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female
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:I feel lost without my best friend. We are closer than family.My mood gradually declines when we aren't together just chilling out. We are in the same class 8 hours a week (over 2 days) but we don't really get to just hang out, so it doesn't really feel like time together. I have hobbies, but I always miss my best friend. My best friend is more of a party person, so I don't think I'm missed as much (which is sad for me, but I know it's not unfair or anything).All of my other friends have backstabbed me, so I don't have much hope there.All of my good friends, my best friend included, live quite far away from me, but it's worse because we have to rely on public transport and the costs add up and can be really quite expensive.My best friend currently lives at their uncle's house so I can't go over there and it's easier and cheaper if my best friend comes round to mine but my parents get fed up of it sometimes.We can't afford to keep going out though and as for phone calls and texts, my best friend won't have any credit until November and I end up using most of mine just to call them (we're rarely on facebook and nobody uses email or msn).I end up paying for everything with my best friend - food, drinks, transport fees - but my job is a "call when needed" job, so it's not a constant source of any money and I can't get a new one for a while.I just feel like I don't get to see my best friend enough and it feels like everything is against us.I really don't know what to do and it upsets me. I know I probably rely on this friendship too much, but it really is all I have and I can't afford to join any more clubs :( :(
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reader, Anastasia  +, writes (9 June 2012):
 Hi,
Okay...you are too dependent on this friendship firstly.It is actually unhealthy they way I understand your letter.
You are a pretty young person and to be honest, there is no real need to find other friends in a club or a party. There are many other places that that don't require money to meet friends.
Your last friends, betrayed you...but this isn't the last time that this is going to happen....it's going to happen again and again.
My advice to you is try to go out and meet new people. Still keep this person as a friend but it's obvious that they are not brooding over not seeing you. Try not to waste your time on people who don't share your perception of loyalty.
You're young....go out..meet new people..live your life and stop worrying about things you can't change.
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