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writes:I feel like a mental case, I was in love and engaged to be married, i kept leaving cause i was unhappy, but now that it is all over after 4 yrs and it ended about 7 months ago...im finding it hard to get with any other guy.im okay when there is no pressure and we are just hanging out, but when it comes to like an alone one on one i kinda have a mental freak, almost like im pushing them away. i find that i want to be alone, but i also want someone that i wont push away. i have a great guy but i find myself wanting to look for more options and not become tied down....what is wrong with me!!!??
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reader, Oregongrl1 +, writes (21 September 2010):
Before you worry about jumping into another relationship! you need to heal yourself, maybe thats why you ended up in the wrong one before. why don't you enjoy you and get to know who you are! and believe me your eyes will be wide open for when the next man comes along. you don't need a man to make you whole do you? when we are not secured with who we are we make the wrong choices so what iam saying to you enjoy your freedom and relax he'll be along and this time he will be the right one because you are stable in your life and know who you are!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2010): You might need time to get over such a major relationship which wasn't right. And it does sound like you want to be free to experience life, which is great! I was like that for many years until I met another free spirit and we could be free together, if that makes sense. I don't want to push him away because he feels right and I don't feel tied down at all. There's nothing wrong with pushing men away who don't feel right for you. Just take things as they come and enjoy life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm the one who posted this. I can't figure out why i do this, i want someone but i finally have enjoyed the freedom
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reader, j.c.d.l  +, writes (9 September 2010):
I have the same problem. Always looking just in case their is something better out there, and not wanting to be tied down no matter how in love you are. It's human nature for some, and a bit of an air sign trait. You've just got to be brave and when your alone with a guy explain that you need time to feel comfortable. Your a free spirit and don't wnat to be tied down yet. I think if it's the right time you'll forget all that. There's nothing wrong with doing your own thing and being free and single, just because society says you should settle down with a man. Follow your heart, just don't be scared to jump in with someone if you fancy it.
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reader, Oregongrl1 +, writes (9 September 2010):
Either something happened in your past! or you just do not want or not ready to be tied down and there is nothing wrong w/ that. maybe some counseling will help you to find out why?
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