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I kept waiting for him to leave his g/f but he never really did so I ended things. Did I do the right thing?

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Question - (29 April 2013) 5 Answers - (Newest, 30 April 2013)
A female age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I'm confused that I already made a mistake as he asked me to wait for him to breakup with girlfriend of 6 years he told me they are in verge of breaking up but I didnt do it. I just stoped waiting and said goodbye a month ago. I've waited for him to figure things out for 2 months now and he already broke up once but end up going back in 3 days and told me his gf txted him about something stupid like commit suicide so he went back. Then I had to go out of country to visit my mum immediately as she was sick. I told him and he become distant I didnt know what to do I need to go. He seem understand but when I ask about our relationship he alway said 'may be I can break up' or 'I cant handle drama right now' or 'It is really hard to end things with her' or ' I dont want to break her heart that she still love me' I'm sick of these excuses. But we still keep contact when I was out of the country and they fight and seperate again he told me agian that he's over her and never go back but then he's back. So I decided to end our relationship and told him that I cant stand anymore. Did it do right things? I feel like I was a fallback girl for him and became other woman in the end and it's a month now that I cut our contact. I'm fine but really hurt inside as we are still in love. He cried and never say goodbye :(

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2013):

You did the right thing Life is Too Short!

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A female reader, Tisha-1 United States +, writes (29 April 2013):

Tisha-1 agony auntAbsolutely you did the right thing. He's kept you hanging long enough, you were brave to end it, and you'll feel so much better about this after you get over the initial shock at the end of the contact with him. It's a little period of mourning and then, look out, world, she knows what she wants and she's not afraid to do the necessary things. Pat on the back.

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A female reader, Daisy_Daisy United Kingdom +, writes (29 April 2013):

Daisy_Daisy agony auntYes you did the right thing. You were his fallback girl, unfortunately. Continue with the no contact. If he really loves you, he will move hell and high water to be with you, but he isn't doing - sorry if that sounds harsh but better for you to see him and the situation for what it really is. You haven't made a mistake in ending it. Take care

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A female reader, Ciar Canada + , writes (29 April 2013):

Ciar agony auntYou did the right thing. It will hurt for a while, you understandably miss him, but that will get easier with time.

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (29 April 2013):

eyeswideopen agony auntYou absolutely did the right thing. Time is precious and it should never be wasted. Keep on with the no contact, you'll feel better soon. Just keep telling yourself that if he really loved you as much as he claims, he would have done that break up quick fast and in a hurry.

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