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22-25,
anonymous
writes:Hey everyone! So I'm 21, ive been with my boyfriend a good 3 and a half years now and love him a lot. I think he is planning to propose me and until now I have wanted it so bad-only when i found out that he wS actually planning it I paniced!! Throughout our relationship I have had numerous crushes on other men, everywhere I go (Jobs, classes, My current flat at uni) I develop strong feelings for someone else and then feel dissatisfied with my man. Yet when Im not having these crushes I am happy with my man. I have to admit the spark has gone. I never want to cuddle him or have sex with him-Sometimes we feel more like friends then a couple as we see each other alot but sit and watch films and have a laugh all the time. I feel awful for these feelings. If it helps, Other ealtionships i have been in I have easily had other crushes too. I never seem happy. I also still love my ex-myy first love, who hurt me deeply. I dont know if these two things are related. I just want to be happy with a man and not hurt him. Ps: I have never been single...
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reader, zelgamer  +, writes (8 December 2008):
 I recommend you try to get that spark back by going out again and such, if that doesn't work break up with him and enjoy single life, besides this I agree with teacake except for the 25 age thing. You will know when it feels right.
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reader, Teacake +, writes (8 December 2008):
 All I can say about this is this is normal for a young girl. Just don't even think about marriage until you are about 25. You might have to end things slowly with the current fellow. Become less and less available?
Try just dating whoever and not get into a serious relationship with anyone for a few years if you can. Also, let these guys know that you are too young to be serious with anyone other than enjoying dating and whatever. The older you get, the more you know what sort of man you want and when you REALLY love a man, it is probably going to stick with you. I hope that helped a little.
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