're inexperience with romacne. You should realize that what she is doing is putting herself at risk, since it is illegal to have sex with a minor. And you need to talk to her about that. In addition, look up your state's laws regarding cousin relationship, about only half have legalized inter cousin relationship. Frankly, when I was that age I thought I was mature. And if I were in that kind of situation, I know I would've gone with her, consequences be damned, because I would follow my heart. But if you're not prepared to deal with the consequences, then you shouldn't.The fact that she is your cousin will mean that you need to be extra secretive. A lot of people judge and harass incestuous couples on nothing but outdated prejudices. Ignore any hateful comments that seek to degrade such a romance as 'wrong'Maybe you are simply infatuated with her, or lust for her. Regardless, it is your life, and it may be better to have loved and lost then not loved at all. You won't know if it will work if you don't try.
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