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female
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:I love a guy bt I sent him fake photos and used to speak to him using a fake id.we are in a long distance relationshp for 6 months. He is the son of my friend and her neighbour..He knows my sister because my sister lives same place as my friend.i had wanted to tell him several times before but didn't have the courage. Now just a month before he was coming to my area, I told him everythng in a text that I'm the sister of girl he knows and I told him I spoke to him using a fake id. And that I loved him a lot. We used to talk from morning till midnightHe had a job but still he devoted a lot of time to me.We had planned everything including marriage and kids.I also sent him a request with my real id but he did not accept and only chatted.He talked a little..but after hearing the truth he has blocked me from both ids fake and real and has put my number also in the reject list.what should I do?? I really love him.Yet after hearing the truth, he doesn't talk to me I tried 10 times a day to text him He doesn't reply to even one.I know that I have wronged. I betrayed his trust but I love him that's why I did all this. I had become selfish, was only concerned with myself .I didn't think about how hurt he will be when I told him the truth.i wish only friendship with him but he doesn't want it...He messaged me once - will you meet me? I replied really? ? But he didn't reply..I told him that I didn't expect anything from him, only frndshp than he replied -yes friends for benefits...what does it mean???? He didn't reply...Once he said forget me it will be better for you, you will find a better guy than me.i said I dnt expect nothng from you only frnshp..then he replied we are friends now....but he doesn't message me till now..what to do now 1.5 months gone...I call him text him but he does not reply..Please give me some suggestions...
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reader, SensitiveBloke  +, writes (29 September 2014):
 You were planning marriage and kids with someone you'd never even met? You need to come back to the real world!
Why did you lie to him in the first place? Just be real with people.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (27 September 2014):
 All you can DO is learn from this. When you LIE to people the way you did. Pretending to BE someone else is not OK if you are trying to get to know someone.
BE who you are.
The guy didn't reject YOU, he rejected your lies. And I don't blame him.
Honey, HE wants nothing to do with you because you lied to him.
In the future, be honest.
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reader, moon river +, writes (27 September 2014):
 Take this a lesson on what not to do. You will never get his trust now and just don't do it again as you could could be missing out on something great
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reader, like I see it +, writes (27 September 2014):
 I am sorry to hear you are dealing with this. Concerning your options, there's good news and bad news.
The bad news is that you lied to him and so he is completely within his rights to cut contact with you over the resulting lack of trust. Let that be a lesson to you for future dates - no one likes being lied to, no matter how good your intentions might be. When they discover they HAVE been lied to, their first thought is usually that you are a dishonest person, not that you probably meant well.
The good news is that in showing him your true colors, you've gotten a glimpse of his. This guy doesn't actually sound like someone who would have been good for you.
When he says "friends with benefits" he means friends who have sex without any other commitment to one another - no relationship, and definitely no marriage and kids.
This is not the type of arrangement typically sought by a man who is ready to settle down and be faithful to one woman. What he's saying is that he doesn't want a relationship with you, but he's willing to keep you around for sex while he looks for someone better. He might even have had other "friends with benefits" that he met for sex while in a long distance relationship with you.
Do NOT meet him, as he will likely take this as acceptance of his offer of a casual sexual relationship and try to pressure you into sleeping with him.
My advice to you is to let him go and move on. Use this as a lesson to start your next relationship with honesty and not deception. You are beautiful just as you are, and somewhere out there is a person who will appreciate you for all that you have to offer.
Good luck and best wishes.
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