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I know the crush is wrong, so how do I get over it?

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Question - (4 September 2015) 1 Answers - (Newest, 5 September 2015)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Hello!

So, my issue is my boyfriend's friend. I have a bit of a crush on him and I feel like that may be reciprocated. My boyfriend and I have been together for years and have a life together, so I'm not going to leave him for someone else, but I can't seem to shake this crush.

He's very touchy which I don't mind too much because I'm generally just a very physically affectionate person with all of my friends, so it's nit a huge deal.

However, sometimes I feel like it's more than just goofy, friendly playing with the hair (which I do with a lot of friends) and things like that. Like last night, we were joking around and my other friend who was there later commented that it was the kind of behavior that "only couples do".

Without getting too in depth it's everything from sort of rubbing my feet, putting his head on my shoulder, paying me compliments.

I'm pretty insecure so I never think people are flirting but even I think he probably is.

How can I get over this crush?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2015):

How about showing your boyfriend some respect and keeping your hands to yourself? Stop pretending like it's innocent while you play touchy-feely with his friend.

Is it okay for your boyfriend to play touchy-feely with other girls?

Oh please, with the I can't get over it. It's the same excuse cheaters use. "I can't help myself!"

How much do you care about your boyfriend? This is how friendships are destroyed. Because of a girlfriend who doesn't know how to respect boundaries. They both will eventually see you for what you are. An opportunist, who pretends to care for one; while going for the other.

They'll be bros, dump you, and have nothing to do with you.

You know the crush is wrong? Then cut it out!

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