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writes:Okay, to start off with, I am a bisexual female....I have been with my husband for 10 years...I am 27 and he is 29...We have a wonderful relationship but since I have gotten with this girl and let him join in, he can only get hard and stay hard whenever he is having sex with her. But, when she is not having sex with him we can do just fine...I am confused, I know he loves me and I am attractive, so what can the problem be and what should we do...and please don't say not to have her join becuase it has never been a problem before...just the last couple of times Reply to this Question
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reader, Petra at home  +, writes (26 January 2010):
My situation is similar to yours, 28 year old female in a marriage that includes others. Don't let the small minded here try to make you feel guilty about your orientation or arrangement. Clearly you and your husband love each other tremendously to give one another the gift of sexual variety. In addition to having a mate, sexual variety is something we all desire.
Men often have perfomance problems in situations that are overly exciting, stressful, etc. You have shown great maturity so far in your love life. Don't put any pressure on him. If he can only do it with her when the three of you are together, so be it. Take your love for him one little step further and try to help the man you love get back to top performance level. Enjoy the journey, and thanks for sharing.
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reader, Evol Angel +, writes (26 January 2010):
 its like when you have to have a cup of coffee everyday. your body gets used to the added amount of caffeine or added stimulation. your husband has just very quickly gotten used to the added stimulation in bed. if you have patience with him if you decide that you only want it to be you and him from now on than he will cum back with you.(literally) this is so with men that have self servicing addictions. they have problems getting off when it comes to the real thing. some variety just between the two of you and some patience and he will definitely cum around to you and the stimulation that you can give him.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (26 January 2010):
 Maybe he is a one woman man.
Maybe he subconsciously worries about not being able to perform with her in front of you, in case it makes you look like a loser with a husband that cant get it up.
Maybe you need to forget about the threesomes, and let him have twice as many twosomes, some with you and some with her.
Maybe your whole threesome situation is not something he is comfortable with?
What the hell, didnt your marriage vows say anything about forsaking all others .....
Have you asked him why he cant get it up for you when she is in the bed and yet he can get it up for her when you are in the bed, and he can also get it up for you when she isnt in the bed?
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