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writes:Hello, well about two years ago i met someone, it lasted about three months, she treated me fantastic, but then my ex poped back into the picture, she treated me really bad , even hit me but I was in love with her, so i dumped the new one, went back to the one who treated me so bad, well it didn't last long ,she was treating me the same way again. So I finally walk away from her for good, girls you think, I should get a hold of the women who treated me so good, I never have stop thinking about her, all am talking about is a small tex, I know I hurt her, I didn't even tell her why I broke up with her.
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reader, Ciar  + ♥, writes (14 April 2014):
 Having re-read your original submission I'm going to revise my answer.I assume this woman has some inner fortitude and after only 3 months of dating and two years with no contact I daresay she's long since gotten over you. In fact she may be happily involved with someone else by now.You're absolutely right that sometimes people wish to reconnect with someone they dated long after the fact and that for some it does work out. You might be one of the fortunate ones. On the other hand, there is a certain satisfaction that comes from knowing the person who rejected you later regretted that decision. For some it's a vindication and that might be all she's interested in from you.A text message would be rather cavalier given the circumstances, and a phone call would catch her off guard and put her on the spot, so I would send an email. That way she can read it, absorb it, re-read it and sort her thoughts before responding, if she even decides to. Remember, she owes you nothing so don't press her to share her feelings just because you went out on a limb, Personally, I think if the woman has any class and self respect, she'll thank you for the apology, wish you the best and send you on your way.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (14 April 2014):
 You Sir, are very unlikable!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWhat if she still misses me as much as i miss her. And she been hoping I call or tex.People can miss some one for two years i know ive been through that my self, an have realize , how much that person means to them. Some people can not switch it off like a light. And some times when they get back together, its fantastic, or not , I know, loves a gamble, I gamble an loss.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (14 April 2014):
 Take six months... see neither of them... try to grow up... and see how you feel on October 14th, 2014. "The answer" should be clear, by then....
Good luck...
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx  +, writes (12 April 2014):
 I don't think you should try walking back into this womans life.
And to be honest even if you did she may well just push you straight back out of it. And I don't think either you or her needs that at this moment in time.
You do need to think what happened between you and that women, you dropped her for an ex, thats gotta be hard for anyone to deal with, and I think for the time being you should just maybe try and get on with your own life and try and meet some new girls instead of going back to the old ones.
Good Luck x
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reader, Ciar + ♥, writes (12 April 2014):
No, I don't think you should contact the woman you dumped. The only reason you're even thinking of it is because things didn't work out with your ex and there is no one else waiting in the winds for you.
The time for an explanation has long passed. She's already come to terms with it and moved on. Re-opening that can of worms is solely for your benefit, not hers.
Besides, who wants to take up with someone who dumped them for a nasty abusive ex?
Just leave her alone.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (12 April 2014):
 I agree, leave her be.
You screwed up. She was smart enough to cut all communication and walk away. And it was only a 3 months relationship, she doesn't need an explanation now.
Don't be selfish AGAIN, when it comes to this woman.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2014): You're not just talking about a small text, you're talking about reopening the lines of communication so you can fuck with her head again all because things didn't work out with the woman you dumped her for. "Hey darling, I know I dumped you without giving you a reason and fucked you over, see here's the thing; I like my ex better than you and wanted to give it a shot, but she dumped my sorry ass and as my fall-back option you'll be happy to know it didn't work out so now I'm all yours again. Rejoice!"
No I don't think you should get hold of the woman who treated you so good because you treated her with utter contempt and she deserves better than to be messed around by you again.
Is this just how you treat people at your age, OP? Like a snake in the grass? "Just one little text, it can't hurt can it?"
Yes, OP, it can hurt like a bitch, the last thing she deserves now is someone as inconsiderate as you to pop back into her life and put on the charm with some lies about how it didn't work out because you couldn't stop thinking about her.
Do the right thing here and leave her alone to get on with her life.
She's been good to you, be good to her for a change and let her have peace of mind and not try and stir her feelings up again.
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (12 April 2014):
While texting her might make you feel better, I doubt it is going to make the lady in question feel better, besides, if she has any brains she will tell you where to put your little text .... you dumped her for somebody that wasn't worth being dumped for, imagine what it feels like to be dumped for an abusive nasty woman, c'mon, you chose a real doozy over her, which means you lack good judgment.
I think you should leave her alone, you made your choice, so stick by it!
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