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I Know I Need to Move On but HOW????

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Question - (6 February 2007) 6 Answers - (Newest, 7 February 2007)
A female United Kingdom, anonymous writes:

I've just split up with my boyfriend and i'm finding it so hard to cope with. I know he's moving on now, he's already speaking to a few other girls. He says he's single but there are girls he's texting cos it stops him from being lonely. If i text him he doesnt text back. So i know he's moving on and i'm not as important to him as i was but i just hate this. I'm not good at letting go. It took me the best part of 2 years to get over the last guy i was in love with. I just hate that he's not going to be in my life ever again and i hate little things like not knowing what he's up to and how his day has been.

I wanna be in his life so bad. Its stupid because the relationship wasnt going anywhere and i always knew we wouldnt last and would have to break up at some point but it hurts so much. How can i let go of him and move on? Right now i feel like i dont want to let go, and i dont want to get over him but i know i have to because he has.

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A female reader, maisiemai Ireland +, writes (7 February 2007):

No worries.. You will not feel like this soon. I couldn't see any light at the end and I was so sick of feeling the way i felt... i never thought i would feel normal again and felt so rejected but all it took was for me to go out and meet other guys and see that there actually is a whole world out there for us! I'm not over the ex, not by a long shot but it's getting easier and that feeling is starting to lift. I wish you so much luck lovey. let me know how u get on and if you need any more advice just shout. I know so well how you are feeling now.

xxxx

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A reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2007):

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thanks for your help especially you lily. thats exactly the advice i wanted to hear cos i know its exactly what i would tell a friend of mine in my position :) i just gotta keep my chin up and stop looking at his damn pictures! lol. it hurts but i guess it'll go away at some point. probably wont be 70 and still feeling like this ;) so thanks again everyone x x x

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A male reader, tallbloke +, writes (6 February 2007):

You will have great times again, just with someone else instead. You need to hold on to that thought & as you get older you'll come to see that what I said is true. I've had my heart broken on so many occasions & have thought I had lost something special and will never find the same again but it's not true at all, something new and special is just around the corner. I'm saying this and I know that I've got to finish with my current girlfriend who I'm mad about yet I know she doesn't love me.

Put some sad music on, have a good old cry then go out with your mates, drink some booze & flirt like a MF! Get some numbers, txt some blokes. It'll make you feel attractive, boost your self confidence and give you faith in the future.

Also, stop getting in touch with him. Trust me, the best way to get over someone is to avoid contact altogether, you're just dragging out the bereavement process.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2007):

Just give yourself time. I went through a break up about 3 months ago, and I am just now getting back to being my old self. It sucks, but the longer you contact him, including texts, the longer it will take you to let him go. Trust me, I tried all that, too. And, now I have NO contact with him except to see him around sometimes (we have mutual friends). Good luck. You will be okay, I promise.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2007):

I've been in exactly the same place as you and it really hurts. But you realise you have to move on, so you need to be really strong and focus on other things. Keep yourself busy and don't give him the satisfaction of texting - it only shows him you are pining for him, he will think you are weak. You need to occupy yourself with other things, leave your phone at home! And as time goes by although its so hard to believe, the pain will get less and less.

Good luck hun.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2007):

Hey. I just read your problem. let me tell you i was in the exact same boat and only just came out of it the weekend just gone... I was with my ex for 5 yrs and we broke up recently and he was seeing other girls and never texting me or wanting to spend time with me.. i was in bits about it and like you i was wanting to know what he was up to and wanted to be part of his life but of course he was not even thinking of me coz of the other girls! I couldnt stop thinking about it and it was doing my head in so much i went to the doctor and he gave me some relaxant tabs which i took once.. i went out that night and pulled a really cool guy who has been texting me and we are meeting up again next weekend.. guess what? i have hardly thought about my ex since.. well i have thought about him but not the same obsessive thoughts i was having this time last week! you know what they say the best way to get over a guy is to get under another one!! it worked for me. i know you probably dont feel like doing it right now and neither did i, believe me when i say i was in a state over the ex and now i really couldnt give a damn im doing what he was doing and loving every minute of it... Get your glad rags on, organise a night with mates and hit the town and flirt with any hot guys you see and i bet it will help you if you meet someone else.. not for a new relationship thou coz u need time on ur own after being in a relationship!

good luck xx

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