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I lied to my girlfriend, I need to gain her trust back! HELP!!

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Question - (15 September 2006) 4 Answers - (Newest, 24 December 2009)
A male , *ichaeltime100 writes:

I need help i have lied to my girlfriend on 3 occasions and now she is upset and wants me to say something to reassure her that it wont happen again. I have broken her trust and she needs me to tell what i will do to win back that trust

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A male reader, preme United States +, writes (24 December 2009):

Listen, I've recently fell victim to lies and prevaricative/evasive speaking and ultimately lost my trust from my lady as well, and I am working to rebuild,too. I am speaking to her frequently about my aberration and how it has affected me and that it wasn't actually intended to hurt her, but to avoid conflict with her, to no avail. Also, I am introspectively assessing self in what is the root of me even lying to one that I truly love - am I dealing with confidence/reliance issues because of past hurtful relationships? Is it because I am insecure in my actions? For me, it wasn't because of infidelity nor any malicious reasoning, but everyone can agree that a lie is a lie, regardless. I am reassuring her that it won't happen again, and I am making the proper redress within self to eradicate that willingness to lie. Sometimes it takes just as long to correct a problem as it was to create it...

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2008):

i am in the same position as your girlfriend. my boyfriend has lied to me on several occasions and has let me down for his friends after promising to spend time with me.

the only thing i can suggest you do is sit down with her and explain your reasons behind what you did. reassure her that this wont happen again. make promises and keep to them. i only wish my partner wasnt in denile. i admire you for recognising that you have made a mistake and that in itself is a good enough reason for her to try and rebuild her trust in you.

Her trust wont come back over night, its going to take her a long time but providing you reasure her how you feel then ur on the road to recovery.

good luck

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A female reader, claire_x100 +, writes (17 September 2006):

claire_x100 agony auntWell as the person said already it totally depends on what you have lied about. Getting trust back is the hardest thing to do, so i suggest do somethin outta the blue, write her poem about trust and love (if she likes that sorta thing). If not have a conversation with her and tell her it wont happen again but make sure you have eye contact to see how she really feel bout it, If you both love each other im sure you will be able to work it out. Good Luck.

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A female reader, confussed jane +, writes (15 September 2006):

right for a start you need to build the trust back you will need to start from scratch she is just scared you hurt her again.you should talk to her and say your willing build the trust up again and tell her how you feel about her it depends on what you lied to her about in 3 occasions? but in time she will start trusting you if you both love each other you can make it work.

i lied 2 my fiance now ages ago i have got trust back and we are so happy i earned the trust back but it did take time.

hope all works out for you if you need anymare help just let me know happy to help good luck xxxxx

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