I lied about being pregnant and took money to pay for medication. He found out and wants me to prove that I won't lie again. What should I do?

A female age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I was recently in a relationship, and we are now broken up for 6 days. It hurts more then anything. I have always been beaten in relationships so I have a very very hard time opening up to people. I was starting to open up to this guy a lot, because he was so nice to me and tried to do everything he can to make me happy. And then I messed it all up. I took a pregnancy test and it came out positive. I had already told him that I was going to be taking the test so he already knew that I was going to. But i had told him that cause I was sure it was coming out negative. But it didnt. But I lied to him out of fear and told him it did. I wasnt sure what to do, or where to start or anything. So I had lied to him and told him I wasnt. I have a very bad heart condition, so being pregnant is very dangerous for me. So I called my nurse and told her. And she told me to come into the hospital right away and get some medication that will help me throughout my pregancy or at least until I decide what i am going to be doing. I was sleeping at my boyfriends house that night, so in the morning I got up to go to work and stoped at the doctors before going to work to pick it up. I took 100$ from my boyfriend without him knowing to pay for them but I was getting paid that night, and I was going to be home before him and I was going to replace before he even knew. He had called me and he was home and noticed that it was gone and broke up with me. I was supose to finish work way before him and put it back and he wouldnt have even known and then i was going to give myself 2-3 days just to think about it alone, and then talk to him. He called me knowing that the money was gone and broke up with me and never wanted to talk to me again, so I had to come clean with him and tell him. So he knows now.. but I still love him. More then anything. And he keeps telling me he still really cares for me. But he wants me to be able to prove to his mom and his 2 best friends on why I am the right one for him. I have no clue how i am supose to do that. I am willing to do that, and was told that I should never do that. But I want him. We were good together, but then I messed up for lieing. And because it was something so big thats what why it is so hard for him to trust me or know what he wants. He says he wants to be with me, but not right now. And I have to prove to him that I am not ever going to lie to him aagain.. And I just dont know what to do anymore. I just want to be with him. Please help me.

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