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writes:as i told you about the boy iv liked for years he is 18 and im 15 , he only just started ringing me i ring him all the time and he rings me all the time he always says are you gonna come and meet me, he has never really been in a relationship because he brotherd make him go out and do sniff and now he is addicted he sleeps with everyone but for some reason that doesnt matter to me i think im in love with him and iv got him right were i want him , and i do want to have sex with him , but i'm afraid after he'll move on to the next girl witch he will, i will fall deeply in love with him , i want him to myself but i no i cantplease help xxxx
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reader, kt +, writes (28 February 2007):
 love is an amazing emotion, its really addictive, especially your first love, but what makes love so complicated and hard is having to make the horrible decision - is this right?sounds like your falling into a big black hole, and the longer you leave yourself to fall the harder it is to climb back out. in other words if you don't start thinking 'right this isn't going to end up good' and start moving on, the harder it will be when you have to get over him when he's hurt you.everyone has an idea in their head of there perfect man, and you have to think is he what i really want? will he be worth the pain? - of course you want to say 'yes he is' but be kind to your self and respect yourself! no one can make you do this but its something you need to do - and i think you already know it.hope this help xxx
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reader, cherry123 +, writes (28 February 2007):
i think you should stay away or youll get hurt if hes done this to other girls you could end up in the same position it is very easy to get close to someone and when you do you could end up taking the drugs aswell i assume your talking about cocaine i have a family member who got a compensation claim due to an accident at work and he blew thousands of pound on cocaine and now hes left with nothing and noone wants to know him all these people he would take the drug with dont want to know he has ruined his life have you ever read the daniella westbrooke autobiography i have just finished it you should read it it will hep you understand
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reader, TygersDream  +, writes (28 February 2007):
 I know, love is a many spendor thing, but it's like a hundred dollar bill, you can't spend it ALL on something perishable like chocolates or roses or candy - no matter how much you crave them. Tomorrow you're going to want something more essential and then you'll find you've got nothing to buy it with. What happens then? Regret kicks in - "Oh, I wish I didn't do it..." and you'll have a dozen boxes of chocolate you're sick of eating.
I liked this guy for a dozen years, but when HE decided to talk to me and take me out, I found the fire GONE. There wasn't anything that I really LIKED about him and although he's not a sniffer, he's got problems of his own, and so there was nothing that he could give ME.
For you and this guy:
Worst case scenario, you guys get together, he sleeps with you a couple of times, he gets high on sniff he sleeps with someone else.
You pick up STDs/HIV/VD/get pregnant.
You call him up for help, he refuses to answer your calls.
You are left ALONE to deal with your problems while he's too high to care.
A more important question has to do with your sexual health - since he sleeps around and is on sniff, there's an unlikely chance that he'll use condoms or even get a sex-health checkup. He's obviously irresponsible and careless with himself so you can't take the chance that he's CLEAN.
Do you WANT to lick off the same spoon EVERYBODY ELSE has been sharing? Ech.
Please choose your common sense over your crush. Everything else in your column is telling you to do it.
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