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writes:i been in a relationship with my girlfriend for about 5-6 years and i love her very much and i just founded out that she doesn't like it when i touch or caressed or fondle her breast when we were being intimate or playful she say it makes her feel uncomfortable and i dont know how to handle this should i stay with her because i love her so much or what ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2019): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioneverything is going well so to speak of like we kiss and cuddle from time to time and sometime my hands do wander on to her breast slightly and i dont think she notice but if she does i think she does enjoy it and knowing how long we been together for we have not ever had sex yet for right now we just kiss and cuddle and play a around a bit and from time to time i do put my arms around her and put my hands on her stomach and tickle her a bit and she giggles and overall we have a pretty good relationship
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2019): I mentioned in a response ton another post about how people won't be honest and forthcoming with their partners and spouses. They don't seem to have any trouble when it comes to being mean, argumentative, or critical; but choke or become tongue-tied when it comes to matters concerning sex, intimacy, their needs, and things that make them uncomfortable.
I'm shocked as are many others responding to this post. She waited six years to tell you this? I'm also inclined to believe she has something else bothering her; but this is something covering an even deeper issue she has that she won't open-up about. Don't take offense, just reprogram your repertoire of sexy moves. Work your way around it. They're her boobs, and they're attached; so she knows what she feels and what she doesn't find pleasurable.
You'll survive such a minor issue. Some people have odd quirks compared to the norm, but it is what it is. If she doesn't like it, don't do it. If she doesn't like it, why do it?
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reader, MSA +, writes (11 February 2019):
 I laughed when I read your post.. are you seriously thinking of breaking up with her because she does not like her breasts touched during sex? Silliest question I've ever read!!No... No... and No!!! If she doesn't like you touching her breasts, Don't touch her breasts! Kiss it, lick it.. do something else to it if you really like breasts.There are also many other parts of her beautiful body that is worth exploring.. ask her what she likes.. or explore for yourself. Just keep your hands off her breasts!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (11 February 2019):
 ... Im a bit speachless here. You serious think about breaking up with her because she doesnt want you to touch her breasts during sex?
How to handle it? Eh, I think its simple, you just stop touch her boobs during sex.
Is there a particular need to grab at her boobs, though? I am sure they are tempting, but isn't there any more substanse to your relationship other than in her boobs?
Sure, if her boobs were the only reason you entered a relationship with her, and its a matter of principle for you to grab boobs during sex (and looking isnt enough), then sure. End it. You know yourself the best and if this is a deal breaker for you then it is a deal breaker for you. Thats up to you to decide.
But seriously, all other people besides you would just not touch her boobs and be fine with it.
Me, for example, I love biting butts. But I have yet to come across a man (or woman) who likes it and allows me to do it. So what do I do? I just don't bite them in the butt. There are other means of enjoyment to be found. No need to make this a matter of principle. Grabbing boobs isnt a human right.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  + ♥, writes (11 February 2019):
 Sad that it has taken this long for her to mention this. Surely the time to mention it would have been when your started sharing a sex life. I do, however, understand that people can find it awkward to voice their preferences in bed, especially their dislikes.
Is this a deal breaker for you? Do you NEED to play with her boobs while you are having sex?
Have you actually discussed this with her and asked if, perhaps, you are being too rough? Perhaps she would be ok with you touching here there if you were more gentle? I ask because I have had partners in the past who think they can handle boobs as roughly as they like and women will like it. Wake up call, gents: very few ladies like to have their boobs handled roughly. This is real life, not porn. Or is it perhaps that she has breastfed children and views her boobs as being for that purpose? Or perhaps, at her age, she is starting to go through the menopause and her boobs are more sensitive than they used to be? Or perhaps you do the same thing with them every time and she is bored? (I went out with a guy who used to "tune in" my nipples during sex. Did absolutely NOTHING for me and bored me rigid after a while.)
What I am saying is that you two need to TALK. Perhaps work on what she DOES like, rather than what she doesn't. If she simply does not like her boobs being played with, then find areas of her body she DOES like being touched. You are an adult; you will soon learn to adapt.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (10 February 2019):
 You can't think of OTHER things to do than fondle her boobs?
A woman has PLENTY of erogenous zones or areas... How about you find some that SHE also enjoys being stimulated?
Let's say she likes to, I don't know... smack your penis hard. And you didn't like it. Would you think she should DUMP you because you don't like it? OR find other ways to stimulate you both?
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