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writes:I have a crush on a friend. He is not a best friend, more of an acquaintance. He is straight and has a girlfriend, so I try to suppress these feelings. I am writing this because I used to have vivid dreams where we fool around. There are some dreams where I receive (you know) from him. After a few months the dreams have stopped and my crush on him seems to be leaving (probably because I have been hanging out with new friends from work). Anyways, I hung out with him last night and when I went to sleep I had a dream where I gave it to him and he wanted to receive it. I am not sure what this means. In the dream I was surprised because he wanted it and I felt like I was in control. So does this mean that I have more control and that the crush is finally over? I really just want to get over him completely. I really don't know how I feel anymore. I am really confused. I don't think much of dreams but I used to dream about him all the time, more than anyone else. There has to be some interpretation for all of this.By the way, I am bi but no one knows it just in case that information helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2015): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your answers. I think I'm reading too much into my dreams.
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reader, autumnsand  +, writes (27 August 2015):
 We tend to dream about things and people which are on our minds a lot. It sounds like this guy is on your mind quite a bit, hence the regular dreams involving him. I do think our dreams can reflect how we feel about things.But at the same time, I don't believe that dreams are to be taken as signs, or as providing guidance. I see them more as a sort of mirror to what is going on inside of us.I personally would try to give your dreams less significance, and stop trying to figure out what they may mean. I understand they can be troubling at times, but I think it might help to put less weight onto them and why you are having them.Instead, I think you should focus on taking control of things, which it sounds like you already have been. You have been hanging out with different people, which will certainly help to take your mind off him. I think it will help to try and reduce how much contact you have with him, as although you want to get over him, I think that will be really difficult when you hang out with him. It will also make you more likely to dream about him.I think you dreamed about him because you spent time with him, but I don't think it means anything more than that. Only you can know if the crush is over, no dream can do that, and I don't think you should let your dreams dictate to you how you feel. If you are unsure whether you are over him or not, then I think it is likely that you are not. As difficult as it may be, I think space away from him is the only way to hope to end this crush, as contact will tend to bring feelings back.I hope this helps. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2015): your friend is probably oblivious to your sexual feelings and as you know he is straight and has a girlfriend,i suggest it would be best that you dont confide your dreams or feelings as it will ruin the friendship for ever.Dreams are sometimes sent to help us to sort out our feelings. In your case, you know that you have a crush on this person and you would very much like to be uncrushed,back on the tree of life with feelings only for someone who has the same feelings as you, so nature has kindly sent you some fulfilment by giving you a dream of what it is you think you want or need.Now the dream is over it is possible that you will be able to move on,keeping your dream and feelngs largely to yourself.If you ever had a twin brother he would be the one who sent you the message from the heavens that you will not be a crushed orange forever but will be able to move forwards to new dreams and maybe realities.
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