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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Dear CupidI am in a very emotionally abusive relationship. I knew its abusive cause1. He often threatens to break up when i get angry or talk back or irritate him by calling him even once a day2. Ignores me for days and then talks as if nothing happened and gets angry if i wont talk to him in cheerful manner as if nothing happened3. Never hits me but calls me stupid, dolt, good for nothing, why dont u kill yourself, why are u still alive4. Blocks me in watsapp since i texted him (once) when he was with friends and when asked him to unblock me said he needs to teach me a lesson 5. Tells me often that he can get anyone he wants as he is handsome (he is not though but knows exactly how to talk to women) and he is fun to be with (he was earlier to me) and im nothing. He is just doing me a favor by being with me6. He is brilliant and im not that sharp, and points that out to me all the time and says i can never ever be sharp like him7. He is god for women and every women wants to be with himEnough being said, even though he is toxin and abusive, i still go back after him every-time. Its like he is my oxygen i cannot live without. What should i do to get out of this, pls be noted i dont have any close friends (never had) hv few friends but cant talk to them abt any personal stuff like thses, my parents are not close to me and my sister is close to me but she is juggling between her kids and i dont want to dump everything on her. Hence i want kind souls like people here to help me.Pls help me to get out of this and stop me from accepting he is gods gift to women as he claims and im lucky that he even talks to me, wat is wrong with me.
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reader, mystiquek + ♥, writes (27 November 2014):
 You need to realize that you are someone special and deserve to be treated like you are a special jewel. You dont think much of yourself and are suffering from low self esteem and insecurity. You know he doesn't treat you right and yet you keep going back to him. You deserve so much more than what he offers you, sweetie.
I can only guess at your reasons. Are you afraid of being alone? Are you thinking that there will never be anyone else? Sometimes people stay within a toxic relationship because they are too afraid to go into the "unknown". You know how this man is, how he operates and you have conditioned yourself to this is just the way that it is. Snap out of it...give yourself the chance to be free and to be treated with dignity and respect.
No one can do this for you except YOU. He's not the only man in the world, ok? It might be scary and lonely for awhile but sometimes being alone is far better than being with someone who mistreats you.
End things. Discover who you really are. Love yourself.
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