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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi. I'm currently in a weird state of mind and need some clarity. I really like this friend of mine from college but he works in a different city so we don't get to see each other. The issue is, I always end up acting awkward with him. I talk too much or end up saying silly things while texting or talking to him. Usually I'm the one to initiate conversations and that makes me feel so uncomf like I'm coming off as desperate or clingy. Last night I texted him this!!! That I get so uncomf like I'm being desp and clingy. He said no I'm not and I shouldn't over think but my emotions are all over the place when it comes to him. I have never behaved like this with any guy before and this makes me very anxious and uncomfortable. I know we won't ever date and he isn't looking for a rel but I still can't handle my feelings for me. I hate wasting my time over nothing but seems like I have no control over it. I let him affect my moods, my thoughts. I feel like I'm making a fool of myself every time I end up texting him. What do I do? I can't even tell him I like him and ruin our friendship. And I can't help this feeling of coming off as a clingy desp fool if I text him. PS- Was I wrong to text him about how uncomf I feel every time I text him ?
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (21 September 2016):
 You ARE wasting your time and you DO have control, that is if you take that control. The guy just wants friendship and you want more. Not going to happen. Be strong and move on with your life. No more texting. Like Aunt H said, Stay busy get involved with your studies take it one day at a time and you will be just fine.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (13 July 2016):
 From your message my guess is that he knows that you like him. Sweetie you act like this because you have a crush on him. My guess is that he knows but he just wants to be friends. You trying to be his friend is going to hurt you more and more, my best advice to you would be to stop contact with him and keep yourself busy with friends and college.
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