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I hurt him to avoid missing him! What am I doing!!

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Question - (3 November 2006) 5 Answers - (Newest, 1 March 2007)
A female , anonymous writes:

My Boyfriend of almost 3years is in the army, he has been there for about 6months now. the reason im asking for advice is because when he is away and i really miss him i'll start an arguement over nothing. i find that if we are argueing i dont miss him as much and i dont want to be with him as much. this makes the aching pain i have go away but i know it is not good for our relationship. i hear in his voice the hurt im causing him and i want to stop but i miss him so much. please help me!!!!!!!

many thanks xXx

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A reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2007):

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he has never gone on a tour yet, he is still in training. But from what i have heard the amount of contact will vary from location to location. i recommend a site called ivillage, it has a message board called families in the forces and everyone on there is fantastic.

hth

xXx

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A reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2007):

how do u contacted ur army partner when he is away for long times like 6mths and that in iraq

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A female reader, poppygirl United Kingdom +, writes (3 November 2006):

i know how bad it gets my boyfriend is away with the army now and he has been in it 6 years already,so i know he will never leave on his terms. i hate him going away its the worst feeling every the way i get through it, is try and not be alone, cause its even harder, try going out and doing thing to keep ur mind occupied at all times, trust me its the only way. xx

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A female reader, loquit21 +, writes (3 November 2006):

I cant tell you why you do this...but I CAN tell you that I can understand it. I've been in a long distance relationship before and it can be very trying. It is sometimes easier to fight and pretend that you dont care about him than to miss someone that you know you wont see for a while. My advice to you is to tell him what you are doing and why you are doing it. IT may not stop, and you may still have big fights....but at least he will understand that it is your way of dealing with the pain of missing him. And while he may be mad at your words....he will understand your motives. And the two of you may even be able to reach a resolution. If you dont want to lose him and dont want him to get hurt....your only option is to be honest.

Let me know how it turns out

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A reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2006):

Stop arguing, and tell him how you are feeling so that he can help you and you can feel closer.

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