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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:This is a very fresh prob, it literally happened today. Basically I broke up with my ex about a month ago and we agreed to stay friends although we hardly talk. It ended kinda abruptly and I think there are still feelings on both sides but we are too scared to say something but anyway that's not even the issue. Basically he owes me money for some time and I sent a couple of texts to him asking for it back. I got no answer and thought he was avoiding me so I got into a rant about him taking advantage etc (which is part of why we broke up) and basically cussed him out. But it turns out I text the number he never uses and when I finally text the right one he was being really friendly and turned out he hadn't seen my insults. I regretted it not because I didn't mean what I said but because that's not how I would have wanted it to happen and we've done the whole breakup thing so there isn't a need for me to actually say it. I've apologised even though he doesn't know what I said and I really regret it, but I think I was so harsh because I still like him. What do I do now and what will I Say if he sees it? Should I come clean or wait for him to confront me? I still want him as a friend or for us to at least be civil cos we ended on good terms and now I've ruined it.
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reader, Jmtmj +, writes (4 December 2010):
 You've pre-apologized to him, I'm sure he'd understand you were just upset. Just forget it aye.
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reader, Dorothy Dix +, writes (4 December 2010):
Hi there. If you are broken up, why do you still wish to stay in contact?
And for that matter, if you still want to stay friends, why not get back together?
Surely it's either on or it's off - no halfway measures.
Are you hoping to get back together in future?
Regards your messages to him that were a bit angry, don't bother saying anything about it. Only unless he does find it and says something to you. There's no point otherwise.
Even if he does see them, he might say nothing to you anyway. Then you would never know.
You can't retrieve them, they're gone. If he sees them, he sees them; if he doesn't see them, he doesn't. It's completely out of your control now.
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