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I just found out my boyfriend has been having a sexual relationship with another man!

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Question - (27 February 2007) 2 Answers - (Newest, 28 February 2007)
A female United Kingdom age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I am 26 with a young child, i have just found out my boyfriend of 8 months has had a sexual relationship with a much older man for the last 5 years (including the 6 of months with me). at the start of our relationship i did not see much of him as he spent more time with this guy, and did not take me out much or even introduce me to his family. i have just found out about this relationship with this man (who is gay and my boyfriend always said that they were just firends). When i found out he admitted to the sexual relationship but says that they split up a two months ago. but i know they still spend some time together. I really love him, but do i trust him should i stay with him?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2007):

RUN LIKE HELL!

Get him out of your life, do you need this deceit and misery. No you deserve better.

Take care

xx

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2007):

After a protracted and calculated deception like this, how could you ever trust him again? This isn't just an isolated slip-up like getting drunk and hitting on your younger sister, this is an entire 5-month-long web of deceit. How can you even be sure they actually broke up? Why were you dating him if he didn't actually spend that much time with you? Get rid of him, you and your child will definitely be better off. Try and imagine if you would tell a friend who just wrote you this same message if they should stay with him. Based on the details you've given here, this guy isn't worth it.

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