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writes:I still like girls but i like to watch gay porn and i dont get turned on by girls alot am i gay?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2015): I'd try and lay off the porn a little, at your age. Your hormones will be quite naturally running rampant at this age, but you don't want to get TOO fond of it.
As for your preferences, Empty brings up a good point I'd like to touch on:
"If you like gay porn, well, maybe it has nothing to do with you being "gay" or "straight", but rather, you might identify with other men you see enjoying sexual pleasure" -
Spot-on. I prefer straight porn, but sexually it's males that do it for me. This cycle started when I'd see porn with friends at 15-ish and I knew I was TOTALLY reacting differently to the others. I'd drool over the guy and relate to the girl (trying not to let anyone notice, of course). While they'd be going on about how hot she was, I'd be thinking 'oh my God WOW her lingerie is fabulous' and, though it took a while to admit to myself, 'If that's how he makes her feel, I want some of that!' - Feeling naughty, feverish, hoping the guys wouldn't see how my reaction was different from theirs. And I still find straight porn exciting, though I don't watch it to excess.
It may or may not be relevant to your sexual identity, which will reveal itself to you in its own time. Don't stress too much over it, and enjoy other areas of your life as best you can. Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2015): As long as it's not harming anybody else, watch whatever porn you enjoy. You'll figure out your sexuality in good time. I don't think you should get hung up on it.
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reader, Garbo  +, writes (6 June 2015):
 I really don't care what sort of porn you are watching but I do care that you are watching it, and given your age, such porn is brutal on your brain. Numerous studies have recently come out showing how porn carves out degenerated neural paths in humans. However, unlike adults who by abstinence can reverse and self heal, these degenerate neural paths in teenagers are permanent and irreversible because the normal neural paths, because of the porn, were never given a chance to form in the first place so there is nothing normal to reverse to. As a result, such teens end up with a spectrum of psycho-sexual aberrations that affect their real life intimate relationships. So, given this overwhelming data, my massage is that you deserve to be healthy stop watching porn, period, and if you like girls then go after them instead.
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reader, empty-1 +, writes (6 June 2015):
Human sexuality exists on a spectrum. That's why the LGBT community has adopted a rainbow for their main symbol.
On one end of the spectrum is "super mega straight" where the very idea of accidental, incidental, non sexual contact with a member of the same sex is repulsive.
On the other end of the spectrum is "super mega gay" where the very idea of accidental, incidental, non sexual contact with a member of the opposite sex is repulsive.
Almost everyone exists somewhere between the extremes. More importantly - people move across the spectrum over time, they don't just exist on one spot. Forget labels, boxes, and categories. Be you. Like what you like, and learn to be comfortable in your own skin.
While language may be a great gift, it isn't without its downsides. Too many people get too caught up in finding a word to describe their position, and forget to embrace and celebrate it.
For example - I would self describe as "straight". However, I have a gay friend/ acquaintance. I've flirted with him, and while at a bar with a group of friends, he sat on my lap and we flirted to shock/amuse the group. He knew I had no real sexual interest in him, but I like him as a person, he's cool and fun to hang around, and we can touch and be close without it being awkward or sexually charged.
If you like gay porn, well, maybe it has nothing to do with you being "gay" or "straight", but rather, you might identify with other men you see enjoying sexual pleasure. Nothing wrong with having a strong sense of empathy, and being able to identify with what obviously feels good to another member of your own gender.
Lose your shame. Lose your need to fit in to one category or group. Start just being human, start just being you. Unapologetically, whole, real, authentic, and true.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2015): At your age you really shouldn't be watching any kind of porn; but since you are, it's senseless in saying so.
You're too young to have a completely established sexual-identity; but you do like girls. Watching porn satisfies your sexual curiosity, it doesn't decide for what your sexual orientation is.
I think you may want to quit watching porn until you can decide for yourself without question what your preference is; boys, girls, or both. At your age, you may guess; but your mind is still growing and developing and can change.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (5 June 2015):
 I agree with CMMP
I just want to add that MAYBE you should cut out the porn. It's not something that will HELP you in life and what you SEE has nothing to do with reality (as far as healthy sex). It's about as fake as it can get.
Check out...
http://yourbrainonporn.com/
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reader, CMMP +, writes (5 June 2015):
It's not always "gay, straight, bisexual", you may be somewhere in between. You're young and will figure things out with time, so don't worry about it and don't be ashamed. There are plenty of people out there just like you and plenty of people who will accept you regardless of your sexual preferences.
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