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writes: I have a friend that ive known for about 5 years. Ever since Ive met him Ive felt something for him however within the last 6 months these feelings have recently started getting stronger. However he isnt a very close friend - but I value his friendship soo much - (Im pretty sure i value it more than he does) and If I tell him how I feel then I could screw up everything! If he didnt feel the same then things would be so awkward between us. So what do I do? Do I leave it the way it is and settle for the friendship or tell him and risk losing it all? Reply to this Question |
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reader, helpful girl  +, writes (11 October 2006):
 well life is about risks and also about honesty well it should be. but if you dont tell him then these feelings you have will just get stronger, and if you still feel it and you dont tell him what is the sense in that?! and if you do take the risk well you may end up being with him as well as getting out in the open, if it does go all wrong at least you can try to repair your ralationship if he gets with another girl and you fell in love with him i doubt you will repair your broken heart for a while!
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reader, Cool Cucumber +, writes (11 October 2006):
 You could tell him, if he is a decent enough friend it should'nt be a problem, although could be a little awkward at first. If you never say anything, it could become increasingly difficult to be around him and very frustrating too as you want more then to be just friends.
I guess you have to ask yourself...can you contain your feelings with the risk of it being blurted out when drunk...or end up resenting the freindship due to your increasing feelings? I doubt your feelings will just vanish over time, especially as you have built a freindship over a number of years, and he may even start to pick up on your behaviour when around him. I can't say what would be best, but hope I've highlighted the dilemma a little to ensure you make the best decision for you! Good luck! x
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